To be miffed DH is having a job interview on our holiday?

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We are currently having our yearly fortnight in the sun. DH is unhappy at work and been looking for a new job for months. One finally came up and he had first and second round in person. There is a third round with the big bosses. Then fourth round to meet other team members

Company said he could do it on teams remotely or he could do it in 2 weeks time when we get back from Spain. DH decided to do it on holiday. So now he is busy preparing rather than chilling out by the pool.

So your peace on holiday is more important than his mental well-being being?

You aren't a very supportive OH are you?

My DH had 2 interviews on our honeymoon - he had been made redundant the week before we got married and he got the choice of waiting til we returned (but the job may be gone by then because they were interviewing). A job is hugely important, its every day of your life, its a wage, the abilityto live, your annual holiday is a lot less important.

You need to realise priorities - and youre don't trump his.

(Edit: accidently posted twice.)

I would just want to get it over with so I don’t blame him.

This 100% Poor sod doing his best for his family.

Why does it bother you if he's not relaxing in the sun. Why wouldn't he do it now to try get through the process faster and not have it hanging over him. I cannot believe anyone would be so unsupportive. This post reflects really badly on you as a partner op.

Surely you can cope without him for a few hours ?! It’s much better he has it now as if they are seeing other candidates he needs to be in the frame along with them - if he waits they could appoint from those who made themselves available

@ChicaWowWow- I get it. DH (senior marketing professional) has been applying for over a year after being made redundant. He's had so many positive reactions to his CV, endless cups of coffee with his network, near misses etc and he's still not got anything. Only 5% of employees are over 50 apparently (in his area) so a hideous job market and his age are not helping.....

Stay positive, I'm sure you will get something, just as I'm sure DH will eventually!!

Annoying for sure. But I would be very quickly having a word with myself and then being his cheerleader as he would for me. Your on holiday! Enjoy it. Hopefully you get to celebrate it having gone well.

Best of luck to your dh. I imagine he couldn’t enjoy the holiday anyway knowing an interview was waiting so best to get it done

He is doing the interview to presumably benefit your family. Maybe try being supportive, it’s not like this is a yearly occurrence. Also as nice as they are, a holiday isn’t more important than securing a job.

Is this a reverse? You have 2 weeks and you're complaining that he takes what, a couple of hours to hopefully get a job that would make him a lot happier?

You can surely lie by a pool on your own for a few hours?

I echo what others are saying and hope you haven't said this out loud to him!

From an employers perspective him doing it on teams and showing he is willing to be flexible to company needs will hold a bit of weight as well.

Yes there is a bit of prep time and the actual interview but in the grand scheme of things it's nothing compared to him being unhappy at work.

If you have voiced this out loud then I think you should apologise to your DH.

If he is looking for a job an invite has come up that can be done during the holiday he needs to do it, if it’s a job he wants. If he waits till after the job could have been filled.

please just be supportive of him here and don’t show any annoyance. You (and anyone else) make sure you are out during the time of the interview so that there is no risk of disruption.

Been there done that and wholly supportive of him. I’m sure it’s not been ideal for your DH either but I hope he gets the new job.

It won't be too bad, it happened to me this Summer, we still got most of the holiday and I had a couple of very chilled days, unfortunately not successful so still looking hopefully no repeat in our next holiday.

Same as everyone else I don’t see the issue

waiting till home means he won’t relax on holiday

interviewing while away shows he has commitment.

company could see someone they really like and he’s missed it

a bit more support would be nice for him

hope he gets the job

Good for him, just a shame he doesn’t get any support.

He could probably do with your support, 4 big interviews must have been stressful for him. Sounds like he's doing well too, being through to the last round.

If I were him I'd want to get the last one out of the way rather than have it hang over me all holiday.

Once it's over have a word with him, tell him he's done his best now and he can put it out of his mind for the rest of the holiday. Then make a pair of cocktails and sit in the sun together!

This has happened to me and I encouraged my DH to go for it. He got the job. It was a big deal and a major pay increase. It’s just an interview, a few hours, even with prep. If he’s unhappy, he’s being proactive and trying to change his situation. Aren’t you pleased about that?? Sometimes timings don’t work out perfectly.

I'd be miffed with him too. You want him to be relaxing with you.

And I'd also do the interview on holiday to get it over and done with if I were in his position.

It's ok to feel miffed whilst understanding why and wanting success for him. It's not a one or the other. You can feel both.

Just don't tell him you feel miffed! Support him in every way possible to make the interview path a smooth one.

Good luck with the outcome!

My thoughts exactly

He' obviously really keen on getting this job - it's really important to him so let him play the interview process how he wants to. This is his call. Be supportive rather than miffed.

I was going to comment my opinion but I’d like to think after reading this thread OP you can see how unreasonable and selfish you’re being

Why would you want him to wait 2 weeks?? It could be offered to another candidate by then.

This way, he may even get an offer before you get home! Good luck to him.