To not remind my husband it's my birthday?

[DoneWithThisShizzle]

That's it exactly. It's my birthday in approximately 24 hours and I think he has forgotten. Hasn't asked what I want or snuck anything into the house. I've answered the door to the postie for the past two weeks and taken in nothing that he hasn't opened and shown me.

So as not to dripfeed, it's his mum's birthday the day after, it's a big one, so he's been organising a party for that (not that I think it's a good excuse to forget mine).

Do I remind him? Or not?

He remembered. Read the thread.

Happy birthday OP!

My husband did my birthday shopping the night before my birthday. He hit all the top shops at 8.30pm after putting the kids to sleep.. and when I say top shops I am talking Asda, Tesco.. I heard him sneak out through the garage…
I chuckled to myself when I was up first in the morning to let the dogs out and do a nappy change/feed for our baby when I saw the amount of tat he got me! He remembered last minute obviously and if he had forgotten altogether it wouldn’t have bothered me! on my actual birthday he did looks after the kids and the dog and made my day just a little easier so I could shower without having the kids in with me..or our older dog trying to get into the bath with me (we had her before kids and she still demands her 1:1 time) it meant more to me to have time to wash my hair, wax my under arms and clip my nails without the chatter to keep the kids occupied whilst I do all that..,he unpacked the dishwasher too. So he did try… my bar is low now days but prior to kids it would have been trips to the F1 or Grammy awards in the US etc. so the time to do the little things really meant alot. Maybe he has something like that in mind?
do remind him op, don’t set him up to fail. And don’t let it ruin your day..

@DoneWithThisShizzle

Happy Birthday!

Have you considered that you are far too rational and balanced to be on MN?

Many of the replies on this thread have shown just what bitter lives people live. It must be exhausting to deal with this sort of poison in their heads all the time!

You, on the other hand, have been gracious and funny in your responses to some of the madness posted here.

Hope you've had an amazing day and that your MIL does too.

Happy birthday! 🎂 Bit late to this thread but I married my 2nd husband on my birthday so I've made it as easy as I can for him 😃

I've been with my special person for just over a year and when I said my Brazilian friend had sent me the happy birthday song in Portuguese yesterday he said "whose birthday?" But this is only the second birthday that we've been together and he has ADHD and a terrible memory. Your DH has no such excuse. Also, happy birthday. 🎂

Hell likely remember at his mums do ... cos presumably its always been the day before hers! and they will be giving you cards etc? So I would remind him ..in any way other respondents have suggested. Tbf I would naturally remind my bloke 2 weeks before to save a lot of upset and shit!

He's already remembered.

I gave up rsaying anything years ago love haven’t had a Christmas card, present, birthday card, present, Valentine’s Day card present or Easter card or egg in years I just think fuck it I’ll buy my own & take it out of the account & tell him ever he brought me & watch his eyes begin to water, one day he will wise up 😂😂😂😂

I do not think your husband has forgotten. If he forgot before, this time just treat yourself. This day dress up as you fancy. Nicely, make up, even only lipstick, have a nice breakfast, do your nails, hairdresser, well.. everything you would do to make your day. Buy yourself some flowers, a gift. No cooking, houseold to the minimum. In the afternoon or evening going out : cinema, shopping. If he dares asking you why you are dresses so pretty, you can just tell him that you are going out and take some time for yourself since it is your birthday, and leave it to him. Have a great birthday! Bunches of flowers :)

RTFT

So if its unusual, what makes you think he has forgotten?

Remind him
In a simple way, make sure you get the birthday treat you want

Tricking a partner is setting you up for failure in your marriage

What's the point of that

RTFT.

He's known for this long his mums birthday is a day AFTER YOURS surely that's enough to remember its yours too?
Hope you get a lovely surprise....keep us posted!

OP has kept people posted by updating the thread

You can just filter by OPs posts if you can't be bothered don't want to trawl through all the comments.

Surely you are not expecting her to individually message everyone on MN? That's what updates are for.

Yes...and the funny thing is he didn't forget! After all the drama he got her a present, they are out for the day and going to dinner later. Not sure what the premeditated drama was lol .

Sorry about this as I am a man !!
I personally could not care about any of my family remembering my birthdays or presents.
It's no fun getting older.
Perhaps OP Is too materialistic !!!

I also share a birthday with Dolly Parton. Doesn’t help my husband but he’s knows my birthday is either the 18th or 19th 🤯🤯

He did not forget, he has given her breakfast in bed present and dinner plans...not sure why all the premeditated drama.

I k is how you feel as I go through this every valentines, Mother’s Day and birthday. It’s tedious and it makes you feel uncared for, unimportant and worthless. I’ve tried not to remind him but my daughters usually press him to do something. But it really isn’t about forgetting, it’s about respect. Men think because they’re often the breadwinners, they’ve got far more important things on their minds. I’ve got mine on Saturday and I’ve asked for 6 years for an eternity ring but I’ll never get it. Do t remind him. He’ll just say he knows then get some crappy gift last minute.

My fella always remembers just says you know what you want just go and get it, no good me getting you something you don’t want, so I do, and he pays! And he doesn’t get half what he’d like for his birthdays and never has! If you’re making me find my own presents I’m certainly not spending time finding yours too!
even though I do get what I want be that leather bags and diamond rings and him pjs 🤫

Happy Birthday @DoneWithThisShizzle sounds lovely!

Aw, thank you. I've had a great couple of days with the best people in my life 🥰

Happy Birthday! Oh crikey! In our early days my husband was a dreadful gift buyer. I got two furbies one year. I'm feeling your pain. I wonder what goes through their heads when shopping? 🤔

Oh, that's so sweet! Thank you 😊