Taylor Swift engagement - puzzled

[LouisaJG]

I’m in my 30s and so unreasonable to be posting/caring about this on every level. BUT. I didn’t see a post. So…

AIBU to be puzzled that the man Taylor Swift has finally decided to settle down with is so different to the type she has seemed to date pretty consistently through her 20s and 30s up to then? She seemed so keen on soft, arty, mainly British boys - and now she’s gone for the direct opposite. Is it because her previous long relationship with a soft, arty British boy (Joe Alwyn) didn’t go the distance and so she decided she really needed to change her type if she wanted marriage and kids? Is it a fairly cynical marketing reaction to the current political situation in the States (no idea if TK is actually a Republican but he looks like someone who could appeal to Republicans, very much unlike Joe Alwyn)? Is it just a return to her American, country roots? What gives? I’m her age and I just can’t imagine my tastes changing as dramatically as that.

We used to like the same type of man, and now I feel like I don’t know her any more (I know, I know, I know) 🤣

Love to see this! My current DP is so different from any man I have ever dated / been in a relationship with and I have a good feeling about it. Still early days though!

I don’t follow celebrity stuff, but Taylor Swift is exactly the same age as me and it’s good to see a woman who very publicly played the field through her 20s and early 30s, dating numerous guys, fall in love and get engaged in her mid-30s. 💜

Maybe she just grew up and found who she needed.

I think you’re painting her exes with quite broad strokes. Apart from being skinny British boys, Joe and Matty haven’t got that much in common.

My DH (of 21 years) was very different from everyone I had dated before him. Guess there was a reason why others didn't work out and he did 🤷🏻‍♀️

You can’t use the fact that they got engaged a year after that “leak” as evidence that it was real, because it’s also the behaviour of two people who are not in a fake relationship.

I’m puzzled why it’s such major news.

I agree - I also think he seems very able to deal with her fame and success and it must be hard to find a man like that.

I don’t know much about her exes or fiancé (or her really) but I think it’s fairly common to have ‘a type’ then realise that someone who doesn’t fit that type at all is actually the love of your life

In This country because there's no parliament in session yet and there's only so much that can be said about flags.

she irritates the life out of me

Not the point of this thread but I agree. Maybe because of her heavily Hollywood style PR driven mediocre music.

I’m so glad she’s got Travis because he seems like he really adores her and isn’t that we all want really
plus as a huge swiftie I am just so genuinely happy for her

My DH is completely different from all the men I had relationships with and was attracted to before. Two of my very good friends also ended up with people pretty much opposite of what they were looking for.

I think moving away from a 'type' is actually a sign of maturing and realising the qualities you really want and need in a partner.

They seem very together and I wish them well.

I think most of the world’s population hopefully don’t give a shit.

I'm always quite bemused by the people who claim not to care (probably true) but are really quite annoyed that anyone else might. They seem to be sufficiently annoyed to click on a thread to tell people about it, it's odd to be so put out by other people enjoying something fairly benign imo.

It's okay for people to like things and people that you don't, and vice versa.

I'm an artist myself and always went with soft, arty boys for ages and it never went well and I ended up happily married to a manly engineer. My SIL always went for more rugged, handsome guys with beards and who were always suited and booted. Now she getting married to more homely looking man who is a bit of a geek, not her usually type at all but sometimes the man we really click with is not our usual type or who we expect.

That's not really what was said, and I've strived all my voting life not to judge people on politics. However, with the political climate in the US right now, Trump's America, and the freedoms and lives that are at stake, it's very, very hard for me not to think Right = Bad.

My take on it is that he seems to have been the one to pursue her. I read that he wanted to meet her after a concert in 2016/2017. The fact he’s not in the same industry, unlike her other boyfriends, feels like it could have more of a chance.. and she’s a romantic at heart and he doesn’t seem threatened by her success… which I imagine the others probably were…

Not over invested at all… 😃 I’m almost old enough to be her mum, I really should know better!

So each relationship with a particular 'type' has not continued? Seems pretty normal for somebody to meet a person who is actually right for them after the other ones haven't worked out.

Once you've dated more than a couple of people, there's always going to be some similarities and some differences. Eventually, you meet the person who meets the majority of what you want and some things you didn't realise you need.

Watching them on the podcast they are head over heels in love with each other. Maybe she had enough of emotionally unavailable men and wanted a man unafraid to make a commitment.

A rebound after Matty??? Haha, as if! They were only together for a few weeks and broke up after he announced, on a podcast, his predilection for hardcore porn featuring “brutalized” women. I feel very sorry for any woman he ends up with.

My husband is very different to all my previous boyfriends. It happens. I decided to connect with someone different because my previous type wasn't working!

True, but she wrote a whole furious album about Matty! (with maybe one song about Joe and one about Travis)

I don’t think just because Travis is a footballer that he isn’t soft or gentle. Many of the softest guys I know are stacked and the ‘soft arty ones’ are the devil incarnate. 🤣

Her divorce album will be fire.

I think it's a pr relationship not a complete set up but a marriage of ego convinance that works for them both atm He's also got a well established type that isn't her and wouldn't be surprised if they both reverted to preferences after this has ran uts course.

Not sure they'd make it down the Isle or last if they did.

But its great pr, she's got an album out and wants to further distance herself from blake lively- she'll make a point about subtly yet marked'ly exculding her from the bridal party.