posted far too soon.
Im considering calling things off when/if he decides to get in touch again for how he acted towards me after we first slept together. But im unsure if im jumping the gun, so to speak.
Met a guy 3 weeks ago. Had two very good dates. He was a gentleman. Very kind towards me. Late last week I went on holiday for my friends birthday, he remained in contact via text regularly. Told me he can’t wait for our 3rd date once I’m home. My flight back was on Friday, and our 3rd date was last night. I came to his side of the city we live in and we went out for cocktails and to watch a band play. Afterwards we went back to his which was around the corner from the venue. Everything felt right and we slept together for the first time (first time I’d had sex in over 6 months). It was very good, passionate… we both enjoyed it. Everything I thought it would be.
The second it was over and he’d ‘finished’ he exclaimed how good it was, then turned his back to me, grabbed his phone and set his alarm for 7am (on a Sunday morning). He had plans with his friend in the afternoon but wanted to go to the gym beforehand early in the morning. He said “You can stay if you want but just so you know I’ll be up at 7am” he said this while his back to be. Then went straight to sleep, not facing me. I stayed on the other side of the bed and eventually fell asleep myself, I felt awkward being there. I would have expected a hug at least afterwards, but put it down to him being tired I guess.
Alarm went off at 7am, we both woke up. I said good morning, he replied in kind. Again no touching or looking over at me, he jumped straight out of bed. We got to sleep at 2am so I’m pretty tired, but I get up out of bed myself and go to his bathroom. By the time I get out he’s looking through his wardrobe deciding what he wants to wear for the day. I sit on his bed and book my Uber, I attempt to make small talk, and ask more about his plans for the day with his friend. Again doesn’t look at me which replying. At this point I felt like I’d served my purpose the night before and was no longer nessessary.
my uber arrives, he walks me to his door, the uber driver has parked at the end of his street due to road works that had taken place over the week. He says bye to me as I walk down the road.
Ive not heard from him at all. No “did you get home okay?” Or “I had a good night” text. Nothing.
My friend is convinced he’ll eventually text and he was just busy today, but being busy has never stopped him before. And to be honest I’m a put out by how distant he was after we had sex for the first time. He knows I don’t have casual sex and hadn’t slept with anyone for over 6 months, I felt like his behaviour was inconsiderate and I feel quite used. If he does decide to reach out to me again I don’t think I’ll want to continue as this has made me view him in a different light.
my friend thinks I’m overreacting. Am I?