To be miffed DH is having a job interview on our holiday?

[tempon]

We are currently having our yearly fortnight in the sun. DH is unhappy at work and been looking for a new job for months. One finally came up and he had first and second round in person. There is a third round with the big bosses. Then fourth round to meet other team members

Company said he could do it on teams remotely or he could do it in 2 weeks time when we get back from Spain. DH decided to do it on holiday. So now he is busy preparing rather than chilling out by the pool.

Why are you miffed. Makes no sense.

I very much hope he gets the job. He's doing the right thing and you should support that.

I get that it’s annoying, but if I was your DH I wouldn’t be able to enjoy the holiday knowing I had an interview coming up. The jobs market hasn’t exactly been buoyant and I guess this shows that he’s super keen and will go above and beyond. Fingers crossed it goes well and he gets offered the position.

YABVU.

DH often has to smart-work when we're on holiday. Any road trip usually starts with me driving, whilst he works from the passenger seat. Sometimes at the beach, he'll take himself off to the bar/Wi-Fi hot-spot to work.

It's DH's job that pays for our holidays in the first place, so fine by me, but I'm a grown adult who can read a book or swim all on my own.

Is he somehow preventing you from chilling round the pool in the meantime? Assuming not, YABU.

@tempon

Wow YABU.

Your DH sounds fab - he has done well to get through the previous rounds and to do something proactive about changing a work situation that makes him unhappy. I hope he gets the job.

It's really brutal in the job market at the moment in the UK - are you aware of this? He is doing the right thing. In 2 weeks they might hire someone else.

I hope you are more supportive of him in real life because getting annoyed that he cant lounge around the pool with you for a few hours when he is doing something that will benefit you all as a family, and probably ensure more "fortnights in the sun" is really unreasonable.

I think he is doing the right thing but understand why you are feeling a bit miffed (bad timing). Hope the interview goes well.

Four rounds of interviews is absolutely obscene. I mean I do think that interviewing generally is a bit of a piss take because for most roles it’s really just a vibe check…but FOUR…all that time then you might not even get the job after 🙄🙄 YANBU Op, he chose to do it on holiday, so he needs to do it on holiday!

Or it’s the company’s fault for having such protracted interview process!

You're being incredibly unreasonable.

He's unhappy.

UNHAPPY.

He's got a chance to be happy at work, is doing well in the interview process and they want to see him for the next stage. That's brilliant.

If he delays two weeks somebody else may well be seen - and get the offer ahead of him.

And having it hanging over him could mean he's preoccupied for the rest of the holidays, so not the best company.

He needs to strike while the iron is hot. Get it off the to do list.

So stop stropping, give him space and your very best wishes and go off and do something you'd enjoy and he'd hate, then do something you'll both enjoy when it's all done and dusted.

This is important.

Tell him good luck from Mumsnet.

And this affects you negatively how?! He preps, does the interview, can enjoy the rest of the holiday. Or he puts it off, continues to stress, and doesn't enjoy it.

I think he has done the right thing, you relax and let him prepare.

Good for him. You ought to be supportive not complaining. Waiting would be a mistake - he’s showing how keen he is and that’s good. Not enjoying work is awful.

I'd do the same. Looks better to the employer and makes it less likely they'll find someone else in the meantime.

This is almost so ridiculous as to be a reverse.
if not then seriously grow up.

Just another perspective here. I’m guessing you have young children with you on holiday, and that you’re landed with most of the childcare whilst DH swotting for his interview? I do sympathise OP- hope he makes up for it when the process is complete.

What a ridiculously competitive world this is - the company should respect your family holiday time….maybe it’s a red flag for how they might be if DH gets the job?

Fifteen years recruitment experience - never ever delay an interview. He's doing the right thing.

I’m with your husband on this one OP. The interview is more important at this time and he will get brownie points for doing it on holiday.

Beyond the fact you’re coming across as being entirely unreasonable and unsupportive, are you seriously that bothered about spending some time by the pool alone? My husband and I both do have to keep on top of work whilst on holiday — at times each disappearing for a couple of hours to get something done in the room on the laptop. Entertain yourself and be supportive.

You're coming across as very unsupportive here.

Your DH is desperately trying to find a new job because he is unhappy and he is doing something about it. The job market is really brutal at the moment, my DH is still looking for a new job 5 months after being made redundant so I understand why your dh is jumping at the chance of interviewing quicker rather than later.

I’d be proud of a husband who is willing to put the extra effort in for something like this.

Lots of us own our own business or have partners who do and having to work a bit on holiday is a given. It really doesn’t have any impact on the holiday at all. In fact it’s nice to know you’ve got a handle on things and not returning to a huge pile of shit. That’s far more relaxing. I imagine your DH feels similar.

Team husband.

Recruiter here.
He has done the right thing. Candidates will still be assessed and it shows willing.

YABVVU it will land well, he will hopefully be seen with the other candidates all fresh together, rather than them deciding who they want then coming back to him. It also gets it out of the way.

Team husband here , definitely done the right thing.

Thank you so much! I've applied to so many jobs over the past 4 months. Always spend hours on each, making very tailored applications and showing portfolios and making specialised prototypes etc. and only got 1 interview (didn't go further). It's hard to keep my head up after so many rejections, so your words mean a lot, thank you 🥰