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Can my assets be used in new partners divorce?

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littlebitpanicky · 09/08/2025 12:17

I have been seeing a man for almost a year now and he has recently moved in with me, I know it’s fast but he’s been separated a while, she left him before I met him and he was living separately in rented accommodation.

He is going to be getting divorced soon and I’m wondering if because he’s living with me in my house, will my house and assets be taken into consideration when the divorce goes through?
It’s early days in the relationship and I don’t want him to lose everything because of me.
He is still paying a mortgage for the family home where his ex and children are living but was hoping to sell the home and use his half the money along with my home to put towards a bigger house.
I don’t have any children and own mine outright.
Has he shot himself in the foot by moving in with me?

OP posts:
RedPony1 · 11/08/2025 12:18

Cosyblankets · 11/08/2025 12:16

Were those friends in FT employment?

No, both part time. one went on to have enough money to buy a 2 bed, the other now rents.Both married less than 8 years and no high earning ex H's, or high value assets like pension pots - all too young to have too much in there yet!

Sgreenpy · 14/03/2026 14:03

The unfortunate reality when people separate/divorce is that the joint income whatever that was (no matter who earned what) now has to cover two households and its almost impossible to keep the same lifestyle for those two homes with the same money.

Imho the starting point of 50/50 is fair and then has to be adjusted to balance some things out - particularly if children are under 18.

In this case it would seem fair for both partners to get a 50% share of the equity and then for the husband to pay a good amount of child maintenance and possibly an alimony payment so his ex wife.

OP - your house is your house and if you do buy together in future do protect your share of the asset.

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