Torn on attending a wedding with a positive covid test

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Hello All,

Just looking for advice really, I've been feeling under the weather with cold symptoms after going to a festival and I did a covid test today and its positive. My partner has done a test and is negative. We're both due to travel up country tomorrow, for a wedding on Saturday. I don't know the couple, I am meant to be meeting them for the first time during this wedding. My partner has another covid test that he'll take tomorrow.

I had my partner message the groom to let him know, and he's said for both of us to come anyways, and to just not make a big song and dance for testing positive, he's said about 90 people are going and the chances of someone else having it, irregardless of me, is quite high. My partner will still go without me, I think, but has said he'll be sad without me there, and is of the opinion that if the groom is fine with it, I should still go. But of course, there could be people in attendance who are vulnerable.

However I feel really torn, because my best friend has said she'll be really disappointed in me if I go, and that I don't know these people, so technically I won't be missing out on much - which is true. She said if I was asymptomatic that would be different, but I do have common cold symptoms, but they are manageable with cold and flu medicine.

Just seeking some advice really, if the groom had of said 'she can't come with covid' it would have been so much easier, but now I'm torn between my partner and the groom saying to come, and my best friend saying it would be the wrong thing to do. Would it be unreasonable for me to still go?

This is such a selfish attitude. Yes we do care. And if you are going to take a test, which is the responsible thing to do, you should abide by the outcome. Chances are you will feel shit anyway.

I read an article about a projection of LC and how it could disable the world. Or at least stop the world functioning as we know it.

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow I think I read the same article. As everyone keeps getting infected over and over eventually everyone may have some form of long covid, even those who started off incredibly healthy, due to the cumulative damage from endless infections. Society just cannot function with the majority of people having a chronic illness and it's not going to lead anywhere good unless things change. Sadly it really doesn't need to be this way. If we made it a priority as a society to make sure every public building had high quality hepa air filtration that would significantly reduce the spread of infection. We also need to normalize staying home when ill or wearing a mask if that is not possible. Also schools need to stop pushing children to go in when they are ill.

Bearing in mind the hysteria in these boards and assertions that people were potentially killing grannies if they went for a walk on the beach, I am astounded at this thread.

I was shouted down again and again for saying the covid response in 2020 was disproportionate. I still think it was disproportionate. However, I would not then or now, have freely mingled with covid.

How can opinions have moved so far in such a short space of time.

It's worrying how many people here think COVID isn't a thing or doesn't matter any more.
It's an infectious disease that can kill vulnerable members of our communities and turn into long COVID for healthy people. Why on earth take a disease like that to a wedding of all places? And just because to OP it's just a cold doesn't mean it'll manifest itself like that for everyone.

At a wedding you'll presumably be in assigned seating for a significant amount of time during speeches and while having a meal.

You can choose to go and sit next to these people knowing you have symptomatic Covid. They don't get a choice.

If I was attending a wedding and I found out that the person I was essentially stuck next to had symptomatic Covid, I'd be pretty angry with both them and the groom. If I then discovered they were essentially a 'plus one' I'd be absolutely livid.

Yeah, if you hadn't tested you'd maybe have assumed it's the cold and gone. Thing is, you did test. You do know. Why would you even consider it when you've said you don't really know anyone there anyway?

Im in the middle of cancer treatment. Not many know. But if I catch COVID. It prevents my treatment being able to take place and I'm at risk of being severely ill or dying .

I would really appreciate people not mingling if they know they have something like that.
There may be many people there with immunosuppression

What do you mean? You think the same posters have completely changed their attitude? I wouldn't have a clue what anyone's stance on this thread was 5 years ago, and that's not taking into account namechanging etc.

You believe this virus has always existed.

ok .

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Yeah, I think the number itself will be irrelevant to those people & only maybe if affects someone they love very much will they actually realise the impact it can have.

I wish we could forget about it too.

If you had the flu (as opposed to a cold) you wouldn’t be physically able to leave home. You’d be in bed.

For all the PP saying it doesn't matter, how nice it must be to be so fortunate with your health that you don't give COVID a second thought. No doubt you are the type of selfish people I caught my most recent round of COVID from. Think about others not just yourself.

A drip out of a tap is water, a flood is water.

different impacts.

Beggars belief doesn't it.

Now that's a Groom you can be proud of! What a sweetheart 💕

Keep trying! Maybe one day, people will listen!! 💐

Why are you still taking Covid tests? You need to move on.

Do you fancy the job of Health Secretary?

It's her opinion so it's just as valid as actual fact.

No, because colds are not as infectious as COVID, or as POTENTIALLY LIFE THREATENING.

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Obviously don’t go to a wedding while testing positive for Covid. Why do you even need to ask?

I would be so angry if my baby DC or elderly DM caught it from someone doing this!

If it were me and I felt well enough I’d go but wear a face mask and avoid kissing or hugging anyone, or talking too close to anyone vulnerable.

Plenty of research now shows face masks/ coverings significantly reduces transmission of droplets/ covid virus.

Yes! There’s no proof that it didn’t! It’s just a different strain of it IMO. I believe we were brainwashed into being terrified and it ruined many lives. Now many are still having vaccines for something I don’t think is necessary. I had two vaccinations so I’m not saying I also wasn’t initially brain washed but it’s scary what we are led to believe by the media etc when it suits.

Are you a virologist or medical doctor?