Currently in Turkey, met a guy…

[theoneortwo]

And I know they say ‘people come along when you least expect it’ but I never ever thought this would happen to me.

im 29, British, recently I came out of a long term relationship and I am currently on holiday with my family.

I’ve met a lovely Turkish man whilst here. Completely unexpectedly, he was working on one of the tours we went on 4 days ago.

I know it sounds silly and cliche, but as soon as I saw him it’s like I just knew I needed to get to know him. We didn’t speak much on the trip itself since he was obviously busy working - but after when he was showing us the photos he’d taken, we swapped numbers and have been chatting ever since.

He has asked to take me for dinner tomorrow evening (locally in the resort town we are staying in) my mum is saying go for it, but my dad seems to have reservations and is telling me not to be so stupid and naive..

This man hasn’t shown me any red flags or given me reason to distrust him.

Im kind of in the mindset that I’m here on holiday, it’s probably not going to progress.. so let’s see what happens?

has anybody else ever been in this situation, meeting a guy abroad / getting to know somebody from a different country?

I know there are huge complex loopholes and issues IF we did get to know each other more and develop a relationship - due to distance etc.

would love to know thoughts please, as I’m really in two minds.

Thank you ☺️

My friend’s sister in law. Early 30s met a man in Turkey working in a hotel. Fell in love, he moved to the UK to be with her, got married, he disappeared a few months later and she had to hire a private detective to find him to get divorced. She’s a sweet girl and gorgeous too. She was totally blindsided.

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not for you to say what us what we need. It’s like us telling you what you need.

Sorry me again. Say no, plenty of blokes in the UK. Statistically this has a poor outcome, enjoy the rest of your holidays

We live by the sea in southern Italy. The lads working in the bars, the lifeguards, all the local farm boys, live for summer shags with American tourists. They brag about it openly in the local dialect, and have systems in place to hide it from their mothers. It's a bloody sport here.

You could move to turkey or his home country jf you hit it off.

It does sound like the stereotypical stories you hear about. BUT no harm going for dinner if you feel safe and parents know where you are. I wouldn’t worry about getting married and visa shit yet! Just enjoy dinner and have fun!

This. It's misogynistic.

I presume because so many women choose to stay in crappy relationships they also chose to ignore red flags and why on earth would he need permission from your parents?

To be fair OP does sound incredibly naive, and as a single 29 year old on holiday with her parents she is very likely coming across that way to this guy.

Why would there mums care? If anything they might be pleased cause it means there leaving Italian women alone

This!

What’s funny?
it’s a thing in turkey and Pakistan also
best not to laugh at things you don’t know about 🙄

It’s extremely far fetched to go from a potential dinner date to that.

Thats probably why it’s so funny.

OP its your turn this week to be woo'd it will be someone else next week..just saying

My friend when she was younger met a Turkish waiter. He completely love bombed her, promised her the earth, got her pregnant. She went ahead back to England and waited for him to join her. He never did. A week later he married his fiancée and never spoke to my friend again. She raised the child on her own.

This is not the only story I’ve heard of this from Turkey either. Sorry but have to agree with the others this is such a cliche scenario you would be wise not to engage any further with the bloke. If you meet him can guarantee he’s going to love bomb you.

There's maybe a 2% chance this guy is acting in good faith. Would you get on a plane with those odds?

I know someone who did this. It hasn't ended well. I also knew tons of guys when I was at college from a similar country. They had relationships with local girls but they also had wives back home. One of them told me once.

You sound vulnerable to be taken in because you aren't even questioning it. Are you a bit lonely? If so this is not the answer.

I would be concerned he is already married.

It’s really not. It happens in stages. But I can’t be bothered to explain it to you as your one of these who doesn’t look stuff up/think
it won’t happen just cause it didn’t happen to you and your 6 friends. 🙄

True. It is a thing out there. He could have kids also

Th ought you had a bee in your bonnet yesterday but today you’re next level 🤣

I am well aware of it happening - I’m not stupid. I’m just saying people are potentially finding it a bit far fetched because I’m talking about a possible dinner date, not getting into a situation where he takes my liver!

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Same, someone I went to school with, got married, had a kid and he damn made sure he got British citizenship. Surprise, literally that week he received it he was gone, left her raising their son. Amazing how their relationship broke down all of a sudden.

I wouldn't touch him with a bargepole. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Asking your parents for permission 🙄 no he isn't being a gentleman, he sees you as a possession owned by your parents, specifically your dad.

A accusation is a confession…
feel free to keep your comedy comment’s coming though 🍿🍷

Do t be silly, OP. Really.

I think the heat may have got to you.
Give him a miss, hes after a quick bunk up.
He's probably got more than you on the go as well. Listen to Dad.