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Can my assets be used in new partners divorce?

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littlebitpanicky · 09/08/2025 12:17

I have been seeing a man for almost a year now and he has recently moved in with me, I know it’s fast but he’s been separated a while, she left him before I met him and he was living separately in rented accommodation.

He is going to be getting divorced soon and I’m wondering if because he’s living with me in my house, will my house and assets be taken into consideration when the divorce goes through?
It’s early days in the relationship and I don’t want him to lose everything because of me.
He is still paying a mortgage for the family home where his ex and children are living but was hoping to sell the home and use his half the money along with my home to put towards a bigger house.
I don’t have any children and own mine outright.
Has he shot himself in the foot by moving in with me?

OP posts:
PicaK · 09/08/2025 12:18

Yes he has.

Original poster
littlebitpanicky · 09/08/2025 12:19

PicaK · 09/08/2025 12:18

Yes he has.

I see

OP posts:
PicaK · 09/08/2025 12:19

He needs to rethink his getting 50% of the marital assets and more what's fair for the children

ComtesseDeSpair · 09/08/2025 12:20

Your assets won’t be a consideration, from a legal standpoint he’s just a boyfriend and not financially connected to you. But the fact that his housing needs have been met by moving in with you may well be taken into account when considering the equity share in the house sale.

ETA: Half the marital assets is just a starting point in pretty much any divorce settlement. Unless he and his ex agree something amicably between themselves, the split will ultimately be decided based on their financial positions, and who is the main carer for the children and has to house them.

Boomer55 · 09/08/2025 12:20

He needs to see a solicitor.

Snorlaxo · 09/08/2025 12:21

You won’t be financially penalised but he should have waited to move in with you after the financial stuff was sorted.

JifNtGif · 09/08/2025 12:22

Oh dear. He's going to be f*** over in court

CreteBound · 09/08/2025 12:24

How is he having proper contact with his kids if he’s living in your house? He can’t be doing 50/50?

Sounds like his ex will need a greater share of assets as main parents

CreteBound · 09/08/2025 12:24

Is he paying you rent OP or freeloading?

Mustbethat · 09/08/2025 12:26

ComtesseDeSpair · 09/08/2025 12:20

Your assets won’t be a consideration, from a legal standpoint he’s just a boyfriend and not financially connected to you. But the fact that his housing needs have been met by moving in with you may well be taken into account when considering the equity share in the house sale.

ETA: Half the marital assets is just a starting point in pretty much any divorce settlement. Unless he and his ex agree something amicably between themselves, the split will ultimately be decided based on their financial positions, and who is the main carer for the children and has to house them.

Edited

This.

dh was living with his parents when his divorce went through (before we met). Because he was housed and she couldn’t afford to buy him out, she got the house signed over to her. They couldn’t do a “sell when the kids are 21” deal as she had the OM living there with her so dh had to be taken off the deeds/mortgage.

your assets are irrelevant. But they will look at affordability in the settlement and if he is housed they won’t force his ex to sell or move so she may get a significantly higher share.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 09/08/2025 12:29

It’s not about 50:50, it’s about meeting the needs of the parties, starting with the children and prioritising housing needs.

Im not sure if your assets are taken into account (I wouldn’t think they would be as you aren’t married but you’ll have to check with a family solicitor). But if he isn’t or can’t be doing 50:50 with his kids, their right to be housed adequately with their Mum will come first.

Iwanttoliveonamountain · 09/08/2025 12:35

He wont get half the money. Why would he think that?

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 09/08/2025 12:40

I bet he's paid all of or the majority of the mortgage all these years but now won't even get 50%

starofsolomon · 09/08/2025 12:42

It seems crazy to move in with you. How can he be having his kids 50-50 in your house? He needs to set up his own home for his own children. He should move out

Fitzcarraldo353 · 09/08/2025 12:44

Aside from anything else make sure you protect horse. He's looking to use his 'half' of his equity plus your house to buy somewhere better? Make sure you protect what you put into the new house!

Painrelief · 09/08/2025 12:49

This is why many people keep new relationships on the side until after the divorce. Otherwise it can get very messy and will cost him in the long run .

Original poster
littlebitpanicky · 09/08/2025 12:57

He doesn’t have his kids 50/50 he works full time and she works just weekends so he has them then which is what they’ve always done.
He isn’t freeloading he’s contributing fairly.

OP posts:
notimeforregrets · 09/08/2025 12:58

PicaK · 09/08/2025 12:19

He needs to rethink his getting 50% of the marital assets and more what's fair for the children

Children will grow up and move out and the house will.still belong to the ex wife.

starofsolomon · 09/08/2025 13:09

Where does he have his children?

starofsolomon · 09/08/2025 13:09

The best thing is for him to move out and set up a home where he can have his children

Flopsythebunny · 09/08/2025 13:10

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 09/08/2025 12:40

I bet he's paid all of or the majority of the mortgage all these years but now won't even get 50%

What makes you think that? The majority of married mothers work

Campingisnexttogodliness · 09/08/2025 13:11

No man as in love as one who needs a new address..
Imo. Tell him it's best to stay living separately until he's divorced..

Squishymallows · 09/08/2025 13:13

He may be seen as having his housing needs met

LemonCheesecake2025 · 09/08/2025 13:15

My friend isn't moving in with his new partner till he is divorced. Not that she has assets just that his living situation would look sorted. No children involved.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 09/08/2025 13:31

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 09/08/2025 12:40

I bet he's paid all of or the majority of the mortgage all these years but now won't even get 50%

If that was the case, what do you imagine she was doing?

Possibly looking after their joint children to enable him to work!

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