Taylor Swift engagement - puzzled

[LouisaJG]

I’m in my 30s and so unreasonable to be posting/caring about this on every level. BUT. I didn’t see a post. So…

AIBU to be puzzled that the man Taylor Swift has finally decided to settle down with is so different to the type she has seemed to date pretty consistently through her 20s and 30s up to then? She seemed so keen on soft, arty, mainly British boys - and now she’s gone for the direct opposite. Is it because her previous long relationship with a soft, arty British boy (Joe Alwyn) didn’t go the distance and so she decided she really needed to change her type if she wanted marriage and kids? Is it a fairly cynical marketing reaction to the current political situation in the States (no idea if TK is actually a Republican but he looks like someone who could appeal to Republicans, very much unlike Joe Alwyn)? Is it just a return to her American, country roots? What gives? I’m her age and I just can’t imagine my tastes changing as dramatically as that.

We used to like the same type of man, and now I feel like I don’t know her any more (I know, I know, I know) 🤣

Not' intel cod psychology' at all in fact, but straight from the horses mouth of a medical professor at UCL as it happens.

Yes, I remember a therapist friend telling me once, that an excellent predictor of long term marital success is when no one can tell whose family members are whose at the wedding!

If she's marrying for life and having kid's she needs someone strong pyschologically and very committed to take that on. Obviously she lives with a massive amount of scrutiny and hysteria, and has had stalkers for example. Parenting, and growing up with parents this famous could be very hard. He seems up for that and has a close, strong family too (with young cousins for any kids they may have.) Finding all that isn't easy.

I suspect Kelce appears to have quite a sensitive arty side so appearances can be deceiving.

He seems a combo of virility & sensitivity…what's not to like!

Well they certainly look very happy together. I am pleased for her.she is an amazing musician. Apparently gives money to food banks when she performs in Britain. I think they ate in love

I think she was originally impressed by his public declaration of wanting to date her, he wasn't scared of her fame. And then I guess when they met, they had chemistry. Even if he isn't her usual 'type' they have similar close-knit families and similar values (both very loyal but also ambitious in their careers). Plus he seems to absolutely adore her. I think it's a great match.

TC is left leaning and I think they have very similar values. They’re both family oriented. He’s hugely successful and has nothing to prove to anyone. In that sense, in America at least, he is more ‘her equal’ than anyone else she has dated. And look at him. He’s absolutely beautiful and they make a gorgeous couple.

You don't know if he's her type or not. How well to do you know him?

It's so bizarre. Don't even start me on the gaylors.

She donated to food banks and/or charities in every city she visited. Enough to fund them for over a year apparently.

She also gave her crew (band, dancers, lorry drivers etc) massive bonuses at the end of the first US leg, and I'm sure she did the same after Europe etc. She personally tips staff everywhere she goes. She's very very rich, but also extremely generous. It's lovely to see.

You say lost one like it’s a terrible thing - it’s pretty damn hard to even make it to the Super Bowl final. You really can’t knock how successful he’s been, much as you might want to.

(and anyway his brother was in that other winning team so the family win tally is pretty good. )

Baffling you find it puzzling, unless you only dated one man and his versions your whole life?

The Daily Mash has a headline today 'How to get over your lifelong thing for pale sensitive English boys by marrying a fucking bear' next to a photo of Taylor and Travis, which I think sums it up!

Yes I agree. I’m not a Swiftie but I can see how he would suit her so well. He obviously adores her and understands the pressures of fame and performing at the highest level (in sport but similar adulation/criticism levels).

I think Taylor writes some great songs but I certainly wouldn’t describe myself as a swiftie. I’ve been seeing clips of Travis & Jason’s podcast on TikTok and they certainly seem funny but I know the square root of feck-all about American football. Despite that I watched the Taylor episode of New Heights and it’s blindingly obvious just how in love they are and perfect they are together. I wish them all the love in the world.

I remember the leaked memo about a break up coming out because a PR woman I follow on TikTok talked about it. Apparently all celebrity relationships where the couple aren’t married have some version of it, it’s essentially a pre-nup before a pre-nup is needed.

My main take away from it all is that I think I might be in love with Jason, he’s adorable 🥰. An absolute dream brother-in-law and Kylie (I admit, I have dipped into her podcast a couple of times) seems fantastic as well.

He seems like the perfect man for her

I loved Travis in Happy Gilmore 2.

I’m not a fan of either but somehow got addictive oh dragged into reading theories on how long they have been hooking up (probs about a decade on and off) and how they’ve been Easter egging each other through their songs. There was also the album leak in the US with Slut! featuring Matty on it which got recalled straight away. Plus the podcast wasn’t him saying that but he laughed along with it which he apologised for. I still think he’s a massive twat but the hate he got was just over the top ridiculous.

I’m a peripheral Taylor fan. Love her music but never really known much about her.
However, whenever I see pictures or videos of her with Travis they just look happy and in love. They look like they laugh a lot.

The biggest issue successful women can have when it comes to relationships is men being intimidated by their success. He comes across as supportive and her biggest cheerleader. That can be really refreshing.

My DH is the complete opposite of my first husband ( and previous Ex’s) in both looks and personality. Some my friends thought I’d gone mad.
The fact was he is kind, makes me laugh, he builds me up and supports my career in a way no other man ever has. Twelve years on and we’re still going strong.

Yes from what I’ve seen they do look genuinely happily in love - the body language is amazing. They would have to be Oscar worthy to fake that all the bloody time for the constant scrutiny they are under.

Billionaire world famous singer, one of the most recognisable and influential people on the entire planet, and multi millionaire Superbowl winning sports superstar.

Gosh, why would anyone care? Hmmm ….

Off you toddle back to the crossword to show how cool and unaffected you are.

This has really made me laugh 😅

A PP who described him a giant golden retriever is probably closer to the mark than aggressive/arrogant.

I am somewhat underwhelmed by this engagement. TS has had so many public relationships that ended that I will only be interested in this when Hello publish the pictures of her parents walking her up the aisle.

She dated a lot of frogs before the met him. Yes he’s different but why keep dating the same type of guy when it wasn’t working.
I watched the podcast, and they both seem extremely happy, comfortable and confident around each other. There was lots of mutual respect. I don’t know TK’s political beliefs, but TS came out in support of the demoncrats at the last election. Trump hates TS and frequently makes derogatory statements about her.
they both share the same values. Their families are very important to them.
TS called him a ‘human exclamation mark’ as he is so positive and uplifting.

I wish them all the best!
btw my dh is very very different to my previous boyfriends. Together 20 years and married 17.

@Firefly1987where do you get aggressive from? I mean he’s a football player and all that comes with that.
In the podcast and other interviews with him he comes across as a calm, gentle and funny character.