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To be miffed DH is having a job interview on our holiday?

150 replies

tempon · 24/08/2025 07:04

We are currently having our yearly fortnight in the sun. DH is unhappy at work and been looking for a new job for months. One finally came up and he had first and second round in person. There is a third round with the big bosses. Then fourth round to meet other team members

Company said he could do it on teams remotely or he could do it in 2 weeks time when we get back from Spain. DH decided to do it on holiday. So now he is busy preparing rather than chilling out by the pool.

OP posts:
OhNoNotSusan · 24/08/2025 07:05

hopefully he will get the job?
and once the interview is over he can relax?

Zanatdy · 24/08/2025 07:06

I guess he just wants to get it done and not have it hanging over him for a few more weeks.

Spies · 24/08/2025 07:08

Well I'm not sure I would be able to relax on holiday thinking about having to have yet another interview once I got back so I would have done the same as him and got it over with.

Yes it's frustrating but hopefully once it's over he can relax although I'm not sure how him not chilling by the pool is annoying you so much. It's probably more frustrating for him but unfortunately sometimes shit like this happens and he sounds like he's being very proactive.

Confusdworriedmum · 24/08/2025 07:09

He's not happy at work. If he has to wait two weeks he won't be relaxed anyway and it makes a better impression if he can do the interview sooner.
Presumably you want him to be happy in life generally, not just on holiday so I'd support him. Can't he just chill out after the interview (obviously depending when it is).

RubySquid · 24/08/2025 07:09

So what? A few hours preparing for this interview which could make him happier in the rest of his working life and you are moaning because he's doing that rather than dossing around a pool? Not even as if hou have a once in a lifetime trip planned

Seriously get a grip. If he's had that many interviews then I'd say he's got a good chance of getting the job.

If he didn't do it while away he might spend rest of the holiday mentally preparing anyway.

Ifailed · 24/08/2025 07:09

Extra brownie points for him being prepared to do it whilst away

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 24/08/2025 07:10

Good for him. Hope it goes well.

BallerinaRadio · 24/08/2025 07:10

If he's been looking for months and has been really unhappy in a little surprised you're not being more supportive of him here, Wayfair especially with it being a 'fortnight in the sun' you'll still have plenty of time to lounge around the pool 🙄

I hope you're a bit more supportive irl and not adding more pressure to the interview

Unexpecteddrivinginstructor · 24/08/2025 07:12

Sounds like he would have spent the holiday preparing if it would have been just after he got back anyway so at least this way it will be over at some point and he can enjoy the holiday.

EsmeWeatherwaxHatpin · 24/08/2025 07:12

Fingers crossed he gets it. I’m looking for a new job right now too and if he’s been offered an interview it looks much better if he just takes the earlier slot they have offered.

Take yourself off to a spa treatment or the beach, or do something you want to do that he doesn’t, so you’re making use of the time as well.

Empress13 · 24/08/2025 07:12

It’s for your future more important than lounging around a pool. He’s got the rest of the holiday for that. Hope he gets the job OP

InterestedDad37 · 24/08/2025 07:13

Probably best to get it out of the way on hols - (ridiculous process though, with 4 stages!)
As long as he doesn't do it lying on an inflatable with a cocktail in his hand and naked from the waist up, and glistening with suntan lotion 😀

Iocainepowder · 24/08/2025 07:13

I would do the same. I wouldn’t be able to relax on holiday knowing other people are being interviewed. I would feel worried that the recruiters would be making up their mind before waiting 2 weeks for me.

Be happy that is is being proactive to improve something he is unhappy with.

HappiestSleeping · 24/08/2025 07:14

I am with your husband. Decent jobs are few and far between at the moment, so take every opportunity that arises. Short term pain for long term gain and all that.

GRex · 24/08/2025 07:15

It's really tricky to get directors aligned for these sort of meetings; him doing this on holiday rather than leaving it 2 weeks will go strongly in his favour. You should support him, which given that only requires you to go out for a swim and book read doesn't sound too tricky. Good luck to him.

chatgptsbestmate · 24/08/2025 07:15

I'm Team Husband

tinytemper66 · 24/08/2025 07:15

I hope the interview pans out and he gets the job. You can all enjoy the holiday then. A non issue.

NuovaPilbeam · 24/08/2025 07:16

He is sensible.

During the two week wait they will be processing other candidates and most places will offer the role to the first good one they come across.

Needspaceforlego · 24/08/2025 07:16

Good luck to him.
I don't think you can ask him not to do the interview. And hes right it makes sense to do it because you never know if bosses need to wait two weeks they might decide that timing for another candidate works better.

Often bosses want to get someone in before someone else leaves so they get some sort of hand over.

BeLoyalCoralHiker · 24/08/2025 07:17

If I was him I would do the same

Notmyrealname22 · 24/08/2025 07:18

I voted YABU. They’ve offered to wait the two weeks to do the interview, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t interviewing others at the same time. They could well find someone they like and offer them the job, without your DH getting his opportunity. Or make up their minds and have DH as the backup option. He should definitely do the interview sooner rather than later.

PollyBell · 24/08/2025 07:22

I dont see a problem it doesn't affect anyone but him

GreenWheat · 24/08/2025 07:23

Good grief, you should be supporting him in this. Once the interview process gains momentum you need to keep on it. Sure, they're "happy" to wait til after your holiday but that won't look good for him, plus they won't wait if they find someone in the meantime. Sometimes you have to make sacrifices to get what you want. I am surprised you can't see this.

Thelosthalfathought · 24/08/2025 07:23

I’m also on your DH’s side.

Last year my DH was made redundant 2 weeks before our annual holiday. He was talking to recruiters, having multiple interviews some days on the phone. We had to pivot our plans to make sure we were in areas that had good network coverage as we were staying in a family caravan with no wifi in rural France. We went and looked at multiple Roman ruins the DC and I in cities rather than lazing on the beach. Luckily by the end of the holiday he had two job offers to choose from including multiple job interviews in person for when we got home. It was like he was doing a job on holiday - however he secured a great job which was a step up from where he was. A year later he is much happier than in the job he lost.

Rasell · 24/08/2025 07:26

I agree that you sound really unsupportive in your post. We don't know what's been happening and I'm sure that if husband has been unhappy and looking for a new job there's probably been quite a lot of stress and you've been looking to the holiday, but he's there and is just preparing for and doing one interview. It's probably made all the difference to the outcome amd will be two less weeks he has to stay in the job he hates. If I were you I'd take him out for some celebratory drinks after the interview, tell him how proud you are and then get on and have a fantastic holiday together! If I were him I'd also take you out for a thank you meal for being so supportive! All the best

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