Thinking is weird my friend wants my man to help her move out with driving her stuff and putting stuff in her new home?

[Tommelige]

Im very sure i will prob get lots of different opinions on this.
to begin with we been togheter for 3 years my partner knows her trough me and he only have meet her trough some parties we have been hosting. So they don’t have each other on socials either. Last party my friend was hinting that she will move out from her parents house soon and looking for someone to help her move out, felt like she was kinda hinting that to my partner since she was looking at him. But its not like people in her family don’t drive at all. I felt a bit weird why she wants my partner to help in this. Another friend told me that some girls are like that when u get a man, they also expect your man to help them and do things for them because ur their best friend.

What? Of course a man is asked because of his strength! It would be nice if the OP and ‘her man’ both offered to help a friend in need.

Such a nasty anti-Irish remark.

OP do you live in an Rn’B song? What’s with the “my man”? Are you really young? Is this your first boyfriend?

It’s common to ask a best friend and their male partner (presumably stronger, perhaps access to a bigger car or van) if they would be able to give up a couple of hours to help you move. My boyfriend has done that for a couple of my friends. Not given up hours or too much labour or anything but as he had a car and drove (and me and my friends didn’t), helped them move their stuff over from one house to the next.

It’s just a nice and normal thing to do for your friends isn’t it? If you don’t want to help a friend move then just politely say you and him have plans that day and can’t do it. It’s not abnormal to ask a friend and their partner for help once in a blue moon, especially if that person doesn’t own a car. It’s unlikely she’s after “your man”

I beg your pardon?

Slightly wandering off tangent here, but after 'Nan With A Van' & 'Nun With A Gun'
I think there's a market for:
'Dads Move Pads' when it comes to house moving
'Ma Valets Cars' for washing/cleaning cars,
'Bro Who Hoes' for a gardening business
'Sister Finds Your Mister' for a dating site

I think I may have too much time on my hands 😂

I think decorating party etiquette is to pre warn your guests not just invite them over and then expect them to get cracking! 😀

I think decorating party etiquette is to pre warn your guests not just invite them over and then expect them to get cracking! 😀

Agree, I’m Irish and not sure why someone would assume she’s Irish for bad spelling.We often pronounce th as t but we typically know how to spell these words.

YABU. I am single and have lots of friends in relationships / marriages. My friends offer up their ‘men’ to help in these situations as they know how hard it can be to do it on your own (and how expensive it can get) rather than post on Mumsnet behind my back.

Have you forgotten what it’s like to be single or are you just one of those people who doesn’t like helping friends out?

My partner help the woman next door move into the house further down the street if you trust him then what is the issue?

Not weird. People rely on networks all the time. Maybe he’s one of the few people she knows who could do it and is trying to capitalise on your friendship.

How old are you? If 20, just go with him…if 30, yeah…she should have grown up 😂😂
if she didn’t ask, you don’t have to say anything :)

1st instinct best instinct. she wants him. easier to take yours than find her own. don't leave him alone with her and tell him why. but if you tell him he may well like it and try her. its one of them things. I'd find a man with a van advert and shove ut under her nose

1st instinct best instinct. she wants him. easier to take yours than find her own. don't leave him alone with her and tell him why. but if you tell him he may well like it and try her. its one of them things. I'd find a man with a van advert and shove it under her nose

My married friends have often lent their partners to me, sometimes without asking the partners. Just women helping women, right?

Her dad could help, instead of asking a friend's man. If she's young, then her dad might be in his 40s.

She wants him because she vaguely hinted in the presence of the OP that she needed help with moving house, a perfectly normal thing for friends and their partners to engage in?
This is a really weird take.

Or he might be in his 60s. Or dead. Or disabled. Or abusive.

The OP state parents, therefore both mum and dad are still alive. If it were any of the other reasons you suggested, I would had thought the OP would had mentioned the dad being incapable for whatever reason. The OP state the friend's family can drive, therefore didn't need to hint to OP that her man can help her to move, when family can assist with this.

The friend is leaving home and is probably just taking her personal belongings without any furniture.

You’re just making that up. She may have furniture in her room, or stored in the garage, with which to furnish her new place. She may have lots of books which are heavy. She didn’t ask the bloke at all, and only mentioned it when OP was there. It’s totally normal to help people move.

I don’t think she would. She so fixated on t being odd to help your friends.

The OP mentioned nothing about furniture but stuff. The friend has family to help. It's not normal to ask for help. But it's normal to offer. The friend is just after her man. I don't think the OP actually mentioned that her man got a van. The friend should just hire a man with a van as they would be use to lifting heavy items if the friend got any.

The friend didn’t ask. She hinted - expecting OP to offer. I have no idea why you think this is a play for ‘her man’. It’s totally normal to ask your friends to help with things. Totally.