So overwhelmed with newborn, handhold please

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Posting here as I didn’t know where to post.

I am so overwhelmed and can’t stop crying. My beautiful little boy was born on Friday and I am finding the adjustment so difficult.

I had a very traumatic birth experience which ended in an emergency C section, so I am healing from that and am in extreme pain all while trying to settle in to motherhood and looking after a newborn.

I’m 28 and have an amazingly supportive partner who I’m so grateful for right now, my family are amazing also and my mum has been over to help us today etc.

My baby is great throughout the day, he is so chilled and feeds well sleeps etc. However, the past 2 nights at home he just will not settle at all. No matter what I do, feed him, change him, burp him etc the second we put him down in his next to me crib / moses basket he just cries. He stops crying if you pick him up and cuddle him but that means absolutely no sleep for us.

My partner has just taken him downstairs to settle him and spend the night so that I can get some rest in bed but I feel awful. I am so overwhelmed and don’t know how I am going to cope with it all. I know it’s only been 2 nights but I am dreading the evenings as it is so difficult, the hot weather is not helping matters either.

I just don’t know what to do, I am crying so much thinking about life before and how it will never be normal again. I would love to hear others experiences and for someone to tell me that it gets better I

Hi all, I just wanted to give an update incase any first time mums who are in the newborn trenches are reading this.

Things really have gotten so much better. My little boy is 3.5 months now and an absolute joy! We’ve established a good routine now and he sleeps all night apart from waking up once for a feed. He goes to bed at 7pm so I have gotten my evenings back to have some chill time.

He’s at a stage now where he is smiling a lot and curious about everything, it really is so sweet. I absolutely love waking up to his little face every morning it’s the best thing ever 🥰

Everybody said it would get easier, and I honestly didn’t believe it at the time but I am proof that it definitely does! Of course there are still hard / days moments , but it is so rewarding and with time I feel like I have learnt how to deal with the harder moments.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart to everybody who commented and filled me with hope and support when I started this thread. It really was an extremely difficult time for me but the support on here made it that little bit easier ❤️

I’ve been thinking about you OP! My little one is now 6 months and I could have written your post word for word. So glad you’re doing better

That's great to know. Enjoy the precious time with him x