DH stole from me

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At the weekend DH and I went to Knaresborough for a day out - famous for its sausage rolls and pork pies. I don’t like pork pies so I was very much looking forward to the lovely sausage rolls we bought in the bakery. It wasn’t a sausage roll, it was a bean roll but these are just as famous and they looked delicious. DH gobbled his up immediately whereas I took mine home to eat later in comfort of my own home.

later that evening, I wanted to try it but didn’t want the whole thing so I ripped a bit off the end to eat and kept the rest wrapped up in the fridge ready to eat today. I was very much looking forward to it. At lunch time I put my soup on and went to get the sausage roll - it wasn’t there. I messaged DH and he didn’t reply (coward) so I called his work place who went to find him. He denied it at first but eventually admitted to running off with it this morning. I’m gutted. I know it’s a small thing and it’s just a sausage roll but it’s the disrespect, the lies, the outright disregard for my feelings. Latest in a long line of events. Icing on the cake.

I have told him he has no moral compass and the bastard has gone to look up moral compass on yahoo to prove that it’s not a thing. I want it replaced. At the very least I want an apology. AIBU to refuse to cook him dinner or make him coffee until he apologises and promises to replace it.

Just go to Greggs 🙃

Is this one of those MN of Ye Olde Days posts?

Are we meant to be screaming in the Sistine Chapel or T-Rexing in Morrison's at this point?

When your relationship comes to the point when you have to "hide food", you know it's time to call it a day

You are wise to be very concerned.

Archduke Franz Ferdinand pinched the Wiener Schnitzel of Gavrilo Princip and look what happened...😱

The unreasonable people on this thread are those suggesting a Greggs sausage is an appropriate replacement for a famous Knaresborough bakery item.

😂

Im really hoping for the "lighthearted" post. Cos surely no one can be this ridiculous over a bloody bean roll.

This isneither indicative of a bigger issue, in which case ask advice in the actual issue rather than blowing up over a bloody savory pastry.

Or you are genuinely ridiculous.

Sadly this is now a case of the "has bean" roll....you have 3 choices...LTB, forgive TB or make him pay....and I'm sure you will think of something!

Hang him up by his toes in Mother Shipton's petrifying well.

I think you’re being a bit unreasonable.

Presumably it was stale or nearly stale; and I can imagine how irritating it is to have someone who bought something to not eat that evening, have a tiny bit the next day; and then pick at it until it’s gone off. Ugh.

Phoning him at work is off the wall.

I understand you feel cross about it, but do you definitely value the sausage roll more than your marriage (because it seems like you do, seriously)
If you genuinely have less respect and positive regard towards your husband than a two day (3 day/4day?) old sausage roll won’t you at least do the decent thing and divorce him.

Can I ask, do you set him little tests so that he can fail and you can find fault with him?

I think I aspire to this energy. Bugger “letting things go” or being adult. That gets you nowhere. Fight petty with petty.

He shouldn't have eaten it. But you calling his work is an absolutley crazy overreaction.

Some people have been harsh to you. I get it. But I think your anger is more at the situation than the actual bean roll. If he’s creating so much anger within you that you felt you needed to call him at work then there’s more going on. I never call my husband during working hours unless it’s some kind of emergency.

This. String him up and literally petrify him.

I clicked on this thinking I was going to read about the theft of money or property and it is about half a 3 day old savoury snack. Yes I would be pissed off it happend to me but unless this is yet another selfish act in a long line of selfish acts I would let it go. When the OP got the the bit about "moral compass" I did start to wonder if this is a piss take

I know you are not entirely serious but I would be absolutely furious if my DH did something like this (he would not dare though).

Can I add a boast? My dh sometimes drives the 3 hour round trip to that particular bakery to get me a lemon meringue pie...
If he ate it he would also be an exh..

I bet the fucker would have your last Rolo as well, the swine.

Yes; this!

Absolutely.

I also think some have not yet grasped that the OP’s post is somewhat in jest - though ‘tis a crime none the less….

Bloody hell. You called his work so they could find him so you could call him out about a sausage roll? You must have serious problems to elevate you that far in a reaction otherwise that’s nuts

YANBU,OP.
I would bear a grudge over this forever: no statute of limitation regarding food theft/ disappointment.

I get the principle, but calling him at work and getting someone to go and get him - completely unacceptable.

I’ve lived near Knaresborough for almost 30yrs and had no idea it was famous for its baked goods! I’ve never been there specifically for a pork pie or a sausage roll

You are justified in being furious. It's the small things sometimes.

So are you far from the shop? Do they do online orders? Get DH on the case. If he won't do something to restore peace and say sorry then he's not someone I'd like to live with.

Eat something he sees as his?

It's your bean roll and even if you were to choose to eat it one bean at a time over a prolonged period then it is still yours. If you decide to feed it to a dog instead then that's up to you.

It does not become fair game for others to eat.
A request from DH as to are you still going to eat it was required. He knew you'd say yes I am. He just didn't care.