Thinking is weird my friend wants my man to help her move out with driving her stuff and putting stuff in her new home?

[Tommelige]

Im very sure i will prob get lots of different opinions on this.
to begin with we been togheter for 3 years my partner knows her trough me and he only have meet her trough some parties we have been hosting. So they don’t have each other on socials either. Last party my friend was hinting that she will move out from her parents house soon and looking for someone to help her move out, felt like she was kinda hinting that to my partner since she was looking at him. But its not like people in her family don’t drive at all. I felt a bit weird why she wants my partner to help in this. Another friend told me that some girls are like that when u get a man, they also expect your man to help them and do things for them because ur their best friend.

It’s normal for your friends to help you move, especially if you don’t have any family that can help.

Its also very common that the males help or are asked to help because they tend to be stronger.

If I am moving something then I will ask my brother and not sister.

In many circles it is very common for partners to help out with moving and DIY jobs.

I would recommend perhaps think it’s was a bit cheeky to ask but I wouldn’t think she was after my man.

You seem a bit immature tbh.

Just what exactly has Mumsnet become? <weeps>

What I think is weird, is that you cannot spell, are you drunk?

How rude! Irish people know how to spell (well, as much as anyone else).

You sound very young.
It's not weird to ask friend's partners to help if you are single. I don't think she means anything by it, but was hoping your partner would offer, and he probably should.

It is completely normal to ask friends but it depends. If she’s moving from her parents house, it would be more normal to ask her dad or brothers - if they were capable.

You are giving this too much head space.

She hasn't even asked. And you sound like an absolute nutter.

Exactly what I would have said. I have a friend who is single and will ask my husband to help out occasionally. I’m happy she feels she can ask and he doesn’t mind. How can that be ‘weird’?

OP's post is clearly an overreaction.

That being said, given that she uses guillemets rather than quotation marks and makes mistakes like "is" rather than "it is" (very typical of Romance language speakers), she is presumably ESL. All this sniggering about her spelling isn't a great look.

Young people mov8ng out of h9me or from shared accommodation dont have the quantity for that to be cost effective - or the money if they did. I’ve helped loads of people, and in 2019, in my 50s, I moved out of work accommodation and friends helped me. Totally normal.

What’s his sex life got to do with it?
Entitled? Of course not. Totally normal to sound out whether he (and the friend) might be available? Yes.

@Tommelige Maybe she's hinting that you could both help because you know about the moving out and yet you haven't offered. Maybe she is skint and cannot afford to pay for this service, or her family have told her that they can't or won't help?

Either way, it's normal to ask for assistance with this sort of thing. You repay the favour when you can and make the task better by providing pizza/favoured takeway and beer for your helpers. It's not weird or cheeky to ask, unless you have form for never reciprocating.

I’ll tell myself that then. I had a live in work flat as well as my main home when I was in my mid 50s. When I moved out of that I hired a van and two friends came to help.

Completely off topic but that was a horrible film.

Don't really remember the plot or much at all but the old nun rape scene... I know low budget films want to be 'edgy' but nope.

🤣🤣

😂

What the what now???

@KittytheHareI wonder if OP may have an Irish accent and is writing phonetically. “Would have” is consistent. As we all know exactly what OP means does it matter anyway?

If she's moving out of her parent's house, how much, realistically, has she actually got TO move?

@Vroomfondleswaistcoat When DD moved out two years ago she had LOADS of stuff. When the plan was originally mooted DH said if she hired a van we would help her move. But when we realised how much there was going to be we offered to pay for a removal firm instead.

It took TWO men with a (big) van.

A nan with a van definitely wouldn't have been much use. I can't see an old lady being much help getting a three seater settee up to a second floor flat.

Blimey. My daughter's entire HOUSE fits into one fairly normal sized van!

And I'm fine with moving sofas up stairs and stuff. As long as there's someone else at the other end, I'm not a weightlifter!

Jesus, we've always asked friends to help when we've moved and vice versa.

We will be moving soon, and I text my friend if we could borrow her husband for a few hours in return for a takeaway and beer. My husband has done the same for her in the past.

I think the several dozen boxes of books made it more of a challenge. And it even gave the removal men a slight struggle getting the sofa round the tight bend in the stairs!

Do you want to help your friend?

My partner often does
things for my family and my friends.
I don’t find it weird at all.

Do you think Irish people are illiterate?