To be miffed DH is having a job interview on our holiday?

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We are currently having our yearly fortnight in the sun. DH is unhappy at work and been looking for a new job for months. One finally came up and he had first and second round in person. There is a third round with the big bosses. Then fourth round to meet other team members

Company said he could do it on teams remotely or he could do it in 2 weeks time when we get back from Spain. DH decided to do it on holiday. So now he is busy preparing rather than chilling out by the pool.

Not sure how DH preparing for an interview affects your ability to enjoy relaxing by the pool. To be honest, you sound very selfish. It’s DH’s holiday too, don’t you think he has good reasons for wanting to do the interview while he’s away? Couple of obvious ones: if he gets it out of the way, he can relax and enjoy the rest his break. It will be on his mind for the rest of the holiday otherwise. If they interview a strong candidate while you’re away, they may decide to offer without interviewing your DH.

Given that it seems this holiday is all about you, maybe your DH is also appreciating the time doing something he wants to do.

So what? Is he the only one who works?

I’m really surprised you can’t see how unreasonable you’re being. In a long holiday he’s out of action for a short period so that he can do something that’s important to him and will improve his quality of life he hates his current job.

Also, he may not want to spend his whole holiday with the thought of a job interview hanging over him. This way it gets it out of the way.

He needs a job he can be happy in to support his family, so I think his family could support him on this without it being that big a deal.

And the prize for most supporting wife goes tooo….well not you of course

edited to say i dont know how that gif got in there

You’re being incredibly unreasonable. If he left it for the 2 weeks they might sell hire someone else. This is the least-worst option.

Do you not work? Have you never been through a hiring process? Do you not have any idea how bad the job market is right now?

How disappointingly unsupportive of you

Please don't tell me you're sulking and moaning to him about this

Your poor DH is unhappy at work

He's been looking for months

Sounds like he's nearly got it over the line

And you're bitching like a spoiled brat

Be supportive, if not, your nonsense will spoil the holiday much more than his interview

Wow, you sound really supportive 🙄

It's not ideal, but I would have done the same. Currently looking for a job too and getting an interview, let alone progress through the process, is so so hard and rare (it is for me anyway, I must be so shit and unemployable 😪) that I would not waste time and would get the earliest interview as possible. 2 weeks is a long time to wait, and if there are still other candidates, I wouldn't want the hiring team to see others and have 2 weeks to consider them before seeing me for the last interview as they might have their mind set by then (consciously or not).

Sorry the timing is such, and it's not fun for you and him right now, but I truly hope he gets the job - then you can celebrate and go on more holidays another time. Best of luck to him, the job market is so fucking ruthless.

As someone whose DH was made redundant a year ago, who has applied for 100s of jobs, and had a handful of interviews, and still hasn't secured anything, I would be supportive and encouraging..the job market is hideous currently so well done him for securing this opportunity.

It's a two week holiday, not a long weekend, so just go and enjoy doing something for you, and let him shine in his interview!

It’s a huge priority for him to get this job. He’ll be happier at work and hopefully it might mean more more for the family which will make life a bit sweeter for you.

Please be kind and supportive - this is for all of you.

Once it’s over you’ll have his full attention.

I did the same, I had to make and submit a video. I'd already travelled when the request came in so I had to do it wearing a t shirt in my hotel room.

It's just a few hours and its important.

I got the job!

You've got to strike while the iron is hot and appear keen. He probably also doesn't want the interview hanging over his head while he's away. He can probably relax better getting it out of the way. Team DH here.

Sometimes real life takes priority. I went on holiday with my SIL this year and she had some projects to complete for a course with deadlines. It wasn't ideal but obviously I helped with her kids and gave her the space ti get it done and got the drinks in after it was completed!

I'm team DH too. Being unhappy in work sucks. I totally understand why he wouldn't want to wait 2 weeks. Apart from anything else they are presumably interviewing other people and one may impress enough to get an offer in that period.

Work is a greater priority than a yearly fortnight in the sun in this case. I’m sure your DH isn’t exactly enjoying the prospect of preparing for an interview during a holiday but needs must. You can still chill out by the pool without him; I assume he isn’t preventing you from doing that?

Your yearly fortnight in the sun without interview prep can resume next year.

It’s fine. Good luck to DH!

That’s the way it goes sometimes. This isn’t first round, it sounds like finals. It’s likely him and one or two others.
If he took the interview upon his return, do you really think he’d be chilling round the pool on holiday? Ofc not. He’d be preparing and thinking about it. At least this way, once it’s done he can disconnect,

If he had waited the 2 weeks there is the risk that another good candidate could pip him to the post; there are so many people job-hunting at the moment. It shows a real can-do attitude from him, and will likely win brownie points from the interviewers.

Yes, he’s preparing, but once he’s finished you’ll both have plenty of time to relax in the holiday. You sound like you don’t want him to be happy at work, when actually you need to be supportive.

You have 2 weeks.

He’s been unhappy. Has finally found something he’ll be happy with and hopefully pays more?

A few days of you reading by the pool without him by your side is a small price to pay.

Even if he did it when you return he’d still have to prepare whilst you’re away?

speak to him and compromise. You have a few hours whilst he prepares, you go for a walk for lunch or whatever you usually do and he prepares during time you’d be back poolside.
Dinner he’s totally focussed on the holiday.

Good for him. I hope he gets the job. Take him.a coffee and cake and wish him.well.

You're not 'shit and unemployable' - it's REALLY REALLY tough out there. I've just been recruiting at work for a PT min wage admin job and we've had over 200 applications - from people with masters in STEM subjects to people who've never had a job....keep your head up and try and stay positive.

This wouldn't be a problem for me as work is important and enjoying your job is fundamental for so many reasons. He must be really unhappy to want to do this in his holiday time so I think its better for you to support him rather than sulking.