AIBU to make my adult son’s lunchbox?

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Normally I wouldn’t be doing this for him but just interested to know if you think I’m BU by doing this in these circumstances. I am going to bullet point my reasons for ease of reading.

~ I’m disabled and can not contribute to the household as I used to. On my son's days off he is very good at helping with housework/cooking.
~ My son has lived away at uni so I know he can be independent. He doesn’t expect this as standard but is grateful.
~ He is working 12 hour shifts and is on his feet all day. He comes home and wakes up shattered.

I suppose it makes me think I’m doing something nice for him as he does so much for me but am I mothering him
too much?

My mum made my lunches for work for years! I had a 1.5 hour commute to work, she worked 5 minutes from home. She used to get up the same time as me, make us both a tea and have a quick chat, then I got in the shower and got ready and she would make both our lunches. I don’t think there’s anything wrong in this if your son is nice to you and appreciates it.

One of those threads where you think one thing on reading the title, another having read the post. Nothing wrong, continue as is.

I definitely would and I’d enjoy doing it too. My kids are adults and all hard working, responsible members of society. They do things for me and I do things for them. I enjoy helping them out.

No one else's business and it's a nice thing to do. Xx

I think it’s lovely and makes you part of a team! I often make my school age DS a packed lunch (old enough to make his own and often does) and on those days, I’ll often make one for DH as well. DH never makes me a lunch, however I WFH and he probably does 80% of the cooking in our house so I don’t think a cheese butty every now and again is unreasonable 😂

The OP view is that he is good at helping. Her son , her assessment and is irrelevant to the issue she raised.

Who made you thread police?

It's a nice thing to do.

its a nice gesture that I’m sure he appreciates. You sound like lovely people

I did too when my DS25 had a job where he was in the office every day. If you have time and he doesn't, why wouldn't a mother? Do what you feel comfortable with and don't worry what others think.

I was just rereading this thread whilst waiting in a car park for a very long time . The other day DS17 made me a ham
Sandwich - I was beyond surprised as he doesn't usually do things like that - he didn't ask for anything either - when I thanked him and asked why he said "I was making one and thought you might like one as well " - it was lovely -

Sorry, Wasn't sure which post to 'react to' - some are perfectly normal, but a couple sound a bit unhinged tbh - I am happy to help my adult son in any way I can - and it is totally reciprocated. He works hard, always has since leaving college, eg 12 hour shifts, he pays his way, he does various stuff at home (eg gardening, taking my car for its service etc, which I hate doing) - I am, and always will be, his Mum (& I also work full time) and to think that I should be shamed by anyone if I offer to make him lunch, or help him out in any way I can, is just madness, whoever suggested this to you?. Where has the natural kindness in this world gone? You sound like you have a lovely relationship (long & lasting) with your son.🌹

I get the impression that OP’s son is independent and would hate to be babied.

I think it's lovely. If he was expecting you to do everything for him it would be different but little acts showing your love and appreciation in these circumstances is great.

what made you think the she should specify being what being good in relation to her son, that was not what she asked when she posted. She is obviously satisfied with the help she receives so it's irrelevant.
that made it clearer for you?

I still make my daughter’s packed lunch for work. She’s a little younger than your son, aged 18 but I just enjoy doing something nice for her so if you don’t mind doing it and he seems a lovely lad helping you at home then crack on! he’s your son you love him and nobody should be judging you for that.