I’m drained and he has to start helping

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My partner and I have been together 2 years. We don’t live together but he’s at my place 6 days a week. Its been like this a little over a year. I’m starting to become overwhelmed because since he’s started staying over more my bills have sky rocketed. He’s not helping and I’m stressing about bills. I have only asked him 3 times for help with a bill and afterwards he sort of complains that he is so broke and it makes me feel bad because he would have it if I didn’t need help.

Well I can’t do it anymore. I plan on sitting down with him and telling him if he’s going to be here this much he has to help out. I don’t expect him to help out on every bill, but I think the electric and water is reasonable and just half.

am I being unreasonable? He does not have his own place he lives with his siblings and prefers coming over to my place. We’re both 23 and we both work.

If you really had read all OP's posts before you commented you would have known that she has ended the relationship when he revealed the full extent of his fuckwittage.

So your contribution was entirely redundant.

Another one saying well done OP. I think when you look back on the relationship you will see lots of other signs of unreasonable controlling behaviour.

Please take some time to really learn from this and establish clear boundaries for yourself. That way you can end relationships as soon as you see the signs of cocklodging or controlling behaviour.

Remember time is the most important commodity when dating. If you are spending your time on wasters then you are missing out on meeting someone great and you won’t get that opportunity back again. Value your time. Shit treatment at the beginning means shit treatment forever. Don’t think they will change. Just get out and don’t waste time waiting for that to happen

Stop wasting your time with him. When I was in my 20s I wasted my time with so many losers thinking thry would change into who I wanted them to be and they didnt and it was all just a massive waste of my time. Get a hobby, take up something that gets you out the house a few nights a week and tell him to jog on.

No, he send concerning text after leaving. I’ve been to my rental office to ask to get out of my lease and she agreed.

Well done to you.

You have a lodger who does not contribute to his room and board, not a partner, and certainly not someone who cares for you.

He has no respect for you or for himself. He thinks you're a mug - is he right?

This relationship is doomed.

Dump him.

You really didn’t read her posts at all. You read the first one, and then made your comment without paying attention to the massive difference her later posts make.

If he's threatening you please file a police report.❤️

He’s a parasite.
As above, hes a Cocklodger.
He must be good in bed? 🙄

Stop letting him take advantage. Time for big girl’s knickers.

Agreed.

Well done on getting shot of him. When I was in relationships I would make it clear very early on there would be no talk of living together for a good few years, and overnight stays would happen once a fortnight on average, I never fell prey to a cocklodger.

My goodness OP. What a horrible man! Thank goodness your dad and brother came over.
Are you ok?

Did he threaten you in the "concerning" text? If he did then please call the Police on the fucker.

How can you call this man your partner??????

What has he got to complain about?. He has basically moved in with you and only staying at his siblings place 1 night a week ( I guarantee he will be paying very minimum to sibling ).
You are perfectly entitled to ask him to split everything with you 50/50, rent/utilities/food/streaming/ council tax if in UK.
He is freeloading off you and your letting him. Does he really think he can live there and not pay his way?

He is a free loader and a real A Hole.
Get rid of him pronto.

Change the locks on your home if you need to.

Good luck without him.
🤞👍😻

He/we are in the process of downsizing into over 55 housing. He has health issues and being just the two of us, the new apartment will take nothing to run. His washing machine broke, so I started doing the washing. He drives me about to do this. We might just get a dish washer. My youngest DD lives in my house, all in, it costs me less than £400 a month to live. He pays when we go out, he paid for the last holiday. I get a good deal.

Let me guess, he's gonna "burn your house down to the ground".

Show it to the police, they'll go and have words with him. He won't be expecting that. He doesn't understand that you've changed now.

Well done op, it must have been terrifying for you - you've been brave to stand up to him. And it's good that your family have got your back.

I agree that you should report the text to the police and say that you don't feel safe. That behaviour wants nipping in the bud.