Thinking is weird my friend wants my man to help her move out with driving her stuff and putting stuff in her new home?

[Tommelige]

Im very sure i will prob get lots of different opinions on this.
to begin with we been togheter for 3 years my partner knows her trough me and he only have meet her trough some parties we have been hosting. So they don’t have each other on socials either. Last party my friend was hinting that she will move out from her parents house soon and looking for someone to help her move out, felt like she was kinda hinting that to my partner since she was looking at him. But its not like people in her family don’t drive at all. I felt a bit weird why she wants my partner to help in this. Another friend told me that some girls are like that when u get a man, they also expect your man to help them and do things for them because ur their best friend.

If tey live currently at ome maybe her fater or moter or even family members like a broter or sister could elp

I think you're being ridiculous. You have jumped onto th3 bandwagon of 'he aint your man' but they are together! Its her man. No she doesnt own him, im sure op knows this , she was simply using words to explain it's her boyfriend, partner, what ever.

"Trough" is a thing that horses drink from.

What? Why? Because you deem it the proper way? If a person is moving a one bed flat, regardless of age, a couple of mates and a van will do it. Ridiculous post.

It's very clear that the problem the op has is that she feels this friend is somehow crossing a line by asking "her man", as in, the possessiveness is the issue. That's why it's relevant. Hard to jump.on a bandwagon of I think 4 replies before mine.

I mean sometimes its handy to have a man to help out with jobs like this... we have to admit men are often physically stronger than women and can help with the heavy lifting of furniture. I had male colleagues help me move house when I was on my own, I hope their wife's didn't think I had any bad intentions with "their man". For the record, some women helped too and I also had no had intentions with them either... I simply wanted help moving house, nothing more..

Return of the laugh emoji please MN.

I think the most logically explanation is men are typically stronger than women. Perhaps ask if she needs help to move.

I usually volunteer mine lol

But it is her man and yes she is feeling like this because shes unsure of her friends intentions, you've made a whole different line of enquiry because op wrote 'my man' He's her bf, so she called him my man.

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She didn't ask either of them; she mentioned she needed help whilst chatting to both of them. That was their cue to say they'd help her, or tell her why they couldn't help her. If she is really OP's best friend, you'd have to think that would be the normal response. Note that OP doesn't say what either of them said to her, neither her nor her "man". Would they just have sat there in silence after the remark? Of course not.

If she's moving out of her parent's house, how much, realistically, has she actually got TO move?

And I'm a grandma who is going to be spending her entire weekend helping two daughters to move house (separately). Apparently, my car is the biggest. Sigh.

I shall, however, be spending the whole of Monday on the sofa with the TV and a big bar of chocolate (supplied by the daughters, if they know what's good for them).

I haven't made up anything. The whole point of the op was her feeling territorial, about which I think she is beiñg crazy. The friend mentioned in front of them both that she'll need help moving. She didn't corner the guy and bat her eyelashes, feeling his bicep and complimenting his strength. If it wasn't territorial, why would she be objecting to this really normal interaction?

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She’s not entitled to your help, but she didn’t insist or demand anything from you tbf -there’s nothing weird about her hinting it. What’s the big deal?!

I have a friend whose close friend and neighbour regularly come round and asks her partner for help with things. He usually says no right enough 😆

I used to ask male and female friends to help move when I was a student /younger and had less money, but nowadays I prefer to hire man with a van type services as I don’t want anyone to put their back out! So yeah I wouldn’t ask anyone and didn’t for my last few moves.

Personally I’m not physically up to helping people move nowadays and feel people should use professional movers where possible, but if anyone out of the two of us HAS to help a friend move (eg if the removal men didn’t show up) yeah it would be my (male) partner 🤣

Yeah it’s really odd. I wonder if there’s a backstory with her partner being a flirt or a cheat?

Friends offer to help, dont wait to be asked.

I’ve had similar help from friends husbands/partners. No ulterior motive, I’ve just needed someone stronger than me. Obviously that doesn’t necessarily mean anything in relation to your friend, but it can be all above board as well.

If a man started a thread talking about his woman he would be torn to pieces.

People in her family may drive, but they may be less able to help.

I have spent the last 5 days helping my adult daughter move from here to her first flat (driving 2 hours each day, carrying stuff, cleaning, and painting). I am in my 60s with a dodgy hip and knees. Her flat is on the second floor, and it has been extremely hot.

I was glad to help, but I suspect she would have preferred the help of a fit young man (at least for the carrying of stuff up two flights of stairs) if one had been available!

I used to ask male and female friends to help move when I was a student /younger and had less money, but nowadays I prefer to hire man with a van type services as I don’t want anyone to put their back out! So yeah I wouldn’t ask anyone and didn’t for my last few moves.

I do agree with this. Last time I moved, I used savings to pay for a company to pack up and move everything. It took them seven hours, and they put my furniture in place for me. Best money I ever spent.

Well I’m single and my best friend and I are both barely 5 foot but her DH is well over 6 foot so guess who I’d be asking for help! Mind you, friend would probably come too and help with some unpacking and prettifying.
Incidentally, I do second the comment about getting removers to pack for larger moves though; My last move I did this and they sent one guy a couple of days before the actual move and he had everything bar the last-minute bits packed in about 4 hours which would have taken me days and worn me out and it only added a few hundred to the cost.

It’s perfectly normal for people to help each other move, and it’s not like you own your boyfriend or that she owns her family (or that they are compelled to be the ones who help her).

All this “my man” and “when you get a man” sounds insufferably smug.