Aibu to write this guy off our first night together?

[KookySnail]

I’m considering c

oh god not the withering mn text. When mn recommends a middle class putdown that’ll apparently eviscerate him. Send that text, yes, Go on that’ll make him see what he’s missing

You both had good sex. He hasn’t called since. High ouch factor but least the sex was good

You did put out on 3rd date, maybe he hung around to see if the 3rd date sex was a thing…it was

No way! Don’t do this, it will leave you feeling so vulnerable to have revealed feelings this way.

calling time because I'm seeing someone else. Good knowing you, all the best
For someone trying to be nonchalant it’s a bit bulgy eyed over invested
She didn’t know him. They had 3 dates. He ghosted her.

I don't think this is a good idea. It's obvious that she's doing "one final text", and it won't make OP feel better when he doesn't respond.
So sorry this happened to you OP, just dust yourself off, there are a lot of men like him who just want a conquest. Be ready for late night weekend contact from him.

He certainly doesn’t deserve for her to lower herself to lying. Who cares about saving face from him, he’s a piece of nothing and nobody. Onward, chin up.

I don't get why some men do this, spending so much time sending texts,videocalling, trying to appeared like nice and kind just for one night of sex. Also making the other person believe he is interested. Why to hurt someone? He could just hire a prostitute and have all the sex he wanted.. I know everybody on Mumsnet complaints about men who hire prostitutes but is just a transaction. I think it's worst what this man did. Lie and play with someone's feelings.

I would reach out. I’ve came across so many men that want women to make the effort too.

They worked together and he add her on social media plus asked her for a date. He persued her making her believe he wanted something more than sex.

This is shit advice. He’ll just think she’s a slag instead and feel completely vindicated in treating her like one

Women don’t need to make men feel wanted or good about themselves. It’s not our responsibility to make the effort

Oh I’m really sorry, this is crappy behaviour. I’d rather men were honest instead of putting on an act and pretending they we’re looking for one thing when they are only after sex. Mind you, could be any reason for his behaviour, but still crap to be treated like that.

You would reach out after being treated like that? Why?

Please don't give him the satisfaction of texting him... he clearly behaved distantly afterwards so that you would call it off and he wouldn't have to. He is cowardly and selfish and does not need the ego boost of you sending one last message to confirm h got what he wanted in every respect.

Definitely don’t text him. It’s shit - there’s no way you could have seen this coming but try and forget about him. You did nothing wrong - he’s clearly after one thing.

Met a guy 3 weeks ago. Had two very good dates
Worked in same organisation. He sent a dm after leaving. That’s workplace proximity not knowing him

Yes it’s really bad advice and a disproportionate response that’ll serve to make her look really daft
Dont call women slags. It’s pejorative & misogynistic

I’m not calling her a slag - I’m saying that’s what he will say!

I honestly don’t know why people think sending a text saying the sex was crap, when they’ve been ghosted, is a gotcha moment. It isn’t, it just makes the sender look like an idiot.

Much better to just say it’s not working for you, let’s call it a day.

Just to make it clear, I will NOT be texting him anything.

Ahh, ok. Misread it
I imagine he won’t be bothered and he’ll keep keeping on. Sendinf That recommended text won’t have any effect

Good. Move on, enough introspection about a minor event

One of my friends had sex with a guy after 2 months dating, on the way back home , she was on the tube and she trid to send him a text and she realised he did blocked her in FB and phone too (you can see how old I am hahahaha) Some men are assholes don't matter if you have sex on the third date or 2 months..

And that's exactly the right thing to do. There's no gain in texting to ask questions, or to berate him for using you, etc.

You actually win by ghosting him - because he will not expect you to do it.

Good for you OP. As the Press Office in my workplace often tells us, one of the most powerful forms of words, is no words at all.

Onwards and upwards!

Perfect-there is really nothing you could text that would help.

Reframe it as a lucky escape. A man this selfish and cold isn't worth developing a relationship with. Sex was decent-bonus-but wasn't earth shattering either from what you have said, so you aren't missing anything spectacular.