To feel inconvenienced by a tragic accident?

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I'm currently in Italy (staying in Rome) for three nights. It's my first foreign break in a warm country and I've been so excited and saved up especially.

We booked an excursion for today consisting of a trip to Sorrento where we'd spend time exploring, visiting shops and enjoying local food - and then on to Pompeii on the route back.

We've spent the whole morning/day so far stuck in traffic on the motor way. We are so behind schedule we can now no longer go to Sorrento first because Pompeii closes at 5.30 and there won't be time. A sit down restaurant meal will now be replaced by a takeaway which will be eaten on the coach.

We've just been told the cause of the traffic jam and it's because somebody has died in a collision on the motorway.

Instead of feeling saddened about the loss of life I just feel inconvenienced and pissed off that the highlight of my trip has been ruined.

Does this make me a shitty person? It just occurred that it might 😳

Please can you show me an example of virtue signalling on this thread?

No you really don’t.

You and others have attacked OP because she didn’t feel or act how YOU would in that situation. Thats virtue signalling. It’s very “BE KIND OR ILL BURN YOUR FUCKING HOUSE DOWN” and not understanding the irony. If you can feel empathy for a complete stranger, why can’t you feel it for the OP?

Have your moment, feel upset, give a thought out if you like but don’t attack someone else because they didn’t react how YOU would in that situation.

Yes…yes it does! I’m actually shocked at your callousness.

Sorrento will always be there, whilst there is a family who will be receiving news of the death of someone they loved!

Get a hold of yourself ffs, and find your humanity!

I have, multiple times and just now in my most recent post

I haven't threatened anything. I said I disagreed and it wasn't a very nice thread to make. OP even changed her name for this.

This is ALL over this thread

You are making things up.

Where the hell did I say you had
Youre clearly really struggling with this concept. I can’t help you further.

I find that very hard to believe because that hasn’t held you back in anyway, there’s no excuses for how you’ve lead this thread and been nasty to people who disagree with you.And conveniently denying what was said in the deleted posts.

No, that isn't virtue signalling at all. That's just people having morals and empathy.
OP name changed for this thread and posted it in AIBU because she knew she'd get the reaction she did.
I personally think she's enjoyed every minute of it.

No it's not.

Are you OK?

You are really acting strange now.

How are you not getting this?

You can have morals and empathy without having to publicly demonstrate it to show everyone else what a good person you are!

Where is your empathy for the OP? People are claiming she’s loved every minute of, you’re making her out to be awful - she’s even told us she has ADHD and someone has just called her a liar.

Why is your empathy selective? Why do you think it’s ok to attack someone else because you don’t think they’re kind enough and can you not see the irony there?

You’re so patronising, no one is asking for your help🙄

Feeling empathy is for the other person
Gobbing off about how empathetic you are is for you.

I've asked them not to help but here they are repeating themselves.

Why should I have empathy for OP?
She didn't show me any when I said her thread had triggered me.
And if she's such a good person why constantly namechange to start different threads?
Sounds like she's a bit of a wind up merchant to me.

I dont think you do need to have empathy for the OP. At all. Youre not required to. Just like she’s not required to have empathy for you or any other complete stranger either.
I was pointing out the hypocrisy.

Im gonna keep quiet on people talking about threads that trigger them because you won’t like my response.

Even the 'damn, what a wake up call', wasn't genuine in my opinion.

I know someone who is ND but they aren’t an arsehole so that is no excuse for you being one. You come across as more and more unpleasant with every post.

You're not a nice person, are you? 😂

Oh, and also the constant laughing emojis.
Some of you are easily taken in.

Fair enough. Thats your opinion.

In my opinion, all the posts attacking her and talking about what wonderful people they are because they would feel devastated by it weren’t genuine.

Who's claimed to be wonderful?

Many of weren't attacking her, just saying it was a weird subject to make a thread about. What was she hoping to gain from it?