To ask DH to put some inheritance towards a holiday?

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DH’s father passed away a few months ago.
He’s set to inherit around 80k. This hasn’t been discussed at all between us, however, eventually I asked him directly what he plans to do with the money and he said invest it. Fair enough. It’s his money.
WIBU to ask him to put a small portion towards a family holiday? I’d love to take the DC to Florida before our eldest leaves home. It’s not something we’d ordinarily be able to afford.
For context, over the years I’ve had a few small inheritances totalling around 8k which I’ve used for family holidays or paid into our joint account. My parents and grandparents are very generous by nature and have gifted us money for a house deposit, wedding etc, taken us on holidays, loaned money for home improvements, given cash gifts at Christmas, whereas his parents were really quite frugal. We come from families that despite having similar incomes, have very different attitudes to money and it’s reflected in our own outlooks on money I think!
I kind of feel that he’s benefitted considerably over the years from the generosity of my wider family so AIBU to ask him to use some of this money to pay towards a family holiday or is it a bit grabby?!

His father died only a few months ago. He's probably not really ready to think in detail about what he could do with the money. There is no rush to spend it.

Many years ago, I had a small inheritance, which went straight into helping to reduce our mortgage. Then my partner had one, which went straight into her visiting a friend who lives somewhere exotic.
I didn't grumble at the time, but perhaps I should have 🤔
(We're no longer together, but different reasons)

Last year, I received an inheritance following the death of my remaining living parent. DH and I opted to split what we did with it. We did some sensible things - paid a chunk of the mortgage off to make the monthly payments more managable, put some aside for savings. Things for the future, all good and a prudent decision. But, as we normally only have very cheap holidays for a week here, long weekend there - we had an incredible family 'holiday of a lifetime' before our teenage kids start to go their own ways.

This year our eldest son died unexpectedly. We're obviously heartbroken but have some truly amazing memories of our time away together which are something we will always cherish and think back on often. I'm not here for sympathy but as someone who has been reminded the hard way that the future isn't promised. I don't regret for one second spending some of our inheritance on things to enjoy in the present, as a family, making memories.

You aren't being unreasonable. If your small inheritances and your parents' generous cash gifts were shared and spent on stuff that benefitted you both, he should do the same with his.

Her money was small amounts which if invested would be almost irrelevant and were over several years (ie maybe £1K a year for years.)

Also, we don't know if he was happy about how it was being spent. Maybe he just went along with her choices.

There's a massive difference between buying a new sofa for £1K or a UK holiday, and spending £15K on a trip to Disneyland.

I received an inheritance after my parents died and it took a while to start spending any of it because I was still grieving and it didn’t seem right to splash out , maybe he needs more time.

You could suggest it. I inherited £58k a couple of years ago - £44k cleared the mortgage, had a holiday at around £1.5k then a few new electrical goods. The rest went into savings.