Currently in Turkey, met a guy…

[theoneortwo]

And I know they say ‘people come along when you least expect it’ but I never ever thought this would happen to me.

im 29, British, recently I came out of a long term relationship and I am currently on holiday with my family.

I’ve met a lovely Turkish man whilst here. Completely unexpectedly, he was working on one of the tours we went on 4 days ago.

I know it sounds silly and cliche, but as soon as I saw him it’s like I just knew I needed to get to know him. We didn’t speak much on the trip itself since he was obviously busy working - but after when he was showing us the photos he’d taken, we swapped numbers and have been chatting ever since.

He has asked to take me for dinner tomorrow evening (locally in the resort town we are staying in) my mum is saying go for it, but my dad seems to have reservations and is telling me not to be so stupid and naive..

This man hasn’t shown me any red flags or given me reason to distrust him.

Im kind of in the mindset that I’m here on holiday, it’s probably not going to progress.. so let’s see what happens?

has anybody else ever been in this situation, meeting a guy abroad / getting to know somebody from a different country?

I know there are huge complex loopholes and issues IF we did get to know each other more and develop a relationship - due to distance etc.

would love to know thoughts please, as I’m really in two minds.

Thank you ☺️

You've been together 3 years. Thats hardly a long successful marriage is it?

I've dated people in the past for longer than 3 years who turned out to be complete idiots. I dont think 3 years is a particularly good bench mark of "it all working out"

Oh okay.

So this was just a game.

Well done on playing it.

You must be very bored.

You’re 29 and still on here asking for validation and permission from a group of strangers who by the looks of one are all telling you no. The last thing I’d be doing abroad is going out for dinner with a stranger man. Take note

Turkey is NOT in the EU. Oh lord this ignorance is staggering. You do have means to access the internet, you should have googled that before posting

No, obviously not.

I'm curious about how it works with your husband's work - are his employers (whichever country they are in ?) OK with him being away in another country for half the year ? Is his work 100% wfh or what ? Or does he have to fly back and forth for work purposes ?

Pointless you saying it then wasn’t it.

Turkey isn’t in the EU

Turkey isn’t in the EU. That said it’s true that the UK passport only ranks about 30th in the world now, post Brexit.

Unfortunately not true 😔

Yes, I know a man in similar circumstances, he's got to do military service.

Yes, happy to do a AMA as others have requested

🙄

Watch Shirley Valentine. This is a pattern with men in holiday places.

He'll have polished his routine with a succession of women ready for romance with a built in end date when they go home.

You're next. Go in knowing that, if you decide to go.

Because as soon as you go home there'll be another fresh off the plane. Next.

Don't give him presents, money or your home address.

@theoneortwo I've reported this thread. If it is true and your first post was 'backdated' 3 years ago, you've just had fun winding everyone up.

Or none of it is true.

OP how do you both manage with visas and work if you are indeed splitting your time between two countries?

Racism at its finest.

So you’re saying the bar for me and my friends was set low because we fell in love with foreign men?

Disgusting.

Oh actually more like 40th.

Before posting, read ALL by the OP.

She's wound everyone up by starting her post as her life was 3 years ago and now says (in real time) they are married with a child.

Well, he also managed to do a degree and get a job with an accountancy firm in that time.

Ive never been in a Casino before, but thought about putting all my savings on red 7 on the roulette wheel. Some people advised go for it but be prepared to lose, others advised me not to because of the obvious inherent risks. Well , I did and won and now I'm loaded! so this proves....

He was studying alongside his part-time job in the tourism company

An aunt went on holiday to Turkey 25 years ago and had a holiday romance, all these years later they are married with children and live in Turkey

Is it still respectful in his culture if he takes you out regardless of the fact your dad said no?

I don’t mind at all if this post gets reported, that’s fine..

I have not lied - this post is and was my life 3 years ago. It’s all true.