Page 9 | DP embarrasing me over periods

Someone2025 · 28/08/2025 21:52

CreteBound · 28/08/2025 20:31

@Someone2025

Raise your standards

He called the OP disgusting

Thats verbal abuse. It will likely escalate.

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No he did not!, your reading comprehension skills leave a lot to be desired

Throwing the word abuse around casually is idiotic when you haven’t even read the post correctly 🤷‍♀️

Hollybobs1 · 28/08/2025 21:55

Wow, what a man child!

MyDeftDuck · 28/08/2025 21:56

He is being very immature…..his behaviour reminds me of the boys in our school aged around 12 or 13, sniggering at the sight of a sanitary towel dispenser just inside the girls toilets…….open the toilet door and it was in full view of anyone passing!

Gremlins101 · 28/08/2025 22:00

He should bring you a cup of tea and a hot water bottle really. Did he never meet a female member of the species before?

Perimenipausalmum · 28/08/2025 22:03

Bluebirdies · 28/08/2025 16:13

I’m 30 I know I shouldn’t exactly be embarrassed by them (and deep down I’m not) but this is how DP is making me feel.

I was having really bad stomach cramps last night. He was asking me what was wrong and I told him and he pulled a disgusted face. Then this morning I had come on and he said “eww”

When he says these things, I do pull him up on them but he says he’s joking but they aren’t funny to me. For a while now I have been trying to make out what this means. Is it just something he’s grossed out by? Or is it an example of not really caring about me? I can’t work it out

So he is repulsed by the female body? He's a misogynistic nightmare! Get rid and quickly! Does he not realise that this happens to all women?

Applebun · 28/08/2025 22:03

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 28/08/2025 17:38

She’s not showing him her period blood. She’s literally just saying the word period.

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I think just saying the word "period" can make some people feel a bit sick. And also you then think of their vagina and that is a very intimate thing to think about.

A woman at work said to me the other day that she was having her period. I didnt really want to think about blood or her vagina. That was my reaction.

99bottlesofkombucha · 28/08/2025 22:19

JLou08 · 28/08/2025 17:30

I have a similar reaction when someone has a nose bleed or blood tests. Some people are grossed out by blood. I wouldn't take it personally.

everyone you meet is jam packed full of blood. If you can’t manage to make a compassionate adult comment when your partner is in pain because you’ve remembered people have blood you should stay single until you’ve mastered basic empathy. She didn’t spray it over him. His eww was really because he thinks women having periods is disgusting. No one should have sex with such an immature child man.

99bottlesofkombucha · 28/08/2025 22:20

Applebun · 28/08/2025 22:03

I think just saying the word "period" can make some people feel a bit sick. And also you then think of their vagina and that is a very intimate thing to think about.

A woman at work said to me the other day that she was having her period. I didnt really want to think about blood or her vagina. That was my reaction.

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He’s her partner. He should be able to think of her vagina without being queasy.

Moonlightfrog · 28/08/2025 22:27

Applebun · 28/08/2025 16:27

Society still sees periods as disgusting.

Anyone ive ever told about having my period has seen it as disgusting.

Really? I’m in my 40’s, have had many partners and none of them have a tied like this, all of them have given my sympathy when I have said ‘I have period pain’…..and I have dated some pretty awful men. No one has ever treated me with disgust over my period.

Storminthesky · 28/08/2025 22:28

Couldn't imagine being with a person like this. My DH gets me the lot, Tampax, pads, chocolate, cooks my favourite food, hot water bottle the lot. He even knows when I'm due on before I do! He needs to grow the f**k up.

My 17 year old son, has been well aware of periods for a long time and the pain it can cause, and knows how awful they can be for some people.

I'm afraid you either give him one more chance and explain how it makes you feel, or kick him to the curb! It's ridiculous behaviour from a grown ass man.

Droplet789 · 28/08/2025 22:30

Is he 12?! What a knob. This would just make me much more graphic or I’d leave if you haven’t been together long, just showing he is immature and not a man.

Newusername3kidss · 28/08/2025 22:36

That is vile. I‘ve got a stomach ache - had a hot water bottle and 12 year old boy asked what was wrong. Told him it was period pains and he made me a cup of tea and got me some chocolate. Your boyfriend is an immature prick.

Scarlettpixie · 28/08/2025 22:39

My 18 yo son is more mature about periods than your boyfriend! There is no excuse for that behaviour and I couldn’t be with someone like that. Does he comment every month?!

MounjaroMounjaro · 28/08/2025 22:48

Lemoncheesecake007 · 28/08/2025 16:16

I’ll put my hands up and say people might think this is an overreaction but that would give me the ick and I don’t think I’d continue the relationship. He sounds like a 13 year old school boy.

If you ever want children, a lot more happens, trust me…

Same here. Imagine having him in the room when you're in labour?

He's not an adult, OP. Dump him and look for someone who's more mature.

freerangethighs · 28/08/2025 22:59

If you've asked him to stop making these comments and he hasn't then yeah, his pleasure in making a "joke" (not even, as it's only funny to one person present) at your expense is more important to him than your comfort or dignity.

TottyMaude · 28/08/2025 23:02

Dear God. Get rid.
The only way for a bloke to avoid periods is to shag other blokes. Tell him to get on with that and leave you alone.

Armychef30 · 28/08/2025 23:03

What an immature knobhead, when my son was 16 his female friend came on her period in college and leaked in beige leggings , my son gave her his hoodie to put round her. Then went into town bought her tampons and some new knickers and leggings and she sat on a bench outside college. I was really proud of him. Sounds like your husband has a long way to go if he's disgusted by a natural occurrence, sending chocolate 🍫

nopiesleftinthisvehicle · 28/08/2025 23:09

You married a schoolboy straight out of 1970 OP.
Even 12 year old boys are not embarrassed or disgusted by periods in 2025 🙄

NoSoapJustUseShowerGel · 28/08/2025 23:10

Never have kids with this man. He’ll teach a daughter to be ashamed of her normal bodily functions and a son to be disgusted by women.

Candleinalantern · 28/08/2025 23:11

My exH was like this about periods. I think it just grosses some men out, I don’t know why, he was actually a really caring guy so doesn’t mean he hates women as some people have implied! He also hated seeing me wee and never farted in front of me or talked about bowel movements, some may say not normal but that’s just the way he was, just don’t think he liked bodily functions and liked them to be private!

Heartyredbeaker56 · 28/08/2025 23:14

How could you possibly be attracted to someone who's behaviour resembles a 10 year boy. What an absolute turn off.

DuckPuddledJemima · 28/08/2025 23:15

This is not a loving behaviour he is displaying. I suffer horrifically and sadly cannot hide the floods sometimes. I have my husband and my DSs. None of them shy away from helping me with anything I need and will offer kindness and support. Your husband sounds awful.
My eldest DS works as a carer to help support uni life and when I had to have emergency surgery during his holidays he offered to come home so his dad didn't have to take time off work and climbed into the shower with me as I was in agony. I was mortified. His response... We're all human and all need help at some point.

I'm sorry your OH isn't supporting you

Bestfootforward11 · 28/08/2025 23:16

It means he has not developed in maturity beyond early teens which is somewhat depressing. I am sorry you are having g to deal with this.

Pistachiocake · 28/08/2025 23:19

SoScarletItWas · 28/08/2025 16:17

Kudos to you for having a 17-year-old toy boy. That’s the only explanation for his childishness.

Please don't think 17 year olds feel like this. My son is MUCH younger than that, and actually asked me the other day to give some of my products to a friend (obviously girl of his who needed some) and said should we (as in males) buy STs for girls because it's an extra expense.

Some lack of understanding can be blamed on parents who don't educate their children (and I'm judging myself because my son (and my daughter for that matter) got confused about timings-but that is not their fault. It's up to me, and my husband, to explain things better.
So OP, your partner should have been told about things, and it's sad he was brought up this way. We all need to do better-I don't know anywhere near enough about menopause, and didn't know much about childbirth before becoming a parent.
Sadly there's still shame and stigma, and he needs to be willing to change his ideas. It's unbelievable that we used to think periods turned milk sour-ask him what he thinks of such stupid ideas. Menstruating women used to have to eat separately from the family, and some still do, in other places.

2021x · 28/08/2025 23:24

Bluebirdies · 28/08/2025 16:13

I’m 30 I know I shouldn’t exactly be embarrassed by them (and deep down I’m not) but this is how DP is making me feel.

I was having really bad stomach cramps last night. He was asking me what was wrong and I told him and he pulled a disgusted face. Then this morning I had come on and he said “eww”

When he says these things, I do pull him up on them but he says he’s joking but they aren’t funny to me. For a while now I have been trying to make out what this means. Is it just something he’s grossed out by? Or is it an example of not really caring about me? I can’t work it out

Grim.

You can do better.