To feel inconvenienced by a tragic accident?

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I'm currently in Italy (staying in Rome) for three nights. It's my first foreign break in a warm country and I've been so excited and saved up especially.

We booked an excursion for today consisting of a trip to Sorrento where we'd spend time exploring, visiting shops and enjoying local food - and then on to Pompeii on the route back.

We've spent the whole morning/day so far stuck in traffic on the motor way. We are so behind schedule we can now no longer go to Sorrento first because Pompeii closes at 5.30 and there won't be time. A sit down restaurant meal will now be replaced by a takeaway which will be eaten on the coach.

We've just been told the cause of the traffic jam and it's because somebody has died in a collision on the motorway.

Instead of feeling saddened about the loss of life I just feel inconvenienced and pissed off that the highlight of my trip has been ruined.

Does this make me a shitty person? It just occurred that it might 😳

This post wasn’t to you. And @LemonCheesecake2025 seems to enjoy being the one who keeps the thread going, so maybe have a word with her.

Its not kind to start a thread about someone dying ruining your day. We can go on and on till the thread is full.

I dont actually know what OP wanted from the thread to begin with.

Im out too. I'll let you have the last post @nomas

I was the one who went looking for OP's post quoting what the other poster had said.
Out of all the comments, she chose that one to highlight and laugh at.
Shows just what kind of person she is.

@LemonCheesecake2025 looked for it and quoted it as well.

Out of all the posts you’ve ignored the ones calling OP a tosser and fixated on one OP didn’t even write herself.

That shows who you are.

It’s an anonymous forum, which you and others seem to think you control. You don’t.

I’ve seen far more vitriol thrown at the OP than I’ve seen the OP throw at others!

Then maybe she'll think twice next time before starting such a thread.

I'm off to work now.

Goodbye.

What on earth was even said in these deleted posts that everyone keeps going on about.

They’ve been deleted now, is there any point rehashing that they existed, repeatedly?

Agreed. The Be Kind brigade always show their true colours in the end, which are not kind.

Yep. Apparently it’s ok because the OP deserves it 😳

The 'get up' post has been misrepresented. The poster who made that comment was highlighting how dramatic people were being in relation to the op. I.e. the way some people were reacting you'd think op had done something shockingly crass. The post is still up and I fail to see that it's especially offensive.

Some self reflection is in order from the people hounding other people for having wrong thoughts.

And those three posters have not improved the world one bit with their virtuous crusade.

Because she had the temerity to say she doesn't have what some people are insisting are the only appropriate responses. I think we've even had 'do better' on here.

Not feeling upset that a stranger has died? Not going to affect anyone in any way whatsoever. Sharing that thought with the bereaved? The stuff psychopaths are made of. Whinging to emergency services that your journey is delayed (as I've heard of people doing)? Contemptible. Talking about it on an online forum? Failing to see what harm op has caused anyone.

I was not unkind. This is the last thing I will say on the matter. I know how it feels to lose a very close sibling in a car accident at 18 years old through no fault of his own. I saw how it affected my parents. How it broke them.

So yes, I thought OP's post was odd. I don't understand what she wanted to get from the thread. I agree I can't police threads on here. As for a pile on, you were just as bad not letting other posters get their points across and making things up.

OP, had an attitude too.

I don't care what you think of me either.

You said OP was a shitty person and said you hoped the rest of her holiday was shit.
TBF, others were far nastier than you I guess. Although that’s a low bar.

No, you are not a shitty person. The shitty people are those who making judgements of you on this thread! It is ok to feel annoyed and have sympathy at the same time. This does not make you a bad person.

This is the reason she said she hoped the rest of her holiday was shit and if you look back there were a few others who thought her tone was unacceptable in the context of my post.
I really don't care what you're saying about me on here, you're like a dog with a bloody bone.
The OP cares about no one but herself and I'm not a fan of narcissistic, self centered people. Thats why I call them out.
To not even feel a tiny bit of fleeting sadness at someone's death, albeit a stranger, just inconvenience, isn't normal.
But you continue giving the OP all the validation she wants.

But she didn't have sympathy! She was just annoyed at the inconvenience.

And as me and Lemoncheesecake have first hand experience of losing someone in similar circumstances we're allowed to find this thread crass.
But you continue to call us virtue signallers 🤔

She was right, I agree with her. I can’t understand why you’re putting yourself through it when you could just not read the thread.

And good for you - out here doing the lord’s work calling out what YOU deem as narcissistic or self centred. And is the world all the better for your crusade

You know what? If someone had said what I did on a thread that I'd posted I would at least say, I'm sorry to hear that', not just 'well leave the thread then', it's not about sympathy, it's about common decency, something the OP clearly lacks, I dont go looking for sympathy and I dont want sympathy.
While she was sitting 'inconvenienced' on her coach stuck in traffic someone else was going to be getting a knock on the door that would change their lives forever.
You are coming across in exactly the same way the OP was coming across, you're proving my point with every post.
But you continue to polish her ego.
When something tragic happens to some people they become more empathetic because they know the circumstances and how family members are affected.
Now I'm working in 36 degree temperatures on a busy A&E ward tonight, I have used my break to reply to you.
I'm having nothing more to do with this thread.
Goodbye.

Like I said I don't care what you think of me. You've not come across well either.

I stand by what I originally thought. It was a stupid thread for attention. What on earth did she want everyone to say?

She didn't have sympathy. That was the point of the thread.