Page 33 | Friend wants me to look after her DC for 4 days

MJ1980 · 15/08/2025 21:13

GoodOldTrayBake · 15/08/2025 07:58

Send her a link to this, then block her.

Yes, do it! Nothing to lose at this point!

DobryWieczor · 15/08/2025 21:22

Omg haha what a piece of work!!

Trendyname · 15/08/2025 21:37

Gremlins101 · 15/08/2025 09:22

It's hilarious that she asked you 3 days ago, and when you messaged to say that you couldn't do it she asked what was she supposed to do at such short notice?!?!!

These parents are a different breed. I daren't even ask my in laws to take their grandkids for a long ish day.

Yes short notice when her trip is in October.

Lifestooshort6591 · 15/08/2025 22:04

Isittimeformynapyet · 15/08/2025 16:54

Are you telling OP to cancel the cheque?

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Sorry? Don't get your response.

NippyNinjaCrab · 15/08/2025 22:07

Jeez oh! Reply Ditto on her page 😂😂 i had to reply in the absence of the laughing emoji. This kind of pish cracks me up. I'm getting Amanda vibes from her upload alone 😂

Lifestooshort6591 · 15/08/2025 22:14

FlyingHighandDry · 14/08/2025 12:15

Sorry for the slow response .... busy time in work!
She read the message straight away (whatsapp 2 blue ticks) but didn't reply until this morning.
Have copied and pasted below
"Oh no hun, what am I supposed to do now? It's really short notice for me to find someone else. DC is really no trouble at all. You'd really be helping us out. Please!!"

So I replied.
"It's really nice that you would trust me, however I can't do this. You caught me on the hop and I felt obliged to say yes, however now I've had time to think about it this is not something I can commit to. I hope you get something sorted."

She's read it. No reply!!

I don't doubt that it is a genuine work trip that both her and her DH have to go on - I know their industry and it's genuine.

Thank you for giving me the kick up the bum I needed to say no!

CF!! Unbelievable.

Isittimeformynapyet · 15/08/2025 22:24

Lifestooshort6591 · 15/08/2025 22:04

Sorry? Don't get your response.

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There was a thread once (I didn't actually see it myself) that went on for days where the OP had written a cheque to someone and was worried that she was being scammed or something. The first few posters agreed it sounded dodgy and advised her to cancel the cheque, which she did, before the end of the first page.

There followed pages and pages of new posters saying "QUICK! PLEEEEASE CANCEL THE CHEQUE NOW OP!!!!!" for days.

All threads and posts have the date and time on them, so you can see how old they are and can safely assume that, 3 days and 30+ pages in, it's unlikely you've come up with something the previous 400 people hadn't thought of, or that the OP is still sitting around waiting for it.

Isittimeformynapyet · 15/08/2025 22:34

Trendyname · 15/08/2025 20:44

True but what do you do when you have a family member like that who always see themself as a victim even if they are the unreasonable ones.

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You start your own thread.

PyongyangKipperbang · 15/08/2025 22:35

Isittimeformynapyet · 15/08/2025 22:24

There was a thread once (I didn't actually see it myself) that went on for days where the OP had written a cheque to someone and was worried that she was being scammed or something. The first few posters agreed it sounded dodgy and advised her to cancel the cheque, which she did, before the end of the first page.

There followed pages and pages of new posters saying "QUICK! PLEEEEASE CANCEL THE CHEQUE NOW OP!!!!!" for days.

All threads and posts have the date and time on them, so you can see how old they are and can safely assume that, 3 days and 30+ pages in, it's unlikely you've come up with something the previous 400 people hadn't thought of, or that the OP is still sitting around waiting for it.

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Sorry to be "that person" but it was a wedding where the OP was a guest.

She put a cheque for (iirc) £50 in the card. The cheque was banked and then she got a snotty message from the bride and groom saying that they were disappointed with the amount she gave and sent her details of how to top up her gift.

The OP was unsure if she had broken some, unknown to her, rule about wedding gifts so was posting for clarity. When it was clear that the couple were appallingly rude CF's she simply ceased contact and didnt reply (again iirc, she wasnt particularly close to the couple but they judged her as being able to afford more, so expected it)

90% of responses told her to cancel the cheque, as they hadnt bothered to read the whole thread as the OP hadnt put that they had already cashed it in her OP.

"Cancel the cheque" is now MN shorthand for "Another person who didnt bother reading all the OP's posts.

Isittimeformynapyet · 15/08/2025 22:38

PyongyangKipperbang · 15/08/2025 22:35

Sorry to be "that person" but it was a wedding where the OP was a guest.

She put a cheque for (iirc) £50 in the card. The cheque was banked and then she got a snotty message from the bride and groom saying that they were disappointed with the amount she gave and sent her details of how to top up her gift.

The OP was unsure if she had broken some, unknown to her, rule about wedding gifts so was posting for clarity. When it was clear that the couple were appallingly rude CF's she simply ceased contact and didnt reply (again iirc, she wasnt particularly close to the couple but they judged her as being able to afford more, so expected it)

90% of responses told her to cancel the cheque, as they hadnt bothered to read the whole thread as the OP hadnt put that they had already cashed it in her OP.

"Cancel the cheque" is now MN shorthand for "Another person who didnt bother reading all the OP's posts.

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Thanks for correcting. I really quite like "those people" 😄 so I'm more than happy to learn the actual details of the legend!

WickedElpheba · 15/08/2025 22:43

She's not good people OP

You're better off without her!

Blondeshavemorefun · 15/08/2025 22:49

Cheeky friend indeed

well she can pay for childcare / have her family to look after the dc

Zoesherman · 15/08/2025 23:39

FlyingHighandDry · 13/08/2025 18:03

A friend has asked me to look after their 19 month old DS for 4 days / 3 nights in October while they go to a work event abroad (her and her DH work together)

I really really don’t want to do this.
She caught me on the hop asking me and I just stumbled over my words and ended up agreeing.
I will have to take time off from my job eating into my precious annual leave as even though the DC will be in nursery, they are only in 10-4 and my day including commute is 8-6.

They’ve made out like they’re doing me a favour by telling me I won’t need to have their elder DC as well as they have sorted that childcare!

Friend has a way of bulldozing people into doing things for them.
Please help me formulate something to say to back out of this.
I am a people pleaser and know I need to grow a pair….

You don’t say how long you know this friend for. Also do you have kids of your own? I really think the parents should take kids that young with them on there vacation. Have you told the mum you can’t do it? Good luck!

Zoesherman · 15/08/2025 23:40

HelplessSoul · 13/08/2025 18:05

I voted YABU because you agreed instead of telling her no/fuck off first.

And to use your own annual leave as well?

JFC.

Loving your style!

Zoesherman · 15/08/2025 23:40

Blondeshavemorefun · 15/08/2025 22:49

Cheeky friend indeed

well she can pay for childcare / have her family to look after the dc

I totally agree!

the5thgoldengirl · 16/08/2025 00:10

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I could not of put it better myself!!!!! She should sort out child care or look after her actual kids! My youngest kid is born on 2024 and I would not ever leave them with even a grand parent for like a day!

CharlieUniformNovemberTangoYankee · 16/08/2025 00:27

"Time to distance yourself from the ones who ask far too much of you. The cheeky fuckers. It's time to start telling them to fuck off"

Zoesherman · 16/08/2025 00:28

Isittimeformynapyet · 15/08/2025 17:59

Seriously? 🙄

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Are you the mum ? 🙄👍

Isittimeformynapyet · 16/08/2025 00:42

No, I'm not the CF mum.

The poster I was replying to had come in two whole days after the OP had posted the following:

"FlyingHighandDry · 13/08/2025 19:55

Thank you all.
I have sent @AbitmoreBert ‘s message

Hi X, really sorry you caught me on the hop earlier.
Having now looked at my diary and my work schedule I’m afraid it’s not going to be possible for me to have Y whilst you are away."

As I explained not far above:

All threads and posts have the date and time on them, so you can see how old they are and can safely assume that, 3 days and 30+ pages in, it's unlikely you've come up with something the previous 400 people hadn't thought of, or that the OP is still sitting around waiting for it.

Trendyname · 16/08/2025 00:47

Thelnebriati · 15/08/2025 10:59

There's nothing wrong with a 'Live, Love, Laugh' plaque.

Genius. You created this?

GameWheelsAlarm · 16/08/2025 01:00

FlyingHighandDry · 15/08/2025 07:54

Update!!
Haven't heard a peep from her but woke up to this on her facebook and instagram stories.
Totally aimed at me right?!
(hope image is attached!)

Here's an image you can post to go side by side with that.

Friend wants me to look after her DC for 4 days

SpryUmberZebra · 16/08/2025 01:02

FlyingHighandDry · 15/08/2025 07:54

Update!!
Haven't heard a peep from her but woke up to this on her facebook and instagram stories.
Totally aimed at me right?!
(hope image is attached!)

Hahaha I say good riddance.

Trendyname · 16/08/2025 01:08

UniDaysAcoming · 15/08/2025 12:10

Even better 😁
We need to vote for the best reply

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In stories comment is only visible to the person who posted it, not other connections. So ‘this’ will be seen only by her.

Trendyname · 16/08/2025 01:13

ilovesushi · 15/08/2025 12:50

Just to add absolutely don't reply or engage with her at all. But I would be so tempted to post under it - is this about you trying to dump your kids on me for four days and me politely letting you know I wouldn't be able to help you out?

Yes to this. Also add ‘expecting me to take 4 days off work.’