Aibu to write this guy off our first night together?

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Yeah that was a crap experience. He got what he wanted and no longer needed to give you any attention. Just shows you how fake he was. Why would anyone go back for more of that.

He used you. Sorry op.

Stay away. That’s a really weird thing to do. Nerves before the first time would bring out that kind of behaviour, but afterwards he wouldn’t be able to stop himself.

Text him saying something along the lines of it not working for you, wish him the best, and keep it brief! That way you’ve dumped him without ambiguity, it’ll dent his ego, if only briefly and you, not him, are calling the shots.

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they weren’t in a relationship- she met him a couple of times and had sex. There is no dumping to be done and it won’t dent his ego believe me!

I think he really didn’t want you to stay the night, and he failed to tell you that outright, just heavily hinted and tried to make it obvious. Then couldn’t get over his mood as you didn’t take the hint, so yeah it’s probably over. He behaved badly. And he should have said it explicitly when he realised you weren’t leaving.

Nah 100% bin him off regardless of his next move. He might suddenly become affectionate again when he next fancies getting his leg over.
But this is either his post coitus style - which doesn’t suit you. Or he has a general weird view of women once he sleeps with them. Either way it’s a hard no for me.

The first time I slept with my partner (also date # 3) it was afternoon and I was the one who had to get back to my kids. Second time - we arranged a date and I said I’d be able to stay over on a Friday night. He was so happy and said brilliant we can spend Saturday morning in bed. And we did - obviously having more sex but also cuddling, chatting, kissing drinking coffee. It was lovely and we still do that 4 years on.

I am sorry that happened to you. I’d feel really upset too.

He sounds like a user. I'd message him now along the lines of 'I think we can both agree there's no mileage in this. Good luck in the future'. Then block and move on.

end it now before he has the chance to hurt you any further op

Why? So he can disrespect her further? OP, just block and forget him. He’s an emotional desert

that is the marvel of modern technology
you can block him

He should have said it before they had sex.

Yeah, you won’t hear from him again, OP, unless it’s a random booty call some time in the future. Keep your silence and your dignity, block and move on.

Some men are manipulative fucking arseholes who are very good at disguising who they really are until they get what they want.

He has shown you what he is actually like, If he makes contact again, arrange to meet for a drink and do not show up. 😆

No, that's unacceptable. He's treated you badly the night before and then again the following morning. You can do better.

Don't meet him again, send him a text telling him you felt used after sex, not even a hug afterwards! And black him. Bye bye.
You deserve better.

He’s a dick end of . Unfortunately OP not all men are gentlemen and that is life. Put it down to experience albeit a bad one and forget about him. My spidey senses tho are wondering if he had made plans to see another woman and not his friend? Either way he disrespected you so move on

God don’t do that! Don’t demean yourself. Just block him. Plenty more fish in the sea

He sounds like a total player.

I would get ahead of him and knock his player confidence and message to say,

“nice to get to know you but on reflection, the sex was really terrible, you hadn’t said anything before because you didn’t want to be rude, but you really couldn’t see yourself signing up for anymore since it was so bad”

So he could be affectionate before sex but mot after? C'mon! One of my exes advised me he couldn't help himself but he falls asleep very fast after sex and he wasn't me to feel disrespected but he hugged me all night!
OP date just used her, why he didn't try to have sex again in the morning or having breakfast together at his place or outside? He seems a player.

Yes you are right. He doesn't deserve it.

I had a similar experience recently when I was dating. Had seen a guy a couple of times and went round for a meal/sex. We had slept together before and it was fine. He'd spend all evening going on about relationships even though I said I didn't think we were compatible in that way - just sexually. Anyway, we had sex and he practically threw me out after! Yelled 'Don't fall asleep!' while I was still naked in his bed! So I left and I was upset - decided not to see him again. Of course he contacts me again. Wants a repeat. I say no thanks and he just couldn't fathom why I was peeved at all! He then was obsessed with me for a while and constantly texted. He was a twit.

Ignore the puritans on this thread also. Making him wait for a certain number of dates/times is pointless and doesn't prove anything. You are wasting your own time by doing that as the sex could be shit and he could still have been playing you the whole time. Have sex when you're ready. It will be a risk after one night or 6 months.

Yep write him off, no decent guy would have rushed you out the door the morning after. Leave him bewildered when you aren’t reaching out to him.

Message him: Sorry but last night was disappointing so I'll leave it there. All the best.

Don't send him any messages saying it was 'disappointing'. God that is so embarrassing and unless he is really thick, he will see right through it.

Lucelady Its good that you have been happily married 40 years and you had your Diamond within 8 weeks .However life today is not the same as 40 years ago!Even if she waited a similar time as you .I doubt marriage or a long RL would be on the cards somehow.I have been married a long time too and my own DD has similar experiences to report .Many young guys dont want LT RL it seems .Although one would hope they would treat their GF with some respect!