To think I can squeeze into a 5 person car with just 2 other people

[Emma6cat]

I have a trip planned from the north of England to the south coast on Friday to see my Son off who will be away for a year. Originally I was planning to drive down but since then I have been plagued with neck arthritis and its painful to drive long distances. I asked my Sister who is also going down (driving) if I could go in the car with them (her and my dad) to be told no the car would be full. Now granted they are going down for a week, but surely the boot and three back seats wouldn't all be taken up by luggage? AIBU to think surely they could squeeze me in. I am now looking at the train, 3 changes and lengthy trip bearing in mind I will have my luggage with me. My neck, collarbone and shoulder are constantly sore and I am taking medication for this. Just feel a bit hurt tbh!

Either your sister or your dad (or both) don't actually want you to be joining them on their holiday. Are you a massive pita to holiday with, or are they not nice people?

They have said the car is full, so I don’t see how you and your luggage could ‘squeeze in’. You mean that you want them to take less stuff than they’ve planned so that you can squeeze in or you think they’re lying and don’t want to give you a lift?

If I go away with my partner, just the two of us, our car is always full as it’s nice to take lots of stuff. When one or more of our children come with us in the same car, we all have to pack much lighter which none of us like. Last time we went away with out children, we took 2 cars, so I think it’s likely there just isn’t room for you to squeeze in without them taking less, which when they’re staying for longer, is unfair on them.

Ask your sister again insisting that you will only be taking an overnight bag and a handbag and that you will pay for all the fuel. Remind her that it is only one way.

If she declines ask her if she could manage to fit in your overnight bag.

If you can not travel with sister ..

Sort out the trains and ask for assistance. Could you take an extra day getting there and stay an extra night so to make the most of the day you have with son?

Your sister doesn't like you.

It's especially galling that they're attending YOUR family event and having a holiday YOU organised! But, honestly, it's best to just roll with it. Don't make a drama out of it, but don't invite your sister to anything else.

Would you be able to break your journey into chunks of manageable driving? Otherwise, it looks like getting a better wheelie case and taking the train or flying.

Have a lovely time with your son!

Can you fly one way, Op?
And go down the night before. Take the train home.

Why do your sister and your dad hate you!

Well personally I’d happily do this for a family member I loved, if I had to choose between family & luggage we’d take less stuff.

Even that is feasible. I have a copy of a film my Dad did in 1966 when my parents used the mini for camping - two adults, toddler, baby, cottage style tent and all the camping equipment driven from Gloucestershire to Argyllshire.

Yanbu, they both sound absolutely selfish and horrible to treat you this way. Also you have a health condition so they should be offering as well.

We went camping for a week with 3 kids an 8 man tent and all the normal camping stuff in a normal hatchback wtf do you take to not have room when its only 2 of you ?

I don't understand. Your DS and your DF are going to the same place, for the same reason, at the same time, and said you can't go in their car or stay in their flat? And you said "ah, ok?". That's bonkers, who does that? It's playground bullying.
Why would you keep any kind of relationship with people who treat you like that?