To be miffed DH is having a job interview on our holiday?

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We are currently having our yearly fortnight in the sun. DH is unhappy at work and been looking for a new job for months. One finally came up and he had first and second round in person. There is a third round with the big bosses. Then fourth round to meet other team members

Company said he could do it on teams remotely or he could do it in 2 weeks time when we get back from Spain. DH decided to do it on holiday. So now he is busy preparing rather than chilling out by the pool.

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You haven't said why you aren't happy? Surely you are capable of spending a little time without him?

Are you always this unsupportive? It’s not like you had anything exciting planned for the day.

It’s a job interview! He’s not leaving you on holiday to have 20 pints in a bar. Time for some perspective I think. Wish him well and if it’s the job he wants, I hope he gets it.

This, 100% this. His potential future employers will give him major kudos for interrupting his holiday to attend an online interview - shows he is committed, he'll get extra points for effort for sure.

Plus presumably this change is to make him happier and earn more money - both of which contribute to your family wellbeing. If I was in your shoes, I would be seeing what I could do to help him - take him a drink, entertain the kids (if you have any), so that he can have a bit of quiet time. It's literally going to be a few hours of prep and then the interview - probably 'losing' half a day of holiday.

But the outcome could be amazing and I hope that you end up going for sundowners to celebrate his having achieved a brilliant new position soon. Please be supportive, the job market is dog eat dog currently...

When you hate your job you take opportunity where is presents itself.

Id be proud of my DH for being proactive and having the drive to get himself out of that situation.

Yes its unconventional, but it could show a level of willingness to the new company which could also go in his favour.

Its 1 day, once it is over he can go can to chilling and enjoying your holiday.

Best of luck to him.

During a period of redundancy, my DH once flew home from France in the middle of a family holiday for a job interview, and then back again 36 hours later. I couldn’t fault him for it - he was doing what he needed to do to provide for our family.

The job market is horrible at the moment. Any LinkedIn scroll will find brilliant people in despair and begging for contacts and leads. Support him to the hilt in his search.

The company likely gave him this date and probably aren't able to wait a fortnight for him to come home from holiday.

You're being totally unreasonable here. You should be being kind and supportive but instead you sound like you are sulking about it.

Your DH is doing the right thing. Most of us would do the same. It's way better that he takes the first available interview opportunity than waits, looks less keen and lets someone else pip him to the post.

You can still go and relax by the pool. I am sure he will join you afterwards and will be much more ready to relax properly then, providing you don't strop over it. Be nice and wish him the very best of luck.

I’m sorry OP but I think YABU.

I’ve seen many jobs go to other candidates whilst others are on holiday and unable to interview. We might wait a week for someone strong, we’d be unlikely to guarantee the job was available after two weeks.

To give you an idea of speed, our average time to hire, from opening the role to having an offer accepted, is under 30 days. That’s with 3 stage processes.

If he is unhappy and keen on this role of course he should interview whilst away.

Somehow I knew OP wouldn’t be back. Obviously didn’t get the responses she wanted!

She sounds like a selfish teenager.

Good for him. He's unhappy at work and he's trying to do something positive about it.

Surely you can chill by yourself at the pool for a day or two while he sort this out.

Do you work?

Having just gone through similar I’m also team DH. The job market is horrible at the moment. I spent the 3 day break my DH and I had for our wedding anniversary preparing for an interview the day we got back. My DH spent hours running mock interview questions with me and never moaned once as he knew how important it was. I didn’t get that job but luckily got offered another one I’d interviewed for the day before we went away. Being in a job you hate is soul destroying as is having an unsupportive spouse. Give your head a wobble.

This has got to be a reverse. Utterly tedious and pointless. As if you’d get different responses if you posted that your DH was being this selfish and unsupportive.

I agree, the "do it now or in 2 weeks" thing could be a sort of test to gauge his keeness

This honestly wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.

The contra-post to this post is the MN wife who would be saying how she cannot live anymore with a DH who is miserable at work, brings his bad attitude home and does nothing about it.

Surely a reverse.

It depends what type of job it is but I’d also worry that if they know he’s on holiday it will tell them he will prioritise work in the work life balance scenario. Great for his interview prospects but could lead to unreasonable expectations later (speaking from experience)

Sorry OP another team DH here

if he was actually working on his holiday that would be an absolute no from me. He should have a break but this is completely different

i was on holiday for a week, they contacted me on the Fri asking for an interview on the Monday afternoon with the client. All sort of things had to be moved around and I did push them to a very late afternoon interview

30 mins after the interview I got offered the role and they cancelled the other interviews they had planned

you really can’t wait for these things in the current job market. Sending Good Luck for your DH and his interview

Hope he gets the job.

I am assuming you can sit by the pool or go out or do something else.

It shows the employer he is very interested and willing. Saying "nah, do it in 2 weeks" would put him with a lower chance of succeeding without the actual interview.
Be more supportive!

It’s very selfish of you to prioritise your feelings over your husband - who is trying to better his (and therefore the family’s) situation. Have you not considered that if he didn’t get the interview out of the way whilst on holiday, he’d just spend the whole time stressing about it? But as long as you’ve got a subbed companion, that’s all that matters…

It’s frustrating but you should be supporting him. It’s better if he gets it out of the way without it hanging over his head. You should be cheerleading him, not thinking about how it will impact your holiday. He’s not going to spend a solid 2 weeks prepping is he?