Am I exaggerating?

[iamstillfuming]

Can you please tell me whether I am exaggerating and taken things too far in this situation, because I have been told by certain people that I must let it go.

My 10 year old son went out with my cousins boyfriend yesterday, he usually comes for him and takes him out for the day.

I got a phone call from the police to tell me that they had my son, and they were going to bring him home to me. I called my cousins boyfriend straight away, my instant thought was maybe something had happened to him, because why did I just receive a phone call from the police telling me that they had my child.

He didn't pick up, when the police arrived with my son they couldn't give me much detail on what had happened except they were called to a disturbance in a house and my son was found by them hiding in a wardrobe, he only spoken to them to give them my number.

My son isn't used to loud noise (he is very sensitive to noise) neither is he ever been exposed to any violence etc.

I asked my son what had happened, he told me that my cousins boyfriend had taken him to a house, people started shouting, arguing and fighting he got scared and hid in wardrobe, he thought that my cousins boyfriend would come and get him but he didn't and the police lady come and got him out.

I called my cousin once the police had left, she said that she'd try and get him on the phone then she'd call me back. I was told by her that something had gone on forgot about my child but he sent someone back to go and look for him.

All my cousin was concerned about is whether or not my son had said anything to the police i.e given them his name, then I got a phone call from him saying he is sorry about what happened and that he will come and take my son to go get a bike tomorrow, I hung up and called my cousin

I was very disrespectful to the both of then (with my words) I have had an argument with my cousin and then I called him and did the same to him.

My son is my only child, we have tried for years to conceive again but it just won't happen so we have accepted it. I can not even tell my husband about that has happened because I don't know what he will do to my cousins boyfriend.

I have had a few phone calls from family members and close friends, saying that I have taken things too far and that my cousin and I are too close for this to ruin our relationship.

I am also worried that social services might get involved, I have worked close with social services and they could put this down to neglect.

My son seems ok now, but I feel like I failed him yesterday, like I said above he is not used to things like this.

Sorry for my bad grammar or any mistakes, I didn't proof read before pressing send.

She also said that she has never left BF in sole charge of her son and yet just a few posts later says ‘there were plenty of times when I’d call to check on him and she’d say his fine he has gone out with her boyfriend.’ Contradiction and lies everywhere.

Could have put your son in serious danger??!!
He did put your son in serious danger!
Why are you still minimising this?
You need to give your head a wobble.

OP appears to be more concerned with every man and his dog being rude/ bad mannered/ disrespectful to one another than the fact that a dodgy fucker has been taking her son to even dodgier places! … and ended up leaving him there with him hiding in a fucking wardrobe!
This thread has been absolutely bonkers …. And frustrating beyond belief 🤯

It’s not lies it’s guilt to me.

My son is not a liar.

Who in his life has taught him to be honest then?

His parents lie to each other and themselves, his wider family are mixed up in crime, he is frequently out (according to you) of your sight and you have no idea what he is up to.

His entire family apparently have taught him not to trust or be honest with the police.
You think he's fine having been in a situation that caused him to hide and your relative to flee for his life.

How has he learned to be honest with anyone when he is surrounded by liars?

No but he could very well be scared ti tell the truth. You know…. Like most kids would be in this situation!
The fact you have not put two and two together yet is baffling. You’re not from London, this hasn’t happened and you’re full of bull sh I t.

No one’s saying he’s a liar.
But he’s 10 and likely doesn’t understand what’s happened.

Honestly OP please open a new thread so we can all give you advice that you don’t acknowledge or listen to , it’s really fun talking to a brick wall.

I didn’t say he was. The whole point of this is that if he’s scared he won’t tell you the whole truth - especially if he’s been threatened. You have no idea what happened in that house and you won’t be able to properly help your son process it until you do know. Your cousins’ boyfriend legged it and left your son in that house, and told you the reason was because his life was in danger. That should have been a waving red flag to you - especially when coupled with the fact that he offered to buy your son a bike, and ever since this incident both he and your cousin have met your enquiries about what happened with hostility and secrecy. That should be enough to tell you that something is badly wrong here.

No, sorry that doesn’t wash. Look back over your posts and see how many times you’ve contradicted yourself, changed your story and refused to acknowledge things that you’ve said and are in black and white for all to see. You said your BF offered to buy him a bike, and then a few posts later replied to one poster saying she’d made that up and it hadn’t happened, when you said it yourself. You also said several times that you’d never left this man in sole charge of your son, and then a few posts later said there were several occasions when you checked on him and your cousin told you her BF had taken him out alone. What is that if not left in sole charge ? The plain fact is that either you have no idea what’s going on and so can’t help your son properly process what scared him so much that he hid in a cupboard, or you know exactly what happened and don’t want to acknowledge it. Either way you’re not putting your son first and that’s the concern that most posters have here.

Is anyone else counting down the posts until this thread finally ends? 😅

I’ll help it along 🤣😆

I've been counting down since then 👇🏻

Isittimeformynapyet · 14/08/2025 22:52
😂
I think OP has bet someone that she can keep this thread going for 40 pages. Or someone's bet her that she can't.

Let us hope and pray that the OP doesn’t start a new thread. 🙏

The OP said she told her husband about their son hiding and being brought home by the police. It's her visit to the cousin's house where cousin's partner threatened her that she hasn't told her husband about.

Does Aunty get the final post?? 😃

How about now?

Bugger. Still running. 😂

It is...

You have to hope it's an exaggerated thread. The reality for that poor boy otherwise is quite depressing.

I'm sure OP meant "overreacting". I don't know if the actual author didn't know the best word, or her lead character.

How dare you, I want the last post - I’ve invested so much energy, rage n confusion in this thread for multiple days 😂

Oh I went to work, and thought I would come home to this thread having finished...

Nope. Not allowing that!

Yay! Aunty won! 😃