Couple having sex in front of window

[doremifaso]

My children’s bedrooms looks out toward a house in the distance that has a bedroom in which looks like a converted loft. They have big floor to ceiling windows and NO curtains.
We were told by my neighbour once that he saw the occupiers there having sex in full view in front of the window - this was during an afternoon.
My husband also witnessed their act just last night when settling the kids to bed. It’s not hard to miss because their light is on and they’re BIG windows. My husband said he saw a lot of detail.
Not to sound prude but I’m really concerned about my children one day seeing them doing it. I have both sons and a daughter and don’t really want to expose them to sex in this way.

I’ve been told I don’t really have much right to complain because it’s within their own home but I am thinking of writing a letter to politely ask if they would be able to get some blinds or curtains installed.
If they ignore it, is there anything else I could do?
What would you do?

My guess is they might enjoy the fact that other adults can see them but not have considered that children could be watching too.
Hopefully they'd feel sick at the thought if it's pointed out to them.

This woman sounds like the same kind of attention seeking prat who likes to shag in front of an open window for all to see. Pathetic. Anyone who supports this kind of needy, attention seeking, childish behaviour, needs to give their head a wobble.

Yeah, I'm pretty open minded about quite a lot of things, and not a prude, but I wouldn't want my young dc to see that. It's fairly obvious they know they can be seen and will be getting a kick out of it. I think I'd be letting them know I don't want my dc to see their sex show, thanks.

Blooming Nora - Props to the bloke with a massive penis that can be spotted from [nearly] a mile away.

There are certainly a small number on this thread.

You say it's been resolved so I hope you're right. My hall of residence at university faced a set of private flats. There was a man who kept exposing himself to the female students and we were told that we should report it to the police if we saw it as this is indecent exposure and is a crime. I cannot see how having visibly and obviously having sex is not also the crime of indecent exposure (or worse). They're absolutely breaking the law and posters saying to mind your own business are either fools or criminally minded themselves.

Sorry op, just seen your update. How was it resolved?

Glad you’ve sorted it. Surprising isn’t it on mumsnet, how many people think it’s acceptable and those that make fucking stupid benny hill type jokes.

Speaks volumes about those posters doesn't it?

Can you block the view by strategically planting something tall in your garden? I don't think there's anything wrong with posting a note in this situation, given you don't know these people and it's a pretty sensitive subject.

Yep. Makes you wonder about this place.

I would report this as a non-urgent report to the police. They won't do this again if they are spoken to and are aware that they are at risk of being prosecuted.

The OP says it's now resolved, but hasn't said how yet. @doremifaso what happened? Did you talk to them?

I have a similar situation, but in the opposite apartment building.
My child already saw them at it.
I didnt quite understand what she was trying to tell me and then I saw it happening myself.
This time my child was with the back to their window on her tablet, so I stood there waving at them until they saw me (i did not enjoy this at all, felt very uncomfortable). But they finally looked my way and I pointed at my child and made "are you mad" faces at them.
They ran to their bedroom (presumably) and it did not happen again yet.
If it would I already decided to put a letter in EVERY mailbox of the building, describing them extensively and ask them to stop having sex in front of my child. To hopefully shame them into stopping.
It is illegal though. I know that for sure. Imagine walking down your street and there would be people having sex at the window in their living room. Ofcourse not.

I would speak to them directly and point out that your children's bedrooms overlook thier property, if they are decent people they will be horrified. Should they do it again I would follow this with a letter adding despite our conversation on such and such a date etc etc. and keep a copy so that they can't argue it was a one off; then if they still continued to do it I would get the police involved and report them for indecent exposure, and yes this is illegal.

This 100% !

🙄

Give them anonymous marks out 10 posted through the letterbox for their performance, along the lines of:
"6/10 for yesterday evening's sexual antics... we felt that he could try to ensure that she climaxes first, and she should be aware that he's likely to get cramp if he he has to maintain that position for too long"

I really hope the OP cancels the cheque.

It always surprises me how MN attracts the sort of people who want to normalise this kind of behaviour

Care to enlighten me with your pass agg emoticon? Use your words, as they say to children.

Glad it's been resolved, OP. This has been a completely batshit thread even by AIBU standards. So many incredibly hilarious and wildly original and clever comments about binoculars. Wow, so damn funny. You must all so be proud of yourselves, cackling away about how brilliant you are. 🙄

Of all the insanely stupid posts in this thread, the one that said the OP and her DH should give their kids binoculars so they can be 'educated' about adults having sex was definitely the worst. Get a fucking grip.

, exhibitionism, also known as indecent exposure, is against the law in the UK and many other countries. In the UK, the act of intentionally exposing one's genitals in public to cause alarm or distress to others is a criminal offense. Convictions for indecent exposure can result in penalties such as fines, community service, or even a prison sentence, and may require the offender to register on the sex offender registe

Manybyears ago we had the same issue

Police said they could do nothing as they man said he had no idea he could.be seen

Policewoman a week later told him he had been told, she would be happy to embarrass him with an arrest for lewd conduct, exhibitionism and anything else she could think of if he did it

Next door neighbour wanted to take a photograph as proof, was quickly told to do no such thing.

I felt sorry for the multiple women involved as they maybhave had no idea. He absolutely did, he even waved when getting a blow job

After a couple of years his flat was raided by police. He had waved at the top deck of a bus... the teacher in charge of the kids on the bus told the driver to stop while she called the police. His charges then included something about causing a child to watch

As far as I know he got 2 years suspended

And he moved.

It's exhibitionism and too many men think it's funny

Since you need things spelling out, like a toddler does, here you go…

Why shouldn’t posters laugh at a sex story from an anonymous person about two other anonymous people, with details so vague that nobody can have any idea at all whether there’s any genuine issue in the first place and in which no harm has come to any person (if the story’s even true in the first place)?

Are you seriously saying that people shouldn’t find humour in this subject? Seriously?