Thinking is weird my friend wants my man to help her move out with driving her stuff and putting stuff in her new home?

[Tommelige]

Im very sure i will prob get lots of different opinions on this.
to begin with we been togheter for 3 years my partner knows her trough me and he only have meet her trough some parties we have been hosting. So they don’t have each other on socials either. Last party my friend was hinting that she will move out from her parents house soon and looking for someone to help her move out, felt like she was kinda hinting that to my partner since she was looking at him. But its not like people in her family don’t drive at all. I felt a bit weird why she wants my partner to help in this. Another friend told me that some girls are like that when u get a man, they also expect your man to help them and do things for them because ur their best friend.

It’s not weird, you’re her friend and you’ve been a couple for 3 years, it’s not like you were on a couple of OLD.

I think it’s more weird you’ve spoken about her behind her back IRL plus made a thread to canvas for opinions. Are you insecure about your relationship?

If would have been quite normal to offer to help her together, when she was speaking about it to you and DP.

Let’s look at this from a different perspective………someone is soon going to be moving home and mentioned this to friends, one of which has a ‘man’ who potentially could help. You take exception to what you see is a hint for ‘your man’ to help……….someone friend you are!
A true friend would be recruiting others to make this move easy and seamless ……… do grow up OP!

If she’d asked when he was on his own, maybe you’d be right to look a bit more into it. But she asked/hinted (unclear which) while you were both there, so she’s not trying to hide anything from you. Neither of you have to offer, but it would be completely normal if you did.

Perhaps she waited until the others had gone out to smoke because there’s someone there that she really did not want to accept help from - perhaps a man she feels uncomfortable around and she was worried that if she said it then, he’d offer and she’d feel like she had to accept. Or perhaps it was a loud and chatty group and she couldn’t get a word in. Who knows.

Either way, it’s not unusual for people to ask/hint that they’d like help moving.

It’s probably just because I’m getting old, but I don’t fancy the idea of anyone’s penis rummaging through my cutlery drawer!

May be in the market for a Nun with a Gun… otherwise Nan and her Van will be driving in to deal with the problem.

While I do think you are over reacting, I also think it would be odd for a man to be sent to help simply because he is a man. The OP is the friend, if help is needed it should be the OP who offers and gives the help.

Id feel awful if I were sent to help someone I hardly knew just because of my sex.

OP, just be a good friend to her and ask her when moving days is and that you picked up that hse may need help so you'd like to help.

How old are you? Beyond late 20s people really just need to pay for movers

Your ‘man’?
How old are you OP??

Of my friend said she was moving out and wanted help she wouldn’t need to hint - I’d offer.

you sound very insecure and possessive of your partner. I’d explore the reasons around that tbh.

Is that you Tweety Pie?

I agree with this

If @Tommelige is from Scotland (certainly the south/west where my husband’s family live) it is usually for a (male) OH to be referred to as ‘your man’ or ‘my man’ - it’s normal not to say, your OH, your partner, your husband etc but to refer to ‘your man’. Took me ages not to find that weird.

Yeah, same as the other OP’s I’m picturing from some of these recent posts.
Kind of like a call centre but for people writing bizarre MN posts.

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DH and I would have offered to help ‘my’ friend move houses if we knew she needed help. That’s what friends do. My friends will even ask us directly and won’t need to hint.

She's your best friend, do you want to help? Does your boyfriend want to help? Think I'd want to help a friend move. Is it just a few things she can put into a hired van or does she need a removals truck? Is her family helping too? Are you free the daye she moves? I'd want to know all the answers before making a decision. I'd try to help.my friend in some way. Even if I couldn't lift or drive the van, I'd help clean and grab pizzas. Remember your boyfriend might not last, but your friendship should.

Chill dud

My best friend was looking for a house to buy . I encouraged my builder husband to go with her on viewings to spot any faults . To cut a long story short they had an affair and he ended up leaving and buying a house with her !

My MIL who was Irish used to refer to my partner as your man. Weird 1950 vibe but she always said it. But I'm very very taken by nan with a van. Would they bring cake too?

I’m moving soon. The move will be carried out by my son-in-law of six years, and my daughter’s ex fiancé of five. We’re all grown ups.

There is no way I want to be called 'my woman'

@MooreMooreMoore 😂😂😂 that’s all folks

Careful or you'll be called a dud too

Not wierd. I live on my own and my best mates husband is always helping me with stuff. Putting blinds up, installing units or anything that needs a drill.

I don't hint though I just ask. And he's always happy to help

Oh I know! I haven’t heard it, I don’t think. Just ‘your man’.
Just to add to the confusion, it’s common to describe any woman as a wifey eg ‘go and ask that wifey what time it is…’ That would not be used to describe a wife!

Same!