Couple having sex in front of window

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My children’s bedrooms looks out toward a house in the distance that has a bedroom in which looks like a converted loft. They have big floor to ceiling windows and NO curtains.
We were told by my neighbour once that he saw the occupiers there having sex in full view in front of the window - this was during an afternoon.
My husband also witnessed their act just last night when settling the kids to bed. It’s not hard to miss because their light is on and they’re BIG windows. My husband said he saw a lot of detail.
Not to sound prude but I’m really concerned about my children one day seeing them doing it. I have both sons and a daughter and don’t really want to expose them to sex in this way.

I’ve been told I don’t really have much right to complain because it’s within their own home but I am thinking of writing a letter to politely ask if they would be able to get some blinds or curtains installed.
If they ignore it, is there anything else I could do?
What would you do?

There is a duty on the shaggers to be discreet and an equal duty on the observer not to try too hard to get a view. Bad shagging is considered indecent exposure and bad observing is considered voyeurism. Both are criminal offences. It would be up to a magistrate/judge/jury to decide on what happened, what motivation there was on the part of both watcher and watchees and who was culpable.

Put some security cameras up (even if fake). Obviously you can’t film their property, but it may stop them. It would be incredibly ballsy them to ask if you are videoing them having sex!!

Quite.

I don't think the shaggers want any privacy. I'm pretty sure if you're making the beast with two backs in full view of the street, your expectation of privacy would be nil.

Totally agree. They sound like a vile pair of exhibitionists. Grim. I wouldn’t want my children seeing this either.

Posters are being deliberately disingenuous to try to appear "cool". It's a very weird aspect of this forum.

I've noted that myself in the past. Weird for a forum where the vast majority of posters are, or claim to be, parents.

I'm not a mother and think it's absolutely rank to be shagging in full view of adult neighbours, far less young kids.

Plus, anyone who objects to it invariably gets framed as some kind of sexual deviant who has deliberately gone out of their way to watch. There's nowt as strange as folks.

Op, my DH is a Police Controller - he decides which calls to send Officers to - and he said he absolutely would be sending Officers to this, and it IS a crime. He's been a Police Officer for 20 years too, so he knows his stuff.

To all those that seem to think it’s perfectly fine to have sex in front of a window.

This man has been charged this month, with indecent exposure, for engaging in sexual activity at a window.

https://www.falkirkherald.co.uk/news/crime/man-in-court-over-alleged-indecent-exposure-in-falkirk-5284693

Honestly! As if it’s bloody normal to behave that way.

OP report them to the police .

The responses to this have me baffled, I am absolutely not a prude and I often find the I can hear my neighbours shagging posts funny but this is different. If a man was standing at a window naked and having a w*nk everyone would be up in arms and calling the police.
Dont write a letter, inform the police they have no proof but they will likely pay them a visit anyway.

Yup, that's the issue here: what it does to the house prices...

They know they can be seen. It only takes a second of looking to know you can see all the detail.
I would contact the police as they know children are watching them

Exactly. How is this even feasible? Yes, the OP can put privacy stuff on the children’s window but how does that help at other windows the children may look out of or when they go outside. It’s exhibitionism or the neighbours are unaware ((unlikely) so, if so, need to be made aware.

🤣🤣🤣

Are you implying her DH is a perve rather than worrying about his children? It is not prudish to not want them to see a live sex show, which is indecent exposure.

Don’t agree with some of the replies on here -they’re disgusting exhibitionists to do that. Lots of people would march round and have it out with them if their children were in eyeline of that behaviour.
Report, write a letter, go round and confront but I wouldn’t MYOB as lots of people have advised. It’s weird and anti-social.

It’s one of 2 things. Either they have no idea people can see them or they do and they are getting off on the fact. I’d drop a letter round saying just FYI we can see you having sex. If they didn’t realise it will then stop, if they do realise and like this they will keep doing it. If you see them doing it again after you’ve told them, I’d report it to the police then as you have clear evidence of exhibitionism and they can’t claim they didn’t know people can see them.

Tbf, we don't know if they're disgusting exhibitionist or not, because OP isn't telling us how far away the house is. I would imagine if it was a mile away, they probably have a reasonable expectation of privacy. If it's just at the bottom of the garden, then not so much

The phrase 'a distance away' means different things to different people, dependent on context.

If you can see the detail that clearly video them and post it on all social media you can think off 😂(Although you might make their day!)

Yeah, don't do this

This surely is a police matter but the police don't do anything about organised shoplifting so I doubt you would get much from them.
It is appalling, then again you could open an only fans account, live stream it and make some money🤷🏻‍♀️

A mile away?

I was joking hence the emoji

Do not do this revenge porn