Husband has extreme right wing views

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Not sure if this is the right place to post as it's not an AIBU but more of I think my husband is being and I'm not sure what to do about it.

He's getting caught up in some quite extreme right wing views in regards to migrants. Complains about how they're coming in, being housed in hotels, paid allowances etc. with no checks and how crime rates such as rape are now ten fold etc. He thinks Trump is great 😪 He's very intelligent so I'm not sure how he's managed to get caught up in this extremist view point.

WWYD?

If you don’t leave him you’re showing your children that those views are ok.

Up to you.

I'm going to go against the (left wing Mumsnet) grain here and think that LTB is bad advice. It could be that he's been caught up in all the media hype and has become a little brainwashed. Listen to his concerns and discuss like adults. I'm sure things will calm down in time.

im an educated non racist female and I am extremely concerned about the sheer volumes of young undocumented males fleeing war zones and other cultures alien to ours. How can you not be??

He’s entitled to his opinion. I’m genuinely worried about illegal immigration too.

The tolerant left out in force in the responses as usual.
he’s not doing anything particularly extreme - he likes trump (so did the majority of Americans) and he thinks we need more control over migration. Is that extreme? Is he correct about rape?

we are all entitled to our opinions, including the dh

None of that sounds extreme to me, I'm afraid. Sorry, but I don't see what the fuss is about. Just because you don't agree with a view doesn't make it extremist.

Same.

This in spades. Far left-wing (communist) ideology and suppression of free speech has become so normalised in our society, that any views expressed contrary to the state narrative are immediately shut down, ‘cancelled’ and labelled as ‘far right extremism’.

it is NOT extremist to oppose mass immigration, to fear for the safety of women and girls, and to abhor the gradual erosion of English culture and way of life, to the extent where local councils are removing the St George’s flag whilst continuing to permit the display of foreign (Palestinian) ones.

Oh bugger that. Not a chance I could stay married to someone who held such vile views. Please remember a child's parents are supposed to be their role models.

My brother in law is the same and we don't speak to him anymore. He was asked kindly to stop bringing it up at family things (we don't discuss politics of any kind) and he just couldn't help himself. I didn't want my kids witnessing his weird hateful rants so told my sister I didn't want to be around him. 6 months later, she no longer wants to be married and is secretly putting money aside to leave. For reference in the past fortnight he's been outside a hotel harassing them more than once. And now he's spent the weekend with a gang of his vile friends covering the town in Union Jack flags 😅 absolute freakk. Don't let this become your reality

LTB is silly.

My political views differ totally from my husband’s. But he’s a wonderful man, we share the same values and we actually agree that there are problems. We just see different ways to solving those problems! We both have the same destination in sight - we just differ in the best way to get there.

Which is fine. He’s entitled to his opinions, and I to mine. It would be a very boring world if we all thought the exact same thing. And what makes you so certain your way is the best? A little bit of self-doubt is a good thing, a willingness to consider that we don’t know everything or have all the correct solutions. We can’t always be convinced that we’re absolutely right about everything, otherwise how can there be any compromise?

He's (mostly) quoting fact:

• they're coming in - Fact
• being housed in hotels - Fact
• paid allowances - Fact
• with no checks - Fact
• crime rates such as rape are now ten fold etc - incorrect - it's more like 4 fold over the last 10 years and with no clear link to migrants being causal. There is however anecdotal evidence that countries with similar migration to the UK (Sweden for example) have experienced similar increases in reported rape whereas countries with stricter immigration (Hungary / Poland for example) have not seen such large increases [source - statista]
• He thinks Trump is great - I'm agnostic on this one but it's a subjective opinion

[Edited as source auto corrected]

Same here op, and I tell him not to read too much about it or go down any rabbit holes because it just makes you more stressed.

I can see his point to some degree, but we will discuss different points of view so there is balance.

i think most of us are pretty disillusioned with politics and the state of the uk at the moment. He is a hard worker and high earner but that comes with long hours and a lot of time away. It is difficult to argue that money is tighter and priorities of the government seem wrong.

Basically we both agree that we can’t stand labour!

Ridiculous. I've 2 teens and guess what, they have their own opinions and it's not always aligned with mine or my husbands...its like they're their own people with there own minds 😱

He isn’t wrong about rape. I d just looked it up. Is it extreme right wing to be concerned about this?

I wouldn't consider that "far right"

i am pretty tolerant but all the people coming in on dinghies needs to be controlled,
the hotels for asylum seekers needs to be controlled
the government is dealing with it.

Yes, this is one of his main arguments - he's paying X taxes to fund illegal immigration but there's homeless people in the country without help. Obviously some people are entering without checks and, in some cases, are committing crimes. I think he's seeing lots of the 'worse case' stuff on social media etc. and as we all know, the algorithms then give you more and more of it!

In answer to a question, he hasn't been involved in any rallies or protests. He hasn't been hanging flags. He does agree with core ideologies of extreme right wing. I'm not clued on on politics (I know, it's terrible) so don't waleays have a good 'comeback'.

Of course you can't break up your family because you have differing views - are the MNers encouraging you to LTB going to be there sharing the parenting with you?

Also, does this constitute extreme right wing?

Or just right wing views?

I would say that a large number of people who I know probably agree with a lot of what he says!

the dc will make their own minds up

I wouldn't be with someone like that and I certainly wouldn't be showing my children it's an acceptable view to have or simply 'agreeing to disagree' so the house would be miserable anyway unless he agreed to shut up about it.

I’d already be divorcing him. Sure he could find a fellow patriot on a march somewhere.

He's never expressed views like this before in the time you've been married and raising a family?

some of you are so narrow minded, it is frightening.
ltb indeed.

You may find this interesting OP - https://slate.com/life/2025/03/donald-trump-divorce-marriage-politics-men-women.html