Dm wants me to forgo car seats. Wwyd?

[Carseatdrama]

So we are going on holiday this week. Df has offered to drive us the ten miles to the airport which was gratefully received. It's about 10 miles, on motorway and national roads. Dc are 6 and 7 so have car seats.

Dm wants to wave us off at the airport and has just had a massive go at me for insisting on using car seats resulting in her hanging up when I didn't change my mind. Me and dc could fit in the back with no car seats but not with. She thinks im being ridiculous for insisting on putting them in them and therefore ruining her idea of being able to wave them off. She could say bye to them at my house before we go too.

Df is a taxi driver not to dripfeed so can get away with this as people would presume its a fare paying job so normal laws don't apply.

My take is that it's an unnecessary risk and I'm not comfortable with it. Df offered to drop her off at the airport before coming back to pick us up but she didn't want to sit in greggs for an hour.

Yabu - it's not a big deal, just ditch the car seats
Yanbu - safety first!

Aren't you taking their car seats with you? We've always travelled with ours.

If you're flying off and not using them or relying on crappy hire car seats then I can see her point.

Plenty of people seem happy to forgo car seats on holiday when the risk in 1 week could be the same as for many months or even years in the UK.

Just get public transport and childcare. I really don't understand all this enmeshed behaviour; if you simply get on with your own life then you don't need to panic about your mum behaving badly.

If only OP had mentioned in her post that they've already considered those two options and the mum said no

How many months are you going away for?
I would rather say my cheerios at home than a horrible space like an airport.

How awful of your mother. Honestly, if she created any more than she has done already, I would be tearing a strip off her, telling her in no uncertain terms what I thought of her selfish utter disregard for her grandchildren’s safety.

Your wet lettuce dad would get short shrift if he piped up in her support.

I don’t have to deal with the fallout, of course, but it sounds like she’s toxic anyway.

Stick to your guns, you’re doing the right thing.