To refuse a boob job after DH said mine are “wrecked” post DC4?

[Hoistraft]

bit of background first. ive just had DC4 about 6 weeks ago. total shock, was on the pill and it failed. tbh DH wasnt exactly over the moon about it, hes been a bit grumpy about the whole thing and weve been snapping at each other more than usual. im knackered, breastfeeding round the clock, house looks like a bomb site and i dont even know what day it is half the time.

so yesterday i was getting changed and he just comes out with “you should think about getting your boobs done, they’re a bit wrecked now after 4 kids”. i laughed it off at first but then he said he was serious and that “it would be good for both of us” if i sorted them. he keeps saying he’s only being honest and that it’s not a big deal these days.

i feel really rubbish now. yes theyre not what they were at 20 but i grew and fed 4 children with them and atm i actually think my body deserves a medal not a surgeon. im exhausted, hormonal and the last thing on my mind is cosmetic surgery. but part of me is wondering if im letting myself go and maybe hes right?

AIBU to flat out refuse or is it selfish to just expect him to accept me as i am now?

I don't speak for any men. Neither do most of the women here.

He’s a twat.

He’s absolutely awful! Sorry op. If you do get them done at his expense I hope you leave him shortly after. But I’d rather you left him soon without getting any surgery. You should be proud of your body and what it’s done birthing your children and so should your partner

I’m really quite shocked. What a cuntish thing to say to you.

I can’t believe he dismissed a vasectomy, played fast and loose with contraception, and then acted the twat when you conceived! I am not impressed.

Well if he doesn’t want no 5 he has better get surgery on his self and get his balls sliced open

tho equally you may not ever want to shag him again after his boob comment

you have done amazingly @Hoistraft to have a baby at the start of the summer holidays and 3 other kids - obv no choice when baby came but sure the last 6w have Been really rough on you 💐

what a dick head he is !

Talk about trying to shoe horn an invalid point in.

SavageTomato · Yesterday 23:59
It could be worse, you could be a trans person and then you would be the devil incarnate. According to all the cis women on here who claim to speak for me. Yeah, fuck them.

Relevance? Have you breastfed for prolonged periods and suffered the (natural) effects of giving life and nourishment? If not, then you don't have a horse in this race.

I would be replying that you were thinking about shedding some weight….about 15 stone of twat kicked to the curb would be great in fact.

what a git!

At least that’s your contraception sorted then.

What a grotty little immature man he is. At least you can leave him, those poor children are stuck with him as a father. 😢

I’m so sad for you. He is just so awful

Reported you.

Tell him to maybe take a look in the mirror before he starts judging your very newly post partum body that has given life to his children!

When my DH and I said we were done with having children we discussed him getting a vasectomy but he said he wasn't sure it was the right decision for him and he needed time to think about it. Cue subsequent surprise pregnancy (that he was not best pleased about) due to the pill failing. Funnily enough he's now had the vasectomy and apparently it wasn't that bad 😂

It's an awful thing to say anyway, but even worse when you've not long given birth!

I would tell him to get a personality transplant.

Firstly you getting pregnant is as much his fault as bad luck. If he really didn't want another baby then he should have taken every precaution at his disposal to prevent another pregnancy ie. vasectomy or condoms at the very least.

He's basically told you he doesn't like the way you look, and that you should go under the knife to make sure he fancies you enough to carry on having sex with you. Fucking vile. First, I'd stop having sex with him, and then, because I'm petty like that, I would start finding fault with his appearance and personality and making it clear I needed that to change before I was willing to re-engage with sex. Suggest a hair transplant, for starters. Point out that his cock is developing a bit of an unattractive twist and doesn't hit the spot any more. Just be brutally honest. Give him a thorough taste of his own medicine.

Fgs

Tell him you'll get them done when he gets his D@#k done, as you've always found it a bit disappointing

Utter twat.

Tell him.to get the snip, as it would be good for both of you. ✂️
Hes a twat. 💩

@Hoistraft you could ask if he will be getting a personality transplant, cock refurb and a hair transplant, oh and the snip? Awful man.

Tell him when he has his saggy balls sorted you will get your boobs done. See how he likes that! Twat & tell his mom.

Respond - The only surgery needing booking is a vasectomy, DH.
Ask him to get that sorted because it would mean a lot to both of you.

🤣

Tell him he needs a penis extension and a hair transplant.