Taylor Swift engagement - puzzled

[LouisaJG]

I’m in my 30s and so unreasonable to be posting/caring about this on every level. BUT. I didn’t see a post. So…

AIBU to be puzzled that the man Taylor Swift has finally decided to settle down with is so different to the type she has seemed to date pretty consistently through her 20s and 30s up to then? She seemed so keen on soft, arty, mainly British boys - and now she’s gone for the direct opposite. Is it because her previous long relationship with a soft, arty British boy (Joe Alwyn) didn’t go the distance and so she decided she really needed to change her type if she wanted marriage and kids? Is it a fairly cynical marketing reaction to the current political situation in the States (no idea if TK is actually a Republican but he looks like someone who could appeal to Republicans, very much unlike Joe Alwyn)? Is it just a return to her American, country roots? What gives? I’m her age and I just can’t imagine my tastes changing as dramatically as that.

We used to like the same type of man, and now I feel like I don’t know her any more (I know, I know, I know) 🤣

I married someone who was the opposite of my usual type. Best thing I ever did.

Wish I’d settled for a multi-millionaire who’s built like a bear who clearly adored the ground I walked on.

I could live with that.

You don’t know the guys she dated. Only what they look like. Not their personalities and who they truely are in their personal life. It’s a bit shallow to judge people on their looks alone.

Are children allowed to have Mumsnet accounts?

”Types”?

Dear God.

It's really common for people to have longer term relationships with people who aren't their usual type especially if they've had several unsuccessful relationships with people who they consider to be their type. What we fancy isn't always good for us -Just like cheesecake

Haha yes please, can I settle for one too.

It’s ridiculous to say she’s “settling”. She could have literally anyone. They are obviously in love if you take 10 minutes to look at them together rather than going off social media headlines.

Imagine any of us on this thread doing all that, but women would rather criticise her and support the narrative that anything we do is never enough. We need to stop being our own worst enemies. The owning your own music issue is so important for artists to understand. Look up how S Club 7 made hardly anything because of their poorly negotiated contracts.

She's not settling, it's just that as non American football fans you can't really grasp how good he is at the position he plays.

Oh and the "leaked memo" was an assignment someone did for a PR course, it was not real. She is absolutely hated by Trump and the like (although he did surprisingly call her a great person the other day), so attempts in the press to discredit her aren't surprisingly.

They have great chemistry, their families gel well and if Kylie, Jasons wife is any indicator, the Kelces aren't scared of strong women in the family.

You can tell when it just looks right, I'm sure people have seen it with their own friends and this just looks right. I wish them well.

I’m extremely invested in their relationship and love her music, despite being not young (a geriatric millennial as one of my team at work kindly put it). Her timeline with TK mirrors mine with my own partner, so even more reason for me to feel affinity with my close personal friend Taylor.

My partner is a very clean cut, straightforward, kind man who has a typically macho job, very tall, built like a tank and has never so much as smoked a cigarette. And totally adores me.

My previous “type” was weedy, arrogant and privileged and their default setting was being mean to me. Our primary shared interest when we got together in our 20s was going out on the lash. I definitely prefer life with my new “type”.

Also I don’t think TK is a republican - if he is he’s very moderate. He appeared in a campaign promoting Covid vaccinations. He seems like a lovely man. Also look at the size of his hands 🥵

Yes, “types”!

It’s a word adults use when discussing relationships, as you can see from reading this thread.

I know it’s a tricky concept, but don’t worry, you’ll get to there eventually.

Same thing happened to me. I always fancied arty, gentle, skinny boys (Jarvis Cocker was my pin up), went out with a few and generally had a lovely time. Then met my 6’3”, broad shouldered & generally very masculine husband at work- became his friend, fell in love etc etc- now 20 years on my brain has rewired and I mostly fancy big hunky men. Attraction is a funny thing.

I think it's that he went after her and went old school flattery with her, on a big scale. Flowers, big ovations and public gestures. She liked to be seen as someone he is proud of, and someone who talks about her as "my lady, my girl". In the end she didn't really want all the woke stuff she was singing about 6-7 years ago when she was with Joe. I like Travis, he seems like a positive guy. Is he milking the new found plus one fame? Yes, but Taylor has given ttat the green light it seems.

What woke stuff?

I'm trying to pin this down too! I think "Lover" (which I have never liked) was quite a conventional album about relationships.

@LouisaJG @DashboardConfession I'm assuming it's a clumsy attempt critiquing her support for the lefty stuff like supporting Joe Biden, LGBTQ+ and feminism etc.
Joe Alwin was a definite lefty but I'm not sure about Travis.
I think it's more complicated to be a famous American sportsman where politics is concerned , compared to a British actor.
I could be wrong though.

Travis politely avoids slagging off Trump but has generally shown he is left-leaning. Notably being one of the first white players to take a knee, and appearing in LGBT-focused sketches on SNL.

He can't really come out and say that though. Kansas City votes Republican.