Just to add on this point. I fully respect other people choose to live their life differently, usually those from the older generation, or religious backgrounds. However I fall into neither demographic, and sleeping with a man after 3 weeks in this generation is not considered premature by any means.
I do not have casual sex, nor have I ever had a one night stand. However, I do not put myself on a pedal stool and talk down to other women who have, like I’m the walking example of how one should conduct themselves. And I certainly wouldn’t use it as leverage to make someone accept the blame for being treated poorly.
Because on the topic, why is it on women to gatekeep and withhold sex, and make men jump through endless hoops and tests to prove that their intentions are as they lead us to believe?
Why is the onus not on men to be honest, and act like a civilised respectful human being?
I’m not usually one to preach on feminism if I’m being honest, but it’s tiring reading how blame is still placed on the women for being manipulated by men who will break their back to make you believe something that isn’t a reality, just to get their end away.
I stand by the fact that I didn’t sleep with him too soon, and this outcome wasn’t down to me.