Comment to air hostess

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Just arrived on holiday and I need the wise opinions of the Mumsnet community to help me decide if I’m being super unreasonable or if I’m right to feel pissed off.

On the plane off on holiday with my DH and DD9. Half way into the journey and the air hostess (think blonde, slim, attractive) comes down the aisle selling scratch cards, Prize being another holiday. She gets to our row and DH asks for x5 tickets and cheekily says “if I win, do you come too?” to the lady selling. I’m mortified and give her an apologetic look. She gives me a somewhat sympathetic look and I’m just feeling like the biggest dickhead.

I can’t bring myself to speak to my DH out of disgust and he laughs it off and makes me feel like I’m creating a drama for no reason. Feel so upset that he would humiliate me in front of my face.

Honest opinions please. Should I have laughed along or would you be fuming? Thank you!

Off topic but I find the word actress to be more dramatic and romantic and I like the word. In another life I would much prefer to be an actress than an actor.

Also, add me to the pile of those of us who didn’t realise Air Hostess was unacceptable.
…Off to find my Time Machine and return to where I clearly belong in 1975.

Get a grip. He was just acting like a silly middle-aged man.

I would be mortified - at being married to a dick that thought he was being flirtatious. What a wanker. I hope she managed to spill a €5 coffee on him or fart in his face. Understand it's a family holiday so it's a grit teeth, hiss and kick him in the goolies eg if he's a sports fan, tell him favourite player has been sold to a rival club and ensure all WiFi options are off, only cartoon kid stuff available on TV Channels (only kid channels; he secretly loves watching Reality TV but scoffs if you watch Bake Off whereas as he's secretly signed up for multitudes of 'Real Housewives of . . .' Hopefully, you're all in a family room because imagine your nether regions are clamped shut for the foreseeable future. Plane back will be amusing - he's a marked man so hopefully, you and kids are in different Cabin or accidentally miss the flight and are forced to spend next few days in a more luxurious resort with 24 hour child care, yummy food, chilled cocktails and wall to wall hunky masseuses - all eager to demonstrate how their bespoke oils will help you de stress.

Both are fair and both are valid.

Grow up. Why the fuck does he get a pass for that.

Of course it's just a joke, he didn't mean anything, don't you have a sense of humour?

This is sarcasm for those not recognising.

Just tell him he's turning into a leering throwback , a sexist boring old fart and that his comment was creepy, cringeworthy and absolutely the opposite of witty or charming. That both you and the stewardess had vicarious embarrassment for him, and it's giving you serious ick

I feel I’ve stepped back in time. I’m 60 and these sort of lines were so commonplace then. Looking back this was the sort of line my uncle came out with all the time. I look back and wonder why he was never slapped.

i would be telling my DH that it is absolutely not OK to speak to anyone like that.

I would have taken what he said as a joke. Hardly worth crying over it and ruining the start of the holiday on a throwaway comment.

But then I have “Mandy” in her calipers playing in my head, walking down the aisle of a plane shouting “Scratch cards, get your scratch cards.”

Ugh. That was a creepy thing for him to say. Poor woman. I bet she gets remarks like that all the time from male passengers. I'd be cringing with second-hand embarrassment, OP - and wondering what he says to women when you're not around. He sounds like a dinosaur.

Brilliant! Spot-on!

I had a partner once who - slightly different scenario - when we were out at a party, we were sat on a sofa and people were dancing. He could not take his eyes off one of the younger women dancing. I saw him doing it, still doing it, so I looked at him and said his name really loudly in a sort of exclaiming way. He looked at me and said sorry. So he fully knew what I was saying and why, without me even saying it. Unfortunately it's a trait of patronising sexism and inappropriateness as many years later I've seen this in him to a degree (he is long my ex). I'd talk about how these women must have to put up with this all the time.

Its not attractive behavior.

I think it was sexist rather than misogynist.

YANBU for your turd of a DH buying scratch cards alone. That would be enough to give me the ick.
His comment is out of line. I don’t think your reaction is off.

That is a total over reaction to a flippant albeit cheap comment.You're spoiling the holiday before it starts.

i thought OP meant tears of laughter at the responses?

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Yeah, me too. Prize c*.

You could say "a crew member."

I agree with others that "air hostess" is really cringey these days. That term went out with the ark.

OP, can you plse clarify that you meant tears of laughter? I think that's probably what you meant, since right before you say "Thanks for the comments."

Now that is an over reaction! Is there something else wrong in your relationship! What he said is totally icky but unless there’s more I wouldn’t be crying!

Wtaf? He's a knob but getting that upset about it, really?

I could def see me making the same joke to a young good looking steward (or even an old good looking steward)

Sat on the coach with tears streaming down your face? Really? 😂😂

FFS

Id just embarrass him and make out you cringed yourself inside out with how silly and desperate he made himself look. Then make out you feel a bit sorry for him.