Pissed off over photos

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DD's first birthday today. No one could be bothered to take a good photo of me. I have a handful of photos, either me talking, or in just a terrible pose, DD crying, DD not looking at camera. Not for lack of effort from my side, I tried but no one had the patience to take a good one. Fuck sake. I made an effort with everyone. Everyone has at least one excellent shot. Not me. It's ruined my night. I'm not normally this self centred but I literally gave birth to this human a year ago. I don't know why it's made me feel so ugly and unappreciated.

I am now refusing to send out photos. And I have deleted the best ones (not best ones of DD, but some excellent ones of other people). If they want photos, they can take it themselves.

sounds like it's time for a celebratory mother child photoshoot.

get yourself a nice one.

It ruined your night because no-one took a good photo of you? As the previous poster said, just pay for a professional photographer if it means that much to you.

Tomorrow is a good day to take a nice photo of you and your baby.. she’s one plus more, everyday going forward now.. it’s such an achievement to get them to one.. well done! So don’t stress, I’m dreadful in photos but what’s important is I’m in there.. for when my kids look back ( folding laundry in cute videos on more than 1 occasion!🙈) .. do a nice selfie tomorrow and enjoy your baby and the nice weather if you can

Jeez OP this is a bit OTT, it’s just a photo not the end of the world, if you want nice posed photos get a professional shoot done. Deleting nice photos and refusing to send them to family members is such petty revenge

I don't need a professional shoot. Just someone to take 30 seconds to make sure they're taking a good shot.

But if photos of a big ocasion are so unimportant, no one should be bothered about their own photos either.

I am never happy with photos of me. Some people will say the photos of me are nice but that is their perception. Your perception of the photos taken are that you dont like them. Other people might like them. We are often very critical about our own photos.

But if they think the photos are meaningless, why would they place any importance on photos of them?

Don't worry, I sent out some photos. Only ones of DD alone or of people from a distance.

They can pay for their own professional photoshoot too.

No. I'm ok in photos generally. But photos with a 1 year old take effort.

Oh dear first world problems! You sound a little spoilt

You might think the photos of you are shit but one day that is all your kids are going to have of you.

Well I don't have anyone to take photos of me and my daughter most of the time. I just take a selfie of us. Yes it's just our faces but I've managed to get dinner lovely ones actually

So selfies is what I'm saying

Why didn’t you ask someone at the party to take a nice photo of you?

I know it seems a big deal - but it really isn’t. You need to put this into perspective. Take some photos tomorrow. She’s one day older - that means nothing in the grand scheme of things.

20 years down the line you’ll realise this really doesn’t matter. There will be so many thousands and thousands of photos of the two of you that you won’t even remember this.

I did. But no one could be arsed to spend more than 10 seconds to take one. A 1 year old fidgets a lot, it takes a minute to get her in shot.

It's your babies birthday. It's her day.
Why are you making it all about you?

Anyway, I've been told, I'm unreasonable and photos from my child's first birthday mean nothing.

I’m sure you’ll get over it

Goodness me. Who said that it meant nothing? Someone at the party?

Your DD will love lots of bad photos of you over one nice one.

It feels like many people are missing the point here.

The OP cared enough about her guests, that she took the time to get nice photos of everyone who attended her daughter's first birthday.

Not one of those guests could be bothered to take the time required to get a nice photo of the OP.

I genuinely don’t understand the big deal here. Presumably you’ve got some photos of your child, it’s her milestone not yours. If you want better photos take some tomorrow when things are more relaxed. It’s pretty nasty to delete photos of other people.

That’s exactly right OP, the photos mean nothing, no one’s tried to be helpful or offer constructive advice 🙄

Nobody has said first birthday photos mean nothing. Nobody.

What a previous poster has nicely pointed out is:

She’s one day older - that means nothing in the grand scheme of things.
20 years down the line you’ll realise this really doesn’t matter. There will be so many thousands and thousands of photos of the two of you that you won’t even remember this

Op, you are unhappy there are no nice photos of you and your dd at your dd's party. You could have a nice photo taken tomorrow with a little cake saying "1 year old" . In years and decades to come, that will still be a nice photo.

Did your dd enjoy her party? Surely that matters more than a specific photograph?

OP’s being dramatic.