Would you take this job with a 3 year old?! I’m torn!

[Amivei]

I have been a stay at home mum since dd. We are ok financially as a family but I have been offered a job of 70k, remote apart from 2 days a month in the office.

I can basically work when I want, assuming I meet client need.

Having not worked since DD was born I am a bit worried about how I will adapt. I feel like at the moment when I drop her at nursery at 9am, by the time I collect her at 4, I have only just had chance to clean and tidy and prep dinner!!

We could do with the extra money just to pay off the mortgage earlier and this would make a massive massive difference. I am so conflicted and worry I might regret it if I start!

You do 7 hours of cleaning and meal prep every day?!

Hire a cleaner. Get a meal box. Why is all the household stuff down to you? What about your partner? Once you’re back at work it should be 50/50.

I would take the job, it sounds great.

Nothing is more important than being there for your child. Work can wait, your child shouldn't have to

@Amivei I would go for it and get a cleaner in for some bits. It shouldn’t all be on you!

I think if you walk away from this opportunity you may kick yourself in the future. Flexible jobs aren't easy to get and with a salary like that too, surely on the cleaning front it may be worth hiring a cleaner. And maybe meal planning/prepping easy meals for working days.

This.

Wow some of us raised 3 kids, on £20K no cleaner or gardener - all kids now adults! Some woman work full time as single parents and manage. Some woman don’t have any family support either.

Check your privilege.

I feel like at the moment when I drop her at nursery at 9am, by the time I collect her at 4, I have only just had chance to clean and tidy and prep dinner!!

Why? What are you doing during that period?

Can I have it if you don’t want it? 🤣

This is such a weird post. All these comments and yet the OP has not come back at all? 🤔is this even real? A £70k job falls in your lap, your child already goes to nursery and you're conflicted??

I think you need to consider what you want/need. If you’re not ready, leave it a year if you think other jobs will come up that are similar. In a year she will be at school? But you could take it now try it and see. As others have said use a cleaner etc to make life easier.

Take it. I’m on day 9 of a 15 day run of my two low paid jobs because days off have clashed with work days. My husband was made redundant from a good full time job in April and has only had ad hoc and temp work since despite applying for lots. My DC have turned slightly feral over the summer, but they have had a blast really. Still manage to have home cooked food most of the time, but pizza and pesto pasta do feature. I’m currently sorting the washing out at 11pm having just got home from work, and start again at 9 in the morning. I have just had to say yes anytime there’s overtime work so we can pay the bills. I’d love a 70k remote job. I know everyone’s circumstances are different, but honestly take it.

You don't get "offered a job" for Only Fans. You sign up for the website, create your own content, and your pay is dictated solely by how many subscriptions and payments you receive. I'm surprised that there people who think Only Fans is a salaried job.

A whopping £70k salary is "pocket money."

We have reached peak mumsnet.

If you don’t take it you’re insane. Get a cleaner, batch cook, stock up on Cook M&S. It’s very hard to pick up a career after a long break. If you hate it that much you can resign.

This. There cant be many £70k jobs out there that remote accessible to someone who hasn't been in workforce for a while ? If there are i want one as there is nothing like that where I am!!!

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None of us were born yesterday- can you not see the humor? Talk about staring the obvious.

Honestly OP you will all learn to adapt and 4pm is still a good time to pick her up. Still time for dinner, bath, play and bed. Just make sure the house has had a quick 1 2 with cleaning, wet clothes bags etc out the night more and you’ll be absolutely fine. I finish at 6 and when my DD was that age I would spend an hour once she went to bed doing stuff to be organised. Get showered and still in my bed relatively early xxx

Is this a wind up? 😳

She will enjoy nursery.
Best of luck.

I think the OP has been too busy cooking and cleaning to come back.

She sounds bone idle but a 70k job just lands on her lap after 3 years off work. Not sure if she can take it because she cant cope with a toddler (whos in FT nursery), working from home and doing house work. Good Lord 😳 Most mums work full time and still manage to get everything else done

You need to speed up and get organised. Did it take you that long to clean and prep before you had a child?

With 70k you can comfortably afford a cleaner and you just batch cook.

Honestly this is a dream gig / amazing deal ... almost zero commute stress and you can do a bit of washing in your lunch hour

Unless you dont plan to ever work again I would take it.

Trying to get back into industries after 5/10/15 years out is hard/ impossible.

If you can afford not to work then with some of your wage you can cleaner, nanny, food prep surely. 70k a year

Get a cleaner and enjoy a spotless house for a couple of days. Then a bearable house for the rest of the week. You do need to be quite disciplined to factor in the dinner before the kids get home. It can get hardcore tbh. I was in a hybrid role where I also went in 2-4 a month. It was quite a challenging role and I ended up having to catch on work after kids went to bed but had loads of flexibility around pick up and drop off. I am now in a role that’s fully remote with occasional travel to the office. It’s much more about doing your hours and showing you can put more in which means flexibility isn’t quite there. However it’s less taxing so overall I am less exhausted. My top tip is get a cleaner, rope DH in and pay for as much conveniences as you can afford because it is hard with young kids.