Currently in Turkey, met a guy…

[theoneortwo]

And I know they say ‘people come along when you least expect it’ but I never ever thought this would happen to me.

im 29, British, recently I came out of a long term relationship and I am currently on holiday with my family.

I’ve met a lovely Turkish man whilst here. Completely unexpectedly, he was working on one of the tours we went on 4 days ago.

I know it sounds silly and cliche, but as soon as I saw him it’s like I just knew I needed to get to know him. We didn’t speak much on the trip itself since he was obviously busy working - but after when he was showing us the photos he’d taken, we swapped numbers and have been chatting ever since.

He has asked to take me for dinner tomorrow evening (locally in the resort town we are staying in) my mum is saying go for it, but my dad seems to have reservations and is telling me not to be so stupid and naive..

This man hasn’t shown me any red flags or given me reason to distrust him.

Im kind of in the mindset that I’m here on holiday, it’s probably not going to progress.. so let’s see what happens?

has anybody else ever been in this situation, meeting a guy abroad / getting to know somebody from a different country?

I know there are huge complex loopholes and issues IF we did get to know each other more and develop a relationship - due to distance etc.

would love to know thoughts please, as I’m really in two minds.

Thank you ☺️

If you know where you are going keep safe that way by your parents knowing as we would here if we were going on a date we would let our friends or somebody know where we are to be safe.
Otherwise enjoy going out for dinner ignore the cynics.

I wouldn’t. The whole thing will be like having a stone in your shoe after about 2 days

It’s not about that. She mentioned deeper/long term stuff then that if you bothered to read the post properly. 🙄

They always do that.

Make sure he has condoms and uses them.

Charming.

I would say enjoy your experience and his company just on your holiday, no reason not to - but honestly, be wary, and nothing more.

Yes, they are all so handsome and charming they blow you away with their looks, their personalities…..
I know and have met hundreds of Turkish men, have Turkish friends of all ages, ranging from young to old, many of them are so lovely, many outright ask to befriend me on Facebook…

(It’s so funny, except I haven’t mentioned yet that I’m actually pushing 70…) 😁🤣

I know a number of English women who have married Turkish men, some who have sold their UK homes and used savings - to fund a Turkish family and then find themselves discarded. The Turkish husbands I know haven’t been permitted visas to leave or to visit their wives when in UK.

Some English ladies are dumped but only after liquidating their UK homes and savings to fund a boyfriends business in Turkey (so he can support his children and Turkish wife on the proceeds)

Have fun, enjoy your holiday and good company - while you are there.

I’ve been to Turkey several times. I’ve seen British women get off with a Turk. It never ends well. They want to marry you and live in England.

Oh dear.

Holiday romances can be fun.

It's nice to go out to dinner, flirt and enjoy the company of someone you find attractive, walk on the beach in the moonlight etc. So as far as that goes, why not?

But bear in mind he may very well do it a lot with lots of tourists, and may or may not have a "proper" partner there as well.

Don't get attached, don't over think it.
Assume he does do it a lot, so if you did end up in bed, make sure you have condoms and make sure he's using them. And that you're both relatively sober if you do.

Have a lovely week, enjoy the memories, then come home and get on with normal life.
It's unlikely to last longer than the holiday, and even if by some fluke it did, you've got tons of time to figure that out later.

What are you interested in? I agree with PP that you sound confused.

All of these Turkish men are like this

Only read OP's posts.

Go for it. You'll hopefully have a relaxed , fun meal getting to know someone new.
You sound sensible and capable of extracting yourself from the dinner if it doesn't go well. The time to be wary is if it goes really well and you start to lose your head a bit.
Your parents will be up the road and easily contactable.

Don't be so silly he doesn't look at u that way!!. He's just gonna use u and ur going to be heartbroken 💔 again 💔. Sos but that's iss the truth of this matter!!. Dad is right!!. After ur holiday block his number and delete him from ur life take u time do what u want but not with this guy.. I know a woman has split from her hubby she's petrified that he will take the kids and off he goes to Algeria no chance after that as he has his rights under his religion.

So are the posters calling the OP immature and daft.

equally as 'charming.'

He could be buttering you up to sleep with you, get you pregnant & come over to the UK. It's a cliche, once he's here and got his passport, he'll dump you. A similar situation happened to a friend of mine when she went on holiday to Egypt. It didn't end well, the guy turned out to be a sexist, controlling prick. Block his number and on all socials and avoid him like the plague.

British women are known by these men as easy so he'll be looking for more than just dinner. One way to find out what kind of guy he is is to ask him if he'd like it if his sister was in the same position as you. I bet you he wouldn't like it if a guy approached his female relative which shows he sees you as lesser than his female relative.

you’re naive for a nearly 30 year old adult. You’re not a teen or even a young adult! Do you not get that he is doing his best to flatter you and your parents? His at the honeymoon stage. Yes It comes in stages and when his made you his he will show you the final stage which is his true colors. His likely to be Muslim so if you married him he’s expect you to convert, demand you wear hijab and stay indoors a lot. If you have kids they will be raised in his falth.

listen to your dad and others on here 👍👍👍

That's exactly what I thought, too.

Complete with a "Me Now" picture of the OP looking sad outside her house.

I know. I dint get how OP does not know this. She’s nearly 30 so not like she’s a youngster 🙄

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You are reading into this too much OP.
You will be going home in a few days

the fact you are thinking about the future with a man you have not even been on a date with - considering long-term complications between countries etc - suggests you are not ready after your last relationship to make any rash decisions.

Not all Kurdish are Muslim by the way......

I had an Asian guy fall in love with me on a train once. And another propose marriage to me 10 minutes into his taxi ride to the hotel. It's amazing how fast you can fall in love with a stranger when there's the possibility of British citizenship.

On the flip side, my sister-in-law floated marriage to my brother 2 weeks after he met her on a Sri Lanken work trip. He said yes! They've been married for 7 years and seem pretty happy, have a kid etc. So who knows!! Just take great care, and don't lose your head, that's all.

Can there not be a middle ground? I'd be cautious and appreciate that commenters are concerned for OP (though some of you are being patronising and frankly, a little rude), but she's probably not going to end up in Take A Break magazine.

Don't do it op!