To be miffed DH is having a job interview on our holiday?

[tempon]

We are currently having our yearly fortnight in the sun. DH is unhappy at work and been looking for a new job for months. One finally came up and he had first and second round in person. There is a third round with the big bosses. Then fourth round to meet other team members

Company said he could do it on teams remotely or he could do it in 2 weeks time when we get back from Spain. DH decided to do it on holiday. So now he is busy preparing rather than chilling out by the pool.

So what would you do in his place? The same? Or possibly forego the job in favour of your holiday? Poor man, he is probably doing his best.

I mean it depends how much prep time he is doing. Is he using the interview as an excuse to check out of family life and leaving OP to do all the grunt work. Prepping for a day or two is fine but any longer than that could be a piss take.

So what? Attending the interview outweighs lazing in the sun. It's not like he is missing out on a packed itinerary. I don't understand why you are miffed. He isn't stopping you from enjoying. Be supportive and I hope the interview goes well.

I think he’s been really sensible. The job market is tough at the moment. He needs to do all he can to show he is the best man for the job. This is showing he is proactive and willing to work hard.

It’s a few hours. Then he can relax. Good luck to him.

Report back to let us know if he succeeds.

So he's unhappy at work and taking good steps to change that. I'd be proud of him and supportive. Let him go do the interview then once it's done he will be able to relax and enjoy the holiday. Also is it really a good look for a candidate to hold up the whole process by 2 weeks? Probably not.

I know it would take me right out of holiday mode if I knew I was going back to do an interview. I'd want it over and done with while it's fresh in my head then I can relax and not worry.

That is so selfish!
You, not him. Give the guy a break, good luck to him and not just with the interview!

If he did it when you got back from holiday, he would still be preparing for the interview whilst on holiday .... and probably taking more time over it. so I'm not sure why that would be better. I'm with him - better to get it done now.

It sounds like his job hunt hadn’t been too smooth, so he is right to jump at opportunities as they arise.

My cousin just got to final round and thought everything was going great to be told that ‘another candidate was more ahead in the process’ of meeting the seniors so her application was pulled! Timing matters. Be supportive and good luck to your DH.

What's the issue? Can't you do your own thing for a few hours?

Team husband here

I don't understand your attitude.

I'd rather he missed a bit of holiday prepping and interviewing, than being unhappy at work. Especially now the job market has tightened up. Once the interview is over he can relax and enjoy the holiday.
Being unhappy at work could be for months. In time that'll impact on you, because he'll get less happy as time goes on. He needs to seize the opportunity now, now being more convenient to the new company - if they have to wait 2 weeks is there a second candidate who can be interviewed now, and that they might prefer?.

I hope he does well and gets the job.

What the hell is wrong with you?

Job searching is soul destroying and hard, especially when you're trying to leave an existing miserable work situation. If this is an opportunity to hopefully get a new, better role, then you should be supporting him, not moaning he's not plunked in a lounge chair for a few extra hours next to you. FFS

Can't see the issue with this at all. Rather controlling of you to even feel like this.

I don't understand why you wouldn't support him with this. It doesn't stop you lounging by the pool and enjoying yourself so what is the problem? Leave him to it and you can enjoy a bit of time by yourself.

@tempon

Yes YABVVU. Being unhappy at work is awful and really plays havoc with your mental health.

Your DH has been unhappy at work for a long time. This sounds like this might be the opportunity he's looking for. You should be being supportive, not feeling miffed.

Let him get on with it while you chill by the pool with a book. Then when he's finished you can chill together.

Good luck to your DH. Hope he gets the new job. Sounds like he deserves it.

Is this a reverse?

As someone who previously worked in the employment/recruitment field. 100% this it will actually make him stand out as the fella they interviewed whilst he was on his family holiday. It really shows willing and a hunger for the job and where his priorities are.

@tempon Hopefully you’re not making life difficult for DH because of this. I’m surprised you’ve not figured it our yourself why this whilst not ideal is the best strategic approach. IMHO you’ve taking a very short minded and selfish view on DH actions.

Good for him

I can't see why it affects you if he is not by the pool for a couple of hours.

Job interview is more important than the holiday.

Think you are being totally unreasonable. If he’s having this many interviews presumably it’s not a junior job. You have to expect some sacrifice. It’s a two week holiday. So you have to sieve every minute together?

Sometimes things just work out that way?

He was right to do it earlier rather than later.

Can you not read a book for a few hours on your own?

How dare he! Ruining YOUR lazy holiday by shortening his own holiday and preparing to try to get a better job while you enjoy the sun and the pool. The cheek of the man.
Get your ducks in a row and dump him immediately.

What's your contribution to supporting the family, OP?

It’s not ideal timing, but hopefully will be a great opportunity. Why would you not support this?