DS 16 debagged at school

[Atomsplitter]

My 16 year old year 12 student has just disclosed to me that he was debagged/pantsed by another student while on his recent D of E expedition. Luckily he managed to hold on to his underwear but still very embarrassing 😳 He also said that the same student has been trying to do the same in the common room at school. DS has to tie his shorts really tight to prevent him from pulling them down. AIBU to think this is sexual assault? This person is not his friend and is a bit of a dick according to DS. He has targeted others too apparently, some have been totally exposed. I want to contact the school but DS doesn't want me to and won't tell me the students name.

This happened on a DOE expedition?
Surely this guy shouldn't be receiving a DOE award after behaving like that?

It definitely could be sexual assault. Intent is important in this case - although the repeated nature of the incidents is extremely concerning and points to a pattern of sexually motivated behavior. Whatever the intent, however, it is definitely assault. Your child has been physically assaulted by a persistent perpetrator and continues to feel threatened. You can call the school (withhold your number if you like) and speak to the DSL and give them the info anonymously. They will investigate. You can also call the NSPCC and they will notify the school. Please DO report. I am a DSL and I would be horrified if I didn’t know this was happening in my school (I would be worried that it was my school except we don’t have 6th form. This behaviour can lead to lasting damage and must be stopped. Please report on behalf of your son - either anonymously or ask them to keep you and your son anonymous. We are very good at using information to find evidence from ‘another source’ to protect upstanders/whistle blowers. If it’s any comfort, please know that your child might tell you to do nothing, but there is a reason that they told you about the issue. They NEED you to act.

It definitely could be sexual assault. Intent is important in this case - although the repeated nature of the incidents is extremely concerning and points to a pattern of sexually motivated behavior. Whatever the intent, however, it is definitely assault. Your child has been physically assaulted by a persistent perpetrator and continues to feel threatened. You can call the school (withhold your number if you like) and speak to the DSL and give them the info anonymously. They will investigate. You can also call the NSPCC and they will notify the school. Please DO report. I am a DSL and I would be horrified if I didn’t know this was happening in my school (I would be worried that it was my school except we don’t have 6th form. This behaviour can lead to lasting damage and must be stopped. Please report on behalf of your son - either anonymously or ask them to keep you and your son anonymous. We are very good at using information to find evidence from ‘another source’ to protect upstanders/whistle blowers. If it’s any comfort, please know that your child might tell you to do nothing, but there is a reason that they told you about the issue. They NEED you to act.