Got told off by a random bloke! Is this being selfish?

[AgentPidge]

This was a new one on me and I would like opinions please.
I went out for the day with DH. We went to a National Trust place and took lunch with us. After we'd looked round, we went back to the car, got our lunch and sat in the field next to the carpark. So we were away from everyone but there were lots of people going to and from the carpark, so we could be seen.
After we'd eaten, DH said he wanted to make a work call and would sit in the car. I said I'd stay in the sun for a bit before joining him.
I stretched out on the grass in the sun. I didn't have a sun hat or sunscreen with me but I did have a shirt over my tee shirt so I took the shirt off and draped it over my head. After about ten or 15 minutes I remembered that I'd seen cow poo in the field, and had this vision of finding myself surrounded by cows, so I sat up. There was a bloke walking towards me across the field. He stopped, turned round and went back to the gate, where he was talking to another bloke. I sat there for another minute and they were looking at me and talking. When I got up and walked down to the gate, the conversation went like this (no "Hello" or anything):
Him: You shouldn't do that, you know. Stretch out in a field like that.
Me: Oh, are there cows? I did wonder.
Him: No, not cows. We thought you were ill. You could've fainted, had a heart attack, epileptic fit, diabetic...
Me: Really? So people shouldn't sunbathe?
Him: Not alone, no. You should have someone with you. Unless it's your garden.
Then the friend chimed in: Yes, it's really selfish. We were worried. You shouldn't make people worry like that.

So I thanked them for their concern (through gritted teeth) and went on my way. But it spoilt my day.

Thoughts: How many people having epileptic fits etc bother to drape a shirt over their head? How does he cope on the beach? Does he go round checking? I often go on my own - am I selfish? What about parks? It's common in London parks. Would he have told off a bloke? A friend IRL agrees with him. TIA

But according to some people on this thread you should have told her to fuck off and mind her own business.
Maybe slap her hand away and tell her how dare she touch you.

Those guys were weird. Forget it.

In my opinion, he was just ridiculously weird.

You did absolutely nothing wrong! if they were concerned seeing someone laying in the grass why not shout out," hello are you ok" just to check.That as a woman would be my first response, if as they said they thought something had happened to you!

I CAN know, you daft apeth. I was there and you weren't! It was a castle. Loads of fields around it with NT signs to the nearby village and places you could walk to across the fields within a couple of miles.
Are you going to apologise?

It wasn't the approaching, was it? It was the telling off. Saying something totally unexpected about not sunbathing alone in case you worry people. So yes, I would have been but if it had been two women I would've been more likely to tell them they were being daft. Thanks for the info about the auroras.

Of course they were wrong, they called her selfish. OP was the bigger person, she didn't even tell them to fuck off. How much more of a bigger person do you want her to be? Bow and scrape to them?

Capitals are used to emphasize keywords because mumsnetters love to twist things (which you are clearly desperately trying to do).

Why would I be angry? I'm mocking the insecurity of an a incel, you know mockery a type of humor lol.

I'm not the man who gave OP a lecture so how did I not move on. I made ONE comment on a thread about a weird interaction with a sexist man. This a a forum to discuss and laugh at that mans silly behavior, there is no 'hill to die on' (why do you think its that deep?).

I made just one jokey comment that has seeming offended you to pick a fight with me, you couldn't walk away and are now 'dying on a hill' by continually responding with my comment which was not aimed at you. Not everything on the internet is personal to you and no one really cares if you agree with them.

I know I don't care if you sympathize with the misogynist, your opinions on this man doesn't matter to me at all which is why I did not pick you out to respond to, I didn't engage you at all. The fact you had to divert the thread to turn this into a conversation no one else wanted or asked for shows it you with nothing better to do.

Wanker. Quick walk over, are you okay? Would have done the trick. I went to the a popular tourist attraction yesterday and a teenage ish girl was sat next to a doorway, it was weird (lots of footfall, kind of a trip hazard etc) and I asked her if she was okay, she looked at me strangely (maybe a language barrier or maybe just rude) and I carried on my day as she seemed fine. It wouldn’t be my job to tell her off and that’s much stranger than someone laid on the grass in the sun! Men.

In what way? Please elaborate.

A bloke tried to mansplain to me in Aldi car park, I gave him my retort and then said - off you fuck.

I get this all the time, and I am SO MAD at myself after.

No, I'm not going to apologise. Are you going to apologise for your personal attack?

Speaking from experience, many properties with signage are in fact privately owned, and only a daft apeth would lie down in a random field that may be used by cows.

I think your deliberately obtuse and nonsensical responses merited the OP's reaction. It's not a random field, is it? Silly sod.

Lol, calling someone daft isn't a personal attack, darling. And I don't think the NT would allow murderous cows/rampaging bulls in fields that their supperters walk through. The cows would've been curious, that's all.

Are you going to apologise for calling OP a daft apeth?

This makes no sense. He was a knob.
Anyway, if there were two of you lying down with a shirt over your face, what’s to say that that you hadn’t both collapsed?

@silverygreen I think you'll find that the fields with "signage" signs are leased from the NT. They can't be privately owned and NT.

How would the NT know whether a cow is murderous? Do they do background checks?

Well I'm the daft apeth that's lain down in a cow field. When I was growing up it was pretty much on a weekly basis. We used to often take DC for picnics at a regular* spot next to a stream near here and yes THERE WERE COWS THERE! And on occasion I would lie down in the sun. There are loads of footpaths around here that go through fields with livestock and sometimes people sit, lie, picnic and teenagers meet their mates.

*regular as in a regularly used picnic spot for everyone

You're giving me flashbacks to when we lived on the edge of a village. In cold weather, toddler DS's favourite thing to do was to crack the ice on troughs in fields near our house, so I spent a lot of chilly days in fields of wintering-out drystock watching DS happily play with ice. Though admittedly, if I lay down, it was probably because I'd lost the will to live...

OMG where's the laughing reaction when you need it? 🤣 😂 🤣 😂

This thread is giving me a lot of laughs!

Imagine if someone had passed out and they had ignored them. It happens in the street, people for one reason or another are lying down and some people pass them by. He was worried and then annoyed that it had all been for nothing and said some thoughtless suggestions.

Having your bag on the table is a bit rude though. He shouldn’t have been so aggressive in the way he asked you to move it. However asking you to do so was fair. A newspaper is actually for reading, which is the purpose of the library.

Exactly this.