DH stole from me

[Odonje]

At the weekend DH and I went to Knaresborough for a day out - famous for its sausage rolls and pork pies. I don’t like pork pies so I was very much looking forward to the lovely sausage rolls we bought in the bakery. It wasn’t a sausage roll, it was a bean roll but these are just as famous and they looked delicious. DH gobbled his up immediately whereas I took mine home to eat later in comfort of my own home.

later that evening, I wanted to try it but didn’t want the whole thing so I ripped a bit off the end to eat and kept the rest wrapped up in the fridge ready to eat today. I was very much looking forward to it. At lunch time I put my soup on and went to get the sausage roll - it wasn’t there. I messaged DH and he didn’t reply (coward) so I called his work place who went to find him. He denied it at first but eventually admitted to running off with it this morning. I’m gutted. I know it’s a small thing and it’s just a sausage roll but it’s the disrespect, the lies, the outright disregard for my feelings. Latest in a long line of events. Icing on the cake.

I have told him he has no moral compass and the bastard has gone to look up moral compass on yahoo to prove that it’s not a thing. I want it replaced. At the very least I want an apology. AIBU to refuse to cook him dinner or make him coffee until he apologises and promises to replace it.

You called his workplace and made someone go and get him so you could ask if he’d eaten a sausage roll??? Gently, OP, this isn’t a normal thing to do.

Im guessing there is a larger issue at play in the relationship, but really, you don’t call someone’s work over something like this. Or not at most workplaces anyway, I guess I don’t know what DP does.

You mention twice how much you were looking forward to the “lovely” sausage roll but then you don’t actually eat it. Lol, you kind of created a situation but yes he shouldn’t have lied.

My DH did this when we first moved into together 30 years ago.

We treated ourselves to some chocolate from an aristan market stall and he scoffed his portion at the first opportunity.

My portion was placed reverently in the fridge for future consumption.

A few days later the time had come.......ohh the anticipation.........it was my day off, I made a cup of tea to enjoy with said chocolate.... only to find the bastard had eaten it!

He got full barrels when he came home. His excuse was that I obviously didn't want it as I would have eaten it already! WTF! you do understand that you need to ASK?

I said it was a matter of trust, if I can't trust you NOT to take something which has little worth like chocolate (because TBH it would have been easy and cheap to replace), how can I trust that you won't take the £10 quid left on the side for the window cleaner, or take money from my purse or take my car without asking.

He said that I was being ridiculous and that it was just chocolate. Fine I said.

So the next time we attempted to treat ourselves in the same way I said no, I can't trust you. The next time I left the £10 on side to pay the window cleaner I asked him not to take it because, well, I can't trust you. I asked for a key cabinet to be installed so I could lock my car keys away because he was untrustworthy and then starting obviously putting my purse in a lockable draw.......I could go on and on and I did. 😉

Anyway, he turned out very trustworthy in the end, once he realised what an idiot he had been.😂
oh and he has NEVER taken my chocolate again!

Sorry but I found your response hilarious, and a bit crazy, if this is how uou handle the small stuff, I dread to imagine how you would react to something more serious🤔🤔

A side issue here is that Mother Shipton never existed. Invented for an attraction, and Paul Daniels bought it .......

Babes, sometimes you just can’t resist a sausage roll. I’d find that hard to resist too.

Swipe twenty quid from his wallet and call it quits.

You called his work about a sausage roll????

Damn, I want a Toffee Crisp now!

You're insane.

Why didn’t you eat it beforehand?

🤣

I missed that gem, thank you for highlighting.

I adore Lidl bakery jam doughnuts. Occasionally DH will pick one up for me. Recently he bought one but I was full after dinner. He asked if I was going to eat it. I said tomorrow. Bugger me it had vanished. When I asked he said OH it was stale so I gave it to the dogs. LIAR, I called him out on it.

He scoffs anything sweet which doesn't bother me normally but this was a step too far.

I wouldn't dream of nicking one of his pork pies.

Getting targeted ads for Heinz baked beans on this page is too much 😂

The swine ! Send him off to Greigs for his tea !

I agree with this. I'm a Southerner but had a DP from Manchester for a while and the food and especially the baked goods up there were divine.

I would expect grovelling but if it's part of a bigger pattern, I would be having a rethink @Odonje

No custard creams for him. Garibloodybaldis at best. Stale ones.

Maybe he has a habit of not coming home when he knows he's in trouble, so...

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-10645457/My-wife-divorced-leaving-dirty-glasses-sink-right.html

The straw that broke the camel’s back

I genuinely don't understand these fights and resentment over who ate what food in a marriage.
Maybe I have been through a bit more in life.

The posters who think it's significant that the OP rang her husband at work don't know if they are regularly in touch during the day.

DH and I ring each other, but on soaps, eg Casualty, people seem to do it all the time. We might text or send an email, though, which we'd check during breaks etc, ie at a time of our choosing.

You are gutted??

What a problem to have!

He looked something up on Yahoo??? LTB
Red flag.

Yes but for the sake of a pasty? 😂

The fact that your husband coveted your sausage roll and couldn't help himself from stealing it is probably a sign that he's a latent closeted homosexual who doesn't really like women...

Keep a close eye of him to see if he is hanging around the outside of Greggs... Also mention that you walked passed a man today that had a jumbo roll and monitor his reaction to see if he gets excited; increased breathing, enlarge pupils, beads of sweat, hot under the collar, panting, tongue out, etc.

I wouldn’t have rang his work that would have been too much.

You knee were seeing him when he got home do you could have spoken to him about it then.

However, I would be really annoyed.

There are obviously huge issues in your relationship.
And either DH is the problem because it’s not normal to be lying like that and be so sneaky.
Or you are controlling and DH feels like he needs to do these things.

Sorry, you make him coffee and cook his dinners? Always?