Husband has extreme right wing views

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Not sure if this is the right place to post as it's not an AIBU but more of I think my husband is being and I'm not sure what to do about it.

He's getting caught up in some quite extreme right wing views in regards to migrants. Complains about how they're coming in, being housed in hotels, paid allowances etc. with no checks and how crime rates such as rape are now ten fold etc. He thinks Trump is great 😪 He's very intelligent so I'm not sure how he's managed to get caught up in this extremist view point.

WWYD?

Hopefully OP takes these comments with a giant grain of salt and knows that asking this question on this particular forum is simply asking for this particular answer. It’s a bubble away from reality here.

It doesn't really matter what a British man thinks about Trump.

Hes an American president and not one that they can vote for.

When I hear a British person bigging up Trump they might as well be praising Kim Karadshian .

Yeah you tell yourself that if it makes you feel better!

And the winner of the dumbest comment on here goes to ..

No, it has nothing to do with "shaky houses", it is about basic standards.

Some of us just wouldn't want to stay in a relationship with someone who holds what we consider to be morally repugnant views. Would you really want to stay with your partner in that scenario?

Dh and I have different views on lots of things but we share the same basic values and the same sense of right and wrong. I wouldn't be able to have a relationship with someone who I despised.

Some of you are crazy. End a marriage because you disagree with your husband.

No not all of them are. SOME are economic migrants. SOME Are criminals and yes some are genuine asylum. We are definitely allowed be concerned, as they are all being housed in hotels without checks around the UK.

Edit: Wrong Thread.

I don’t get the argument about “70% of men think this way”

So? Does that mean OP or anybody has to accept that.

I mean I would it find it very unattractive. I would encourage him to dig a bit deeper and not misplace his anger.

What happens if your kid falls in love with a person that isn't white or isn't British? WIll that be okay or will they be disowned?

But he’s allowed to feel that way. He’s certainly not alone! I assume you’d agree that people are allowed to exercise their democratic freedoms in this county and protest or demonstrate if they wish?

You agree that lots of what he said is true. And with respect, I’d say the world can’t operate on feelings alone - as much compassion as you may have for people, ultimately they need to be financed, housed, educated, and then there’s are huge cultural issues at play.

Ultimately he’s perfectly entitled to his opinions. They’re no less valid than yours. And you say yourself he’s better informed. You can’t critique his ideas/views if you don’t know, or you’re not clued up.

Leave! Or kick him out.

I couldn’t get worked up about this op. He is hardly extreme right wing. I think you are being a bit ott. Mumsnet is, on the whole, I think, quite far left, so you will get extreme views the other way on this.

If it’s true, how is it extreme?

I ( as do my sisters ) have the same problem with Mother

Unfortunately we cant divorce her, although both sisters have put more then enough miles between them that they dont have to deal with it

Mother lives with me

I cope by refusing to have her SM on my feed and getting up and walking out of a room when she starts her racist shit

Best of all, all her grandchildren are of mixed race

If my husband were of the same views as her - Id be out of that marriage because I have the choice

I chose my husband, mother Im stuck with

You rock on with your own marriage as you see fit.

Thats the point.

“Far left”

😂

That's fine then. But will his views change? Is he going to indoctrinate your children with his views? What happens if they get older and they have a non white partner or are gay? How will you/he feel about his views or is it just the migrant issue (for the moment)

Of course they wouldn’t be disowned, what an extreme response 🙄

Why assume they would not?

I agree with your husband although I’m not a fan of Trump. I live in Ireland and have the same concerns.

I’ve just been on the gov website to check crime figures. The stats are that per capita crimes committed by black people are twice that of white. So it’s a valid claim. I guess you could probably claim discrimination in numbers arrested but that would be anecdotal rather than evidenced I think? I don’t know btw. But I think these things should be talked about and both sides listened to rather than simply ‘he’s right and thus bad and I’m left and thus great.’

It is odd that expressing concern about immigration is now considered to be an extreme right-wing viewpoint. How did we get here?

Why? A person with right wing views may well be against other sections of society. Gay people are seemingly always a target.

Some of the responses here are comically extreme. Leaving him over this is just ridiculous.

It’s normal for people’s views to shift over time. The important thing is to have an open conversation with him. Listen to him, try to understand his perspective, ask why his views have changed, and what his concern and fears are. Share your own concerns honestly too.

Holding right leaning views doesn’t make someone a bad person. Unfortunately political debates often turn into one side labeling the other as evil. But really, who decides that your views are ‘right’ and his are ‘wrong’? What matters is whether you can respect each other, listen, and find common ground.