Husband has extreme right wing views

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Not sure if this is the right place to post as it's not an AIBU but more of I think my husband is being and I'm not sure what to do about it.

He's getting caught up in some quite extreme right wing views in regards to migrants. Complains about how they're coming in, being housed in hotels, paid allowances etc. with no checks and how crime rates such as rape are now ten fold etc. He thinks Trump is great 😪 He's very intelligent so I'm not sure how he's managed to get caught up in this extremist view point.

WWYD?

I competently take on board that I have use 'extremism' incorrectly. He has firm right-wing views, but I seems that these are 'normal'(?)

He's got good work mates that aren't British. He'd be absolutely fine with our children have friendships/relationships with whoever.

Get him off social media if he is. That’s what’s probably fuelling it as it becomes a bit of an echo chamber and keeps on feeding the beast.

The patterns are so very extreme tbh. A not uncommon pattern (also happens with migrants in continental Europe) is that a migrant will rape a vulnerable girl, then text like six or seven buddies to come rape with him. Such circumstances were described in court documents released in the Uk as well

This is unthinkable in most (formerly) civilized places

Quick correction for you - it's not MY language. It was directly quoted from the OP.

Not because you disagree with him, but because you find his views to be morally incompatible with your own.

You think it's crazy that some people end a marriage because of something like this. I think it's crazy that some people seem completely unconcerned about the moral values of their life partners. We're all different, I suppose.

I am financially independent, I don't need to stay married to my DH for practical reasons at all. I stay married to him because I enjoy his company and I respect the kind of person that he is. If he suddenly adopted far right views, then I wouldn't enjoy being around him and I would lose all respect for him. So what would be the point of staying with someone who I considered to be a despicable human being?

My cousin went through this with his half sister (my cousin is birracial). At her wedding she told my cousin he had to pretend to be a friend of the family as the groom’s family would be horrified that he was marrying a woman with a birracial brother.

So technically not “disowned” but her and his sister are now no contact (their mom stopped talking to her too.)

I would be worried about the kind of things he says about and to that partner.

Are we now pretending that white men don’t gang rape women?

Bizarre that others have said leave! Crikey.
Many people agree with your husband, including myself and most people I know!

This. ^ People are entitled to views that are not left wing.

Funny how we have been getting so many of these 'my DH/brother/MIL/FIL/BFF etc' has suddenly developed right wing views, and I am soooo concerned' threads this past week.

Never see anyone who is right of centre, posting about how concerned they are that their partner/dad/mum/daughter/son/friend/MIL/FIL, is suddenly having having left wing views. 🤔

LTB is just awful advice, and no one advising it would actually do it.

What’s wrong with agreeing to disagree?

Not everyone can have opinions we agree with. That’s just life. We won’t all agree on everything, can’t all be in lockstep.

Why do the left claim to be so tolerant of every characteristic that really doesn’t matter - age, sex, skin colour, etc, but are so intolerant of the only thing that really does, and makes us different as human beings - independence of thought?

Do you have a source for this being “not uncommon” for migrants and unheard of for non-migrants.

This. ^

No, just pointing out that other groups offend at vastly higher rates. It’s perfectly reasonable to be concerned by that fact.

"He's very intelligent so I'm not sure how he's managed to get caught up in this extremist view point."

Baffling, isn't it.

Do you have children? Do you break apart a family because of opposing opinions? The kids suffer for ideological differences. Selfish self absorbed parents. Worse than any right wing opinions..

Yes please define it for us @SummerEve

Why do you think being intolerant of immutable traits is the same as being intolerant of beliefs?

I mean yes - I don’t judge people on things that don’t matter and over which they have no control.

Why do people need to show tolerance for beliefs they find abhorrent (although I respect people’s rights to hold certain beliefs).

I feel sorry for OP and can only empathise as it’s not a situation I would be in and having kids and a marriage makes it all a lot harder.

I know right. Only tolerant and 'kind' when it suits. 🙄

No, I genuinely would. If my partner goes anywhere near London, around mid September, he’s going in the bin.

I wouldn’t be able to actually hold a conversation with him if he was actually, truly right wing. Not a polite one anyway.

Source?

Is it very sudden? does he spend a lot of time online, there is some utter madness on YouTube and it if you spend a lot of time on there seeking out things that reinforce your views and then the algorithms do the rest. I would really struggle to live with someone who supported Trump, the man has no redemming qualities at all, and he is destroying America to the extent that even some of his most ardent supporters are not happy with him. The Epstein connection being a case in point. Immigration is more complex but the way it is being weaponised by Farage to help him to power is a concern.

Trump the sex offender? Defaulter of loans? Well known fantasist/liar? A fine example to follow

I was speaking to a political analyst who says MAGA dies with trump. Question is how long he will survive?