Anyone else not like doing anything?

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Would just like to preface this by saying I am definitely not depressed. Haven't got social anxiety. And have a very happy, stable marriage. And a little family.

Today we've been out on a family day, think trampolining, pedal boats, shopping, lunch at a restaurant, that sort of thing.
I strongly disliked 95% of it, for no reason.
Boats were the best thing. But everything else is just blah, overpriced and mind numbing.
This extends into all areas if my life, I have no hobbies, no interests, nothing that gets me excited, other than the boring, mundane of everyday life (being home, working, family life, Church etc) that's about all I enjoy. Sometimes going for a nice walk.

I can't stand any organised activities that I'm supposed to like, cannot for the life of me understand why people enjoy shopping, pubs, weddings, holidays, travel, cinema, hobbies, classes (like yoga) exercise, social events, parties, festivals, days out etc etc.
I don't even like books 😒

I'm not moaning, I'm just wondering if anyone else is like this? As I said, I am genuinely happy and enjoy my life, until we have to do something 'enjoyable'.

Maybe it's peri-menopause? I've always been this way inclined, but currently it has ramped up to a whole new level. I want to enjoy different experiences, I just don't. And have no desire to try and enjoy things.

Hmm are you content? Im someone that constantly craves new and interesting things. I have to get out the house most days even if it's just for a walk. But I'd say that wasn't contentment. Sometimes I'm happy to be cosy inside on my own but only with a good book or good telly. I find as I get older I need other people/friends less as my family take up more and more of my energy! But I love a lunch our sometimes and cinema etc.

But if you feel happily content at home that's fine. What makes you happy/on an evening keel? Baking? Cooking? Does good food and a nice cup of tea satisfy you? If so hard off to you. Xx

I am the same to a certain extent. Most things I find boring. Nothing really excites me. I do think I might possibly have undiagnosed inattentive ADHD tho.

I really can’t be bothered to do anything outside of every day tasks like work etc. I do like to go on holiday but any activities at said holiday I find boring.

Also when I see people at concerts etc I couldn’t think of anything worse.

What DO you like doing?

I like taking my dog for a walk and going for a quiet coffee / drink with my husband or friends.

You just sound extremely boring. I assume if you don’t do any of those things (socialising, exploring, films, books) you’re just watching TV and going to church. But if you’re happy so what?

I'm like this to a certain extent, but I'm 60 and happy. I used to be much more sociable, now I'm perfectly happy pottering at home and doing very little. I've done a lot of travelling in my time and a high pressured career. I used to mix with lots of people on a daily basis.

I now find that I really just enjoy the small stuff in life and I genuinely can't be arsed with anything else. I find life noisy - I can't think of much worse than sitting through a music gig, or going to a festival. I loathe motorways, crowded airports and people in general. I don't want to spend my evenings (or days) pasting on a smile and spending time, energy and money on shit I don't want to do.

I would much rather be at home with a coffee, reading in the garden. Unlike you, I do like books, but I don't like tv or movies. I don't want to spend 2 hours sitting through a film.

It could be peri to an extent (I am not dissimilar in that I CBA with some stuff I used to like) but I think there's also an element of there being certain things that we are supposed to like and if you don't it is considered weird, but there may also be some random shit that doesn't seem that enjoyable on the face of it but that you find weirdly satisfying (my neighbour does litter picks and loves it- he has a FB page and other people have joined in) . I think the key is just to try that random shit and see what sticks.

I'm like you to a certain extent; don't like social or planned events. But I would put your church in there as well:).

I do love reading, walking in the nature, swimming. Just not a social butterfly I suppose.

You're a person who enjoys being home, working, family life, Church.

You don't have to do the other stuff (except maybe weddings etc) and if you're content in your ordinary life you're very lucky.

Why are you questioning yourself if you know what you like and feel content?

It sounds very boring, what do you talk about?

Why does it not surprise me that you have a "little family"....

Honestly your life sounds excruciatingly boring and I would go nuts if I lived like you. But you do you etc. You don't need anyone else's permission to live a very narrow and dull life.

I mean if you’re happy then fine but what do you do with your time, what do you have to talk to friends or family, or people at church about?

Do you work? Do you get any satisfaction from that?

What will you do when your family grow up and have their own lives, what if they decide to up sticks and move to Australia?

What were you like pre kids/ when you were younger?

What's always interesting is how furious some people get when someone feels happy enough in their ordinary life.

The reality is that some people like to do a lot and some people like a quiet life.

Anyone who gets personal/critical about the other choice reveals their own insecurities.

I'm not a huge fan of many of the things you listed. But I have found things that I DO like.

It's OK not to like stuff that most people like. You like family and church - that's OK too, if you're content. But if not, try other random stuff to see if you like them.

I also think saying you don't like books, holidays, sports etc is rather broad. I suspect most people could find SOMETHING they liked in all of those categories, they're so broad.

Maybe you'd like Twilight rather than War and Peace, or Three Men in a Boat rather than The Kite Runner.

Maybe you'd hate hiking in the Himalayas but love a holiday learning pottery. Or skiing instead of lying on the beach. Or some kind of volunteering vs camping.

Maybe you'd like ceroc rather than jogging, or octopush rather than bowls. Or gardening in an allotment.

I often find I don't enjoy things if I feel like it's overpriced, so I do try and seek value for money. The pressure of "I must enjoy this because it cost so much" often spoils it for me.

PS if you like your work I think you're lucky, I've never had a job I didn't hate.

The things you didn’t enjoy on the family day out sound quite child-centred and I can imagine many adults find them boring. If you like nice walks, make that the focus of some family time.

I like doing most stuff but primarily because i enjoy hanging out with other humans in general

As someone who supposedly believes in God, I think your outlook is a little strange, yes. I don’t believe in anything other than science and the chances of you being here are about a billion to one. So please try to make the most of it. Once you’re dead that’s it. There’s nothing but worm food.

what do you mean you enjoy family life? isn’t that all the stuff you just mentioned - doing activities with your family? i’m finding it hard to think what you mean outside of this. doing the kids’ dinners and baths and so on?

how do you pass the time when the kids are in bed?

i think you sound very different to me and maybe even to most people but i don’t think that’s a bad thing. be who you are and don’t force yourself to enjoy things you know you don’t

You sound bored and boring tbh. There are literally millions of books in the world how can you not like any of them? Same with hobbies. I think it's extremely dull to not be interested in anything.

I find a lot of organised events underwhelming, and sometimes have a hard time thinking of what, in particular, I’d like to do.

But I tend to enjoy most things I do do, and I rapidly start to feel trapped and restless and despairing if my days are too mundane and samey and I’m not moving through different environments.

I’m always jealous of people who can say with absolute certainty that they want to spend the solstice at Stonehenge, or go to Disneyland, or go dog sledding in Iceland, or learn to play the accordion or whatever.

I can see how I might find those things fun and interesting if I had to do them on an assignment for work or something, but I’d never have a hankering to do them.

Maybe op just wanks 24/7. She’s ruled everything else out

I love my ordinary what people would call boring life. I think that’s a great way to be! My favourite place is home and whenever I’m out and about or at events all I think is when can I go home and sit with a cup of tea 😅

But all the things the OP describes are ordinary life. Going on a pedal boat with your children, socialising, shopping, exercising, going on holidays.