To not remind my husband it's my birthday?

[DoneWithThisShizzle]

That's it exactly. It's my birthday in approximately 24 hours and I think he has forgotten. Hasn't asked what I want or snuck anything into the house. I've answered the door to the postie for the past two weeks and taken in nothing that he hasn't opened and shown me.

So as not to dripfeed, it's his mum's birthday the day after, it's a big one, so he's been organising a party for that (not that I think it's a good excuse to forget mine).

Do I remind him? Or not?

Happy Birthday OP. 🎂🍾Hope you have a lovely day.

Happy birthday OP! 🧁 x

Agree with this; unless he is a rubbish husband and there is more history than this.

Can l ask whether you’re OK? Not sure whether you’re bitter and unhappy about something and are projecting it onto OP or if you’re just another keyboard warrior being vile for no particular reason other than your own self satisfaction.

Happy Birthday!!!!

He’s not a rubbish husband - OP has been clear about that several times and says she never intended to make a fuss if he forgot. She just found it odd that he hadn’t mentioned anything and wasn’t sure whether to remind him, and possibly ruin a surprise he had planned, or stay quiet . The tone of her posts was light hearted and she was active in taking part, but still some posters tried their best to turn it into a kickfest by inventing an unhappy marriage and painting OP as trying to humiliate her husband and set a trap for him. Sometimes an OP is actually telling it like it is, and there is nothing more.

Happy Birthday OP!
I’d be so offended. I’d try to wait until 9pm, and say come on I’ve been waiting all day, the anticipation is killing me, you must’ve gone all out this year, what did you get me for my birthday?! And if I wait any longer for my birthday cake I’ll be sleep-eating!

Happy birthday @DoneWithThisShizzle !🎂

Dh and I are a bit like this. It makes for a much happier marriage.

Happy Birthday @DoneWithThisShizzle

Happy Birthday 🎂 🎂

Happy birthday! 🥳

We have a calendar hanging up in the kitchen…….each January I fill in all the birthdays for the forthcoming year, even our own. Works for us

Happy Birthday 🎂 🥳 Hope you have a lovely day, glad he remembered 🥳

Except that he remembered yesterday.

Happy Birthday OP birthday twin! (And I think I read a comment about a triplet, can’t find it now but happy birthday to you too!)

Christ alive leave the poor woman alone, he remembered anyway

I wouldn’t remind my husband about my birthday because
a) I would be embarrassed if he had remembered and by reminding I spoilt a surprise
b) I wouldn’t like the ‘Forced fun’ of reminding

with DH1 my birthday is the same day as his mums, so no forgetting possible
with DH2 I would see forgetting as a far bigger issue around his feelings for me. I wouldn’t sulk or be passive aggressive

However I share a birthday with Dolly Parton who DH2 loves

so if I did want to enact tragic birthday scorned victim I could loudly play ‘DIVORCE’ whilst blowing out the candle on my cupcake for one

Happy Birthday!

Happy Birthday @DoneWithThisShizzle I hope that you have a wonderful day, and that both you and your DH enjoy the lemon drizzle cake! 🩷 xxx

Had he completely forgotten or was he just not mentioning it?

I can’t believe he forgot it for the amount of time he decided to plan and was planning his mums birthday. How did it come about that you found out he had remembered?

Happy Birthday @DoneWithThisShizzle . I'm so glad he remembered! Have a lovely day 💐

So you didn’t find his surprise and feared he’d forgotten? Slightly over dramatic, no?

Happy birthday! Have a lovely day.

Does it matter ? There’s nothing in OP’s update to suggest that he had forgotten, he just hadn’t mentioned it until yesterday. OP says they had both been busy planning MiL’s big birthday.

But he didn’t .. you got yourself concerned 😉
Have a great birthday 🍰